The problem is that about a year ago she kept avoiding him and not turning up when she made an arrangement to see him. A few months later she told him that she was with pregnant by another guy. Anyway she had the baby and a few months later she rang him and said the baby was his not the other guys.Then said the guy had a DNA test and its not his. Now she claiming that it's his kid Anyway months later she went to see him with the baby and didn't bring the proof of the test with her they ended up in bed. Three months have gone by since then he tells me, she always calling him and never turns up always making excuses. I told him to have the test but he said its too much money also the dates were wrong he thinks for him to be the father. Today he calls me telling me she said he should visit her and she's horny as usual but always lets him down. He later calls me and told me that she has just phoned him to say he should still come round but she just seen her monthly ? what should he do ?
2007-01-08 01:25:50 · 16 answers · asked by Anthony B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This woman is obviously trouble so the first thing I would suggest is make this involvement one whereby the issue with the child is resolved and then get her out of his life.
He needs to take the DNA test. It's the only reliable way to demonstrate that he isn't the father of this baby. If he's certain he can't be the father, then get it out of the way and shut down any contact with this manipulative female immediately.
If he is the father (and I suspect he may be, as the test is not that expensive) then he's concerned that he going to end up landed with a child he doesn't want, and a woman who's a waste of space. The priority here is quite simple - do what's best for the child. Leaving a baby with such an irresponsible woman can't possibly be in his/her best interest.
I hope this helps.
2007-01-08 01:36:45 · answer #1 · answered by prusec_int 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your question was about age, and age does not really matter. I know a 42 year old woman , a doctor, married a 70 year old man and they were truly happy, sadly though she did not have more than 5 years with him because he died. With regards to this woman, don't know her age, but whatever it may be she is very immature. Sounds like she is a user and a loser. This guy needs to get a DNA test done to be sure, it is his responsibility to do so , and if it is his child then he should have visitation and legal responsibility for the child. Apparently this girl is of questionable character,and he should stay clear of her, she might not know who the father is, showing up "horny" at your friends house could suggest that her other sexual partners, which I am sure she has , have dumped her. Also, he apparently is not practicing safe sex. Don't leave it up to the woman that says they are covered, there are many that are out to trap a man. Be careful and get her out of his life, but if the child is his, unfortunately she will also be part of his life, but just not sexually would be the answer.
2007-01-08 01:37:06 · answer #2 · answered by vivib 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't read the whole thing, but I go by a formula to decide if age is a problem in a relationship. If under 50, half age + 7 = minimum age I.E. 45/2 = 22.5, 22.5+7 = 29.5. If over 50, half age + 15 = minimum age So yeah, I think she's too young. But hell, what do I know, I met my girlfriend of 4 years (and both of us loving every second of it) when I was 16 and she was a month away from 21.
2016-05-23 09:42:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the test number one. She made her decision when she avoided your friend in the first place, and I would let her know that. What probably happened was that she decided to give it a go with the baby's real father which of course didn't work. So, now she's stuck, young girl trying to raise a baby all by herself. Her next move would be to try to get your friend back... at any cost of course.
The decision is on your friend. Does he want to raise a baby that may not be his?
2007-01-08 01:32:09 · answer #4 · answered by albion53151 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I read this - to about the halfway point, and really couldn't read it any more as it was so bloody confusing.
Well, I did try again, and ended up none the less confused.
What should he do....!
Move abroad - Change Phone numbers - Have nothing to do with her ...though not necessarily in that order.
1: He has to find out if he is a parent.
2: He has to address that and act accordingly.
3: Then have as little to do with her as possible - given the circumstances of the earlier answers.
I really would HATE to be a child of that woman, given the story laid out here.
Sash..
2007-01-08 02:21:39 · answer #5 · answered by sashtou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run as fast as he can to get the DNA test, if he's not the father, continue to run until he cannot see or hear her. Sounds like she's looking for a baby daddy, and actual paternity has no bearing.
2007-01-08 01:30:16 · answer #6 · answered by CuriousMishawaka 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, I cant see him listening to your advice if he likes her.
Hes probably flattered/grateful that a younger woman wants him.
For his own good, he needs to leave her alone. shes taking him for a mug. Clearly doesnt want anything from him other than sex (and possibly money?)
He really needs to get proof of the DNA though.
2007-01-08 01:32:18 · answer #7 · answered by Kat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
obviously the other fella got tired of her and is now stringing your mate along, he should tell her either she gets a dna test done to prove he is the father or she can get lost. if it is his then he only has to pay maintenance for the kid and not her.
2007-01-08 03:35:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
,Make the DNA to be sure its not his. if its his, take the baby away from her. and my best wishes, is that its not his, and then,, he should send her to where she belongs, and never, never see her again. FORGET HER.
2007-01-08 01:34:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to take this issue to Maury, I always see this issue being handled by him. Good luck
2007-01-08 01:28:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋