I understand the fairness factor and we make things equal as far as love, gifts, and attention. But she goes far and beyond that and wants to go to speech therapy like her sister, go to the doctors if her sister has to go just to name a few. I tried to explain it to her but she feels it's unfair. why does she feel this way and how can I help her stop going to far with the fairness?
2007-01-08 01:41:57 · 8 answers · asked by lilmama 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Although very frustrating for you, it is actually the sign of a great relationship between your kids. Your 4 year old is absolutely admiring her big sister. She feels that her big sister is so great and thus, wants to be just like her. Therefore she must have everything exactly the same in order to achieve this same greatness. I am going through this with 5 and 2 1/2 yr old boys. It is soooo frustrating, but they love each other to pieces and I give in on flexible issues to nurture that. Pick and choose what you will and will not be flexible with and then respond consistently. If you give in after 15 minutes of arguing you are doomed and sending a message that your little one is in control. know that it will pass.
2007-01-08 01:49:37 · answer #1 · answered by imoffmynut 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Could be just sibling rivalry - which is very normal. I don't think its healthy for her to get exactly the same as her sister - they are different people.
Is her sister getting extra attention because of the speech therapy or doctor visits? Sounds like younger child is craving more of your time. Can you arrange for special one on one time with her or maybe get her her own special toys that her sister doesn't have.
2007-01-08 10:29:19 · answer #2 · answered by chicchick 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably because right now at her age she gets fewer activities so everything sister does is interesting and she wants it too. It just her age she will get better about it when shes a little older. Just tell her she doesnt get to do everything sister does and sister doesnt get to do everything she gets to do.
2007-01-08 10:02:27 · answer #3 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her that she does 4 yr old things and that sis does 6 yr old things and as soon as she's 6 she can do those things too. Find fun and age appropriate things for her to do so she feels like a big girl too.
2007-01-08 09:47:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeh i got/get this a lot with me and my sister.
you need to find somthing special to just her, like having a weekly thing just for the both of you etc.
She probably adores her sister so wants to be like her and do the things she does, but she doesnt realise speech therapy and going to the doctors are for just her sister, so you just need something for her.
hoep this helps :]
2007-01-08 09:47:13 · answer #5 · answered by harlequingirl1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All kids are like that. It's normal.
2007-01-08 09:50:59 · answer #6 · answered by KathyS 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, what does the older sister have that she doesnt have. shes also a girl. she knows it.....
2007-01-08 09:49:53 · answer #7 · answered by kinisha 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Cos she is a girl,her view on life is ME,ME andMORE ME
2007-01-08 09:46:57 · answer #8 · answered by IRENE S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋