I recently reunited with an ex. We broke up a year ago for various reasons, however one reason I never told him about was that I am more than a little put-off by his grudge against his ex-wife and his kids are rude. He always made excuses for them and after a while I just gave up talking about it. Now that we are sort of coming back into each others world I realize I need to address this issue but I am not sure yet where this is going. Also as far as his grudge, I just hate the way he badmouths his ex. The way I see it he must not be over her. I kept trying to convince myself that it was just because she controls when he sees his kids and she cheated on him and embarassed him but I kinda think maybe his heart is still broken. I don't know what to do. Should I wait to see if he and I are drifting toward a relationship before I bring it up? Or should I bring it up now and how do I say it? I don't want to waste my time or his if the case is that he needs to go nurse his wounds and I also do not want to hurt his feelings. How do you talk about people's kids?
2007-01-08 02:18:23 · 2 answers · asked by h8ucrazee 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just tell him that u dislike the was he talked about his ex that even though she is is ex they still have to have to communicate and be atleast somewhat of friends for the kids sake and as far as the kids tell him they are terrific but you think that they need more guidence in their manners and give him some ideas on how to address it the part of being a parent is bringing up children to be upstanding adults ... its better to get this over with in the beginning istead of draggin it out. he will understand and plus if he wants to be with you and it does it serious you will be a step mother to these children and be helping to raise them
2007-01-08 02:26:12 · answer #1 · answered by lovable110 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HONESTLY!
Say what ya mean, mean what ya say, but.....dont say it mean.
2007-01-08 10:23:26 · answer #2 · answered by Donna S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋