I have been seeing this guy for 3 weeks now. We have not had sex. He told me that he cares for me and that his gf's in the past he treated like whores. He respects me and says he is scared to have sex with me until he sorts things out in his head. He said he hasn;t had sex with someone he cars about in a long time. Should I be worried?
2007-01-08 01:27:08 · 27 answers · asked by kimmerry68 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes. You should be worried that you're not listening to your guy friend and taking what he says at face value. If you can't do that, you aren't ready to boink anyway.
2007-01-08 01:30:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No don't be worried but tell him that you want to move things to the next level. three weeks in is not treating you like a whore or looking down on you. make sure he knows that if he still say's no then hes just not ready to have a gf right now and hes just looking for a friend and someone to go out with
2007-01-08 09:32:30 · answer #2 · answered by Umphery's Mc Joe'S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I wouldn't be worried. Three weeks isn't all that long.
It's actually a good sign that he's holding off sleeping with you. If he says he treated his other girlfriends like "whores", then I think by him not sleeping with you, he wants to establish other levels of intimacy first. He may want to know for sure that he loves you before he makes love to you.
He could also be afraid of being treated as an object, since that's what he did to other women.
But, as always, before having sex with someone new, make sure you know him, and his history. Condoms protect against some things, but not against HPV (genital warts) or genital herpes.
Good luck, hun!
2007-01-08 09:30:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not be worried. You should be grateful. It means he likes you more than he did them and he knows he's going to have feelings for you during sex, you're not just someone he plans to use and toss like a disposable toy.
Three weeks is not that long to see someone before having sex... so chillax and it'll happen when it's the right time for both of you and he's got his head screwed on straight about what you mean (or could potentially mean) to him.
In the meantime, count your lucky stars that he's not pushing you for sex only to discard your entire relationship 48 to 72 hours after.
2007-01-08 09:32:16 · answer #4 · answered by thegirlwholovedbrains 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe every time he had sex with a girlfriend the relationship took a turn for the worst. It sounds to me like he truly cares about you, and is worried about messing up the relationship somehow. Give him some time and I bet he'll come around. Just be sure to support him and always communicate how you are feeling.....good luck :)
2007-01-08 09:35:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Don't be worried and don't rush him. If he's being honest, he wants to hold off and not ruin it. He wants to do the right thing this time and not treat you like he has before. He wants to respect you. Let him. Now, if you want to be treated like a whore in bed after you've earned his respect, he's a lucky guy. ;)
2007-01-08 09:30:14 · answer #6 · answered by tom_cat_2k3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, he just wants what's best for you, some people only believe in sex AFTER marriage, and maybe sex after 3 weeks is going a bit more quickly paced than he is used to. Give him little signs that you are ready, and don't be afraid to slow down, because sometimes kissing, hugging and even cuddling can be just as loving and as meaningful as intercourse.
2007-01-08 09:30:47 · answer #7 · answered by Fiona 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who knows for sure.. maybe he is telling the truth and he really feel respect toward you and he wants to protect you. In this case you should give him time, but maybe he has some issues with women and he sees them all as whores, be careful.
2007-01-08 09:31:31 · answer #8 · answered by indie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was wrong having sex with his other girls too and maybe he has given his heart to Jesus and then he will know that sex outside of marriage is a sin and the result of sin is death. Get a life that is everlasting and forget about the small things in life.
2007-01-08 09:57:23 · answer #9 · answered by Andre G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the rush to have sex? I think you should focus in establishing a deep relationship first, things comes with time, don't just jump into the bed yet...
If you stop being pushy, I am sure he will be ready.
2007-01-08 09:36:03 · answer #10 · answered by getting_a_new_life 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be more worried if he did agree, considering you have been together a short time anyway, i would give him some time and space, he's right to want to treat you well, so let him do that, he'll respect you for that.
2007-01-08 09:29:38 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋