Ok my ex and i have known each another for a long time since 8th grade. We are now both 20 and 21. I meet him in 8th grade he asked me out to homecoming back in 11th. He wanted to be more then friends back in 11th and i said i wasnt ready for a bf. So he pushed me away. 12th grade graduation nite we said our goodbyes never thinking that i would ever see him again. A year after graduation he came up to me at the mall and asked me to hangout that night and i did. That nite on were togather like everyday as bf and gf. 3 months after dating he decides he doesnt what a gf or a relationship. We broke up. We stopped talking for about 2 wks i see him and again and everything is great. We have hangout twice so far. That last we hangout was last sat. We hangout all day. I asked him if he wanted to do friends with benefits cuz i think it be best for the two of us cuz neither one of cuz wants a relationship and we both arent messing with diff people or looking for anyone new. Good or bad?
2007-01-08 02:13:36 · 9 answers · asked by preppy_gurl101010 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its not a bad idea...you just have to be careful because you will catch more feelings and he isnt going to want anything more...then you will endup being hurt everytime you sleep together because you know you like him so you dont want anything to change because you are going to be afraid of losing him.
Also Vice-Versa in his part, he could be the one that gets hurt.
Or it might just bring you both closer together and end up with a good relationship out of it!
2007-01-08 02:20:13 · answer #1 · answered by Tink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you said you werent ready for a boyfriend in the 11th grade, then you pushed him away. But it's good to spend time with him and see where it goes. Don't be so quick to label a relationship, whether it's friends with benefits or more. You'll find that later on, if you're ready for more, it will just happen. Don't rush things.
2007-01-08 10:17:30 · answer #2 · answered by iamsoboredandtired 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends if you both can handle being friends with benefits and not grow more feelings for each other, because one day that will end and you might meet someone else and that relationship will have to stop, how would he take it? or if the role was reverse how would you take it? Sometimes it's better to just remain friends because things like that can ruin a friendship in the long run.
2007-01-08 10:17:02 · answer #3 · answered by sarabmw 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Excellent Idea, Just make sure he can or both of you can handel the other girls and boys... You sound mature enough to do this, but is he? Now be careful and use protection. Dang, that sounded like parent garb. Anyway this could get you both by until you have reached the time when you are ready for more. If more people were like you relationships would last longer. Just remember to be his friend, be honest and stifel that great big bug called jealousey.. Good Luck
2007-01-08 10:16:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey i think u might have given him the answer any man would want to have, all the perks of being in a realationship, but without none of the hassle. By doing this dont you think maybe one of you might get a bit attached and possibly be led on, it could all end in heartbreak. Again looking at it another way its convienant!
In my opioion, i would rather be plan straight forward friends, i dont thing its ever good to mess with anything in between unless its leading somewhere, could ruin ya friend ship! what ever you decide, good luck! hope all works out xx
2007-01-08 10:22:08 · answer #5 · answered by TP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever hear of the newspaper columnist "Dear Abby" ?
2007-01-08 10:16:31 · answer #6 · answered by Fergy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just leave it alone and move on.
2007-01-08 10:18:30 · answer #7 · answered by Jude M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BAD. Dont do it. Why torture yourself? let it alone and move on.
2007-01-08 10:15:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it 's very complecated ...i cant tell u
2007-01-08 10:32:03 · answer #9 · answered by k_quraim 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋