If a woman becomes pregnant, and decides to have the baby, she can sue the father for child support but If a woman becomes pregnant, and has an abortion, the father has no sayings in the matter.
So, shouldn't a man be able to say, I do or do not want this child?
If he doesnt want the child to begin with, when it is just a fetus, should he be liable later for child support?
How is it fair that the woman has all the choices, and the man only gets to take what is given to him?
2007-01-08 02:12:04 · 22 answers · asked by Non-Christians will burn in Hell 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
kja63: You get a way out of what might be a mistake... why shouldn't the guy?
2007-01-08 02:16:15 · update #1
You people really have a tough time comprehending the question don't you?
Where are the libs that always pounce on the abortion questions???
2007-01-08 02:26:47 · update #2
If the man does not want a child he should not have sex???
Then by your reasoning if a woman does not want a child she should not have sex.
2007-01-08 02:28:10 · update #3
I think the guy should be able to forgo child support if he doesn't want it.
However, if you haven't yet realized that the law is biased against middle-class males, the realization will hit you like a ton of bricks.
Why are so many people not understanding the question?
If a woman doesn't want a child, she can have an abortion WITHOUT THE CONSENT OF THE FATHER.
If the man doesn't want the child, why can't he make a decision along the same lines? Obviously he can't force the mother to have an abortion, but if he doesn't want it, he should be able to disavow any responsibility for it.
If he doesn't want it, why should he have to pay for it?
2007-01-08 02:38:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
You are right. Men have had an unfair shake in our system. It is time our courts took the decisions and rights of a Father into consideration. On the other hand, no one really has the right to end the life of a fetus. Just because something is legal does not make it right. Being wanted is relative. You may not want the child when you hear that the mother is pregnant, but once you see, hold, and spend time with that child your feelings may change. However, since abortion is legal, I would be in favor of a man signing a waiver saying that he does not want this child, giving up all rights and responsibilities. Just remember, once you give up a right like that it would be almost impossible to win those rights back if at some point your feelings on the matter changed. Remember, a fetus would become a human being just like you and me if allowed to live.
2007-01-08 02:26:32 · answer #2 · answered by Christine5 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I am pro choice for men. I am all for men saying no and keeping their pants pulled up. When a man can give birth to a child than he will be given the right to either carry the baby to term and give birth or have that baby ripped from his body as in abortion. As far as child support well if you have made a joint agreement and sex is a joint agreement than pay you must. After all why should he be able to just go around having sex with any woman he desires and have no responsibility for what he produces from the act. What if instead of a child he produces a disease should he be absolved from that too?
2007-01-08 02:33:04 · answer #3 · answered by jane d 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
In theory, you have a valid point. However, if you are a man and do not want any children there is always the options of abstinence or condoms or permanent sterilization to eliminate unwanted pregnancy just as there are many options for women. It is not just the woman's responsibility to take care of birth control. In today's world there is no excuse for any unwanted pregnancy bar medical failure of birth control. There is an abundance of information and methods out there and when all else fails keep your pants on!
As far as abortion, as men cannot get pregnant or have a child that decision is the Woman's alone. Sorry you get no say in that one until you can carry a baby to term etc.
If you do not want a child there are legal options that you should investigate prior to the birth. Like a document absolving you of all personal and financial responsibility for the unwanted child.
Not everything in this world can be fair. Life is like that. Any mans best option for unwanted pregnancy is to take care of any birth control issues himself and discuss it with your partner completely before hand. Remember the P's Prior Planning Prevents Piss-Poor Performance!!
2007-01-08 02:28:05 · answer #4 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing fair about life. It's not fair, but that's life. Men don't get to choose what to do to a woman's body.
You can choose to have a vasectomy (I did), but I doubt you'd like it if your wife chose that for you.
I don't think I'm a hypocrite, no. Of course the choices aren't the same, men and women are not the same.
If you knock a girl up, you are stuck with whatever she decides, best you can do is offer to pay for the abortion and hope she gets it.
2007-01-08 02:43:58 · answer #5 · answered by Captain Jack 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you're overlooking the fact that for a very long time women had absolutely no choice about ANYTHING that happened to them. And I'm not just talking about pregnancy. We had no rights to work, to own land, to vote, to decide who we married...if a woman two centuries ago was an only child and her father died and she wasn't married yet, tough sh*t, she did not get his money or his land, she got shafted. Considering that most men who get sued for child support are men that don't want anything to do with their children's lives, your analogy is off base. Women have been oppressed for centuries, ever since the rise of Christianity, BECAUSE we are able to bear children and that's a threat to men's power. Men, while taking an important role in creating life, do not have THE most important role, and that scares you, doesn't it?
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2007-01-08 02:41:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Its not hypocritical. Men can say alot of things. They can say they'll take care of any child but be lying through their teeth. Which basically means the womans life is ruined if he decides not to take responsibility when its born.
I'm sorry, but it needs to be the womans decision. She should take his feelings into account, but it still has to be her choice in the end because the women is the one who's body and life is truly affected.
A woman will never be the same again while a man can pretend it never happened.
2007-01-08 02:21:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Valid point, but it does not matter so much if you don't put yourself in such a situation.
If he doesn't want a child - make sure the possibility will not occur.
If there is an "accident" - then take responsibility.
The same should apply to women, but note I am also pro-choice.
~ Eric Putkonen
2007-01-08 02:26:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the woman does not want to bear the child, that is her choice because it is her body. If the man wants a child that badly, he can get pregnant and carry it to term himself. Until that is possible, the one with the body has the choices.
2007-01-08 02:38:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You're an a/ss, but I agree. Two people make a kid, therefore they both have a say in the decision. Ultimately, it rests on the woman, for biological reasons, but the man should have a say in it. Hell just froze over.
2007-01-08 02:45:04 · answer #10 · answered by mutterhalls 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋