we went and saw a movie and then went out to eat and at the end we made out for a while...after we left i sent her a text tellin her that i thought it was pretty amazing and she replied that it was perfect...sooooo i'm all set and good right? but then when i got home i was talkin to her on aim and now i'm affraid i may have said too much too fast- i said "so i think i kind've like u ;)" and she said the same back, but then later at night i sent her a text tellin her that i was just sick of sluts and that she seemed like the only non slutty person around here and that i'm really attracted to her for it...also i told her that her kiss was probly the best i've ever had. did i push it too far for the first day? do i need to slow it down or am i fine cuz she hasn't responded to the last 3 texts i've sent
2007-01-08 02:15:59 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
"I was just sick of sluts and that she seemed like the only non slutty person around here"
you sent this. To her. By SMS. Dude, you might want to look up 'tact' in a dictionary sometime.
Also, yes, you ARE moving too fast and in fact you've probably already freaked her out.
2007-01-08 02:18:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay you're fine you just need a Guy to Girl Translation Chart! For example:
Guy Talk (what you said):
I'm Sick of Sluts!
How you should say it to the Girl :
You're really cool, and pretty, and the best part is Classy.
Guy Talk (what you said):
So I think I kind of Like You! (this one's not bad just needs some sprucing up)
How you should say it to the Girl :
We have fun together, I like the way I am with you. And I want more...
Guy Talk (what you said):
I took out a girl last night that I've been working on for a while...
How you should say it to the Girl :
Finally convinced her I was worth it.
You see, once you've been with a woman for a long time you'll realize that she's the Queen putting up with you. So just relax and enojy. You sound pretty young so you definately shouldn't make any major commitments yet.
How you should say it to the Girl :
You know I'm not looking for anything too serious, but I want to have fun and hang out with you. I'll still be free to do what I want and you can still be free to do what you want. But when we hang out let's be together. And then we'll se where it goes from there....
You see, that way you leave yourself a window to escape or commit. Either direction you want to go. It's the best way to start a relationship. That way neither one of you feels trapped and you can grow together at your own pace. That's my suggestion and I have the most beautiful woman inside and out that I have ever met.
2007-01-08 10:31:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you need to slow down and not rush into anything. Telling her that she was the only non-slut person around, isn't a compliment, and I doubt she was "happy" to hear that. Girls think so different then guys, it's best to keep your personal thoughts to yourself until you really get to know her and her personality. Moving too fast just pushes girls away in the beginning. Slow down and don't send anymore texts until she does.
2007-01-08 10:19:56 · answer #3 · answered by sarabmw 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah u said a little bit too much. what u can do is apologize and be a little easy about the slutty word. call her up and tell her u were just amazed by her that why u couldn't keep ur mouth shut and sorry if u offended her in anything of the things u had said to her.
2007-01-08 10:23:40 · answer #4 · answered by ivelisse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, in my opinion you are moving a little too fast.
And NEVER put down women in that way you just did. It is very onesided and unintelligent. She is probably thinking that you might categorize her with the rest of the female population if you get upset with her.
Other than that you are fine. Good luck!
2007-01-08 10:19:06 · answer #5 · answered by Great Dane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa! hold your horses there young one!! Time to take a step back and rest a while before the the testes kick up again. Just relax everything will work in time.
2007-01-08 10:19:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe the slut bit was a tad much, but i would relax on the texts, give it a day or two and see if she gets in touch with you, then you can take it from there, if she doesn't call maybe she is busy or just not interested anymore
2007-01-08 10:20:37 · answer #7 · answered by Stuck in the middle of nowhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slow down, give her time to breath and take it all in. Sounds like she is a little overwhelmed! Relax, let her make the next move!
2007-01-08 10:19:32 · answer #8 · answered by irlefw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slow it down Romeo you are putting to much pressure on her too fast ..Older and more experienced women would prob bally like that.. but not the younger ones.
2007-01-08 10:22:20 · answer #9 · answered by Robert B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RELAX buddy! Dont seem over eager, which is what you are doing!
and under no circumstance should you have even equated her with sluts or being non slutty...that was just silly of you
2007-01-08 10:19:02 · answer #10 · answered by adonnis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋