Relationship with my kids?

Question

Becouse of my work I stay far from home and I feel my kids do not love me any more what should I do?

Answer 1

Time spent is key. Also, one way to show your children that you love them is to love their mother. If it is impossible to bring your family to you--meaning you travel all over the place and not to a specific spot...or your other home is an unsafe environment...depending on the age of your children and the relationship you have with their mother...you may have to recon cider whether or not your current job is really what it is cracked up to be. Its difficult to leave the idea of large amounts of money behind...but being wealthy has its downfalls. If you aren't making more than 200,000 a year...then you are not being family smart. Its not that they don't love you---they do. They are feeling resentful and distant from you, since there is no time spent. You are missing out on their lives. Also, depending on how old they are, if they are in their teen years...if you decide to reenter their lives...they may feel you are intruding. Take vacations! Make sure you involve your entire family and leave the work-attached technology behind--this includes all members of your family (Ipods, games, etc.).

Send your wife (even your ex) flowers, candy and a thank you card. Remember birthdays & anniversaries communicate with your family and take note of events and celebrate the events through cards, gifts, etc....if you are extremly busy, ask your secretary to keep track of these things for you or hire someone to. You need to convey that you are thinking about them, that you love them, would do anything for them (if need be), are there to talk to at any time (they can leave phone messages that you can get back to after the meeting)--actions speak louder than words. You shouldn't look for love from them---that will come with time...and your love should be unconditional.

Answer 2

I seriously doubt your kids don't love you anymore! They probably miss you very much just like you miss them! My advice is to make sure when you are home you spend time with your kids and get to know them. If you can find a job where you don't have to be gone, that's great, but most people aren't in a situation to just up and leave their job like that. Explain to your kids (though they probably already know) that you love them very much and your job is just something you have to do that takes you away from home. Be sure to call and email when you're gone and stay in their lives... keep up with what is going on with them.

Answer 3

You kids will always love you, trying spending more time with them. My dad worked far away too but then he convince the people at work for him to work at home and everything it great. Maybe you can try working at home or you can try working at night so you can spend the day with them. Remember you kids will always love you.

Answer 4

Enjoy every moment you have with them.
Of course have rules however try to enjoy one another.

Have you thought about working closer to home?
Children grow so fast, it would be a shame for you to
miss all the miracles of being a Dad. The memories you share are Priceless and you can't buy back time....Just a thought to considered.

best wishes

Answer 5

I spend alot of time talking to my dad over the phone, he has'nt lived with me since i was 7, im now in my twenties. Although the situation is different from yours, being there for your children is not alway physical, if your unable to get a job nearer to your children, use the phone, ask how they are. Dont beat yourself up for a situation thats out of your control at this moment in time. You never stop loving your parents, my advice is to sit down with them and see how they feel about it all. Best of luck and i wish you well.

Answer 6

Children do not fall out of love with their parents.

Perhaps when you are home, you can spend time with them doing things you all enjoy. Show them that they are most important to you when you are home, and when you're not, make your phone calls to them as much as possible. Show them affection by telling them that you love them on a daily basis, and hug them every opportunity you get.

Their only children for so long, and the affection and love that you show them will last them a lifetime.

Answer 7

Your kids will always love you, unless you really abuse them.

If you're far from home a lot, then it's imperative that you set aside free time (when you're off work) for them. Make special days, plan trips, and make sure that they have lots of time to look forward to spending with you when you're home.

If being away from your kids is really an issue that's bothering you (as it should be), then maybe you should consider a career that allows you more time home with your family.

My husband is in the Army, and frequently spends time overseas, usually in Iraq. He always makes sure to set aside special days/trips with our son. He knows when daddy time is and he looks forward to it. :)

Answer 8

Try to do everything you can to spend more time with them. It sounds like your a workaholic, but you try to be a good father. Honestly, those two don't mix well. Make sure they know that you care for them and are there for them. One thing you shouldn't do is try to buy their love. Giving them what they need and just giving them everything they want are two different things. Make sure you reserve some family time, that's important.

Hope this helped! Good Luck!

Answer 9

Kids are only small once. How important is your job? Maybe you can send them post cards and souvenirs. Always call them and tell them you miss them and love them. When you do see them make sure to spend quality time with them. And make sure the miss is not telling them bad things about you.

Answer 10

Maybe it is time to think about moving your family closer to you. It isn't worth losing the relationship with your children. My kids dad did that, and we ended up divorced. He also is not close to his kids and they are grown now. They hardly know him. It was his choice to choose his job over us.