People who pray (no matter what belief): How do you overcome a personal sadness while getting closer to God?

Question

I feel like I am constantly praying or meditating because it's the only thing that makes me feel better. I just wonder how we are to seperate those selfish hurts from our prayers, or is it even possible? Also, how do we maintain when we are constantly presented by more hurts and sadness? Nothing will make me stop believing in God, but I mean this...aren't you afraid sometimes you'll slip back into how you "used to be" before God picked you up and dusted you off, and gave you new clothes? If you've never been here before, just leave the question for someone else. Thanks.

Answer 1

You can't overcome that sadness, it'll always be there. Any real prayer, on some level, is an agonized heart crying out for healing. Be grateful for it. It gives your prayer a power and a sincerity that it wouldn't have otherwise. In Christ, we're not just "happy"... the Spirit intercedes for us with groans too deep to be uttered, say the Scriptures, also, the whole creation groaneth in travail... As long as the world is unredeemed how can our happiness be anything but a happiness with an undercurrent of sorrow and tears? Only in the end will the tears be wiped from every eye.

Answer 2

If it is a person who has caused you sadness then (I discovered this the hard way) sometimes we just have to bite the bullet and forgive them that way we will find peace ofmind both in prayer and in life, if it's not a person's fault, continue to pray for peace of mind God wants you to be happy and close to him, those are the two main things, and if you begin to feel selfish, then just pray more about it and the only other thing I can suggest is spending time in the Bible

Answer 3

There are periods like that in your walk when God stretches you or reveals knowledge to you. Solomon said where there is much knowledge there is much sorrow and the prophets that got close enough to know Gods heart were also melancholy. A sustained sadness for a long time is not natural however because we are called to a life of righteousness, peace and joy in the Holy Ghost. If you have lost your joy then you need to get with family and dance on the devils head a bit...If your church is too tame to do that you will wither away...get to a Spirit filled church and rejoice in the Lord.

Answer 4

As a Christian, I think God is just as interested in our sadness and hurt. I went through years of depression before finding my faith, and I'm glad that things never worked out the way I wanted them to back then. If they had, I wouldn't be where I am now, and I'm happy now.

I think, as long as all of your prayers aren't selfish, as long as you're thanking God and praising Him, I don't think He minds hearing the more self-centered stuff. I tend to see God as parent-like. Parents always want to hear from their kids (good or bad news is better than none). Parents don't always give in to their kid's wants either. God (and parents) knows what's best and what's ahead.

We all slip back into who we used to be. The key is to not revert so far that we forget who we've become. There's a song that says "you get stronger every time you don't give in." I like that. I think it's appropriate.

Answer 5

i am a catholic and i feel that everyone who prays are engaging in a personal relationship with God (our creator) he knows we have weaknesses and make mistakes but we must remember he always loves and forgives us no matter what! when you pray try and talk to God and ask questions....the answer will come into your head...you will be given the grace to know what is right and what is wrong under Gods eyes...it is true that while praying we are usually asking for something and this may feel selfish...so next time you pray try thanking God for what you have(health,family,friends,house... etc.) instead of allways asking for something from God....hope this helps! God bless!

Answer 6

It seems sadness it hard to overcome these days. I lost my mother around this time of year and I cry every mourning after I wake up. Then you have the horrible things happening in the world. You are not alone. God bless.

Answer 7

disappointments are part of this life.... the only way to manage to trust God and obey him.... the rewards may not be immediate but they are guaranteed....the timing is only known to god.. like WHEN will things get better....only he knows....and only he knows why there is a delay.....

i understand how you feel.. i go through the same thing...just love him inspite of the sadness, and know that He is mindful of you.....He knows we are hurting....he will understand when we are not perfect....we do our best....and encourage ourselves..stay hopeful....and stay in touch with those who need support also... sometimes helping others brings us out of the sadness....everything in this life is temporary...so just look forward to the more eternal things......think about good and perfect and nice things.... be thankful... keep praise in your heart....find some prayers with these themes and repeat them everyday.....

take care

Answer 8

For myself, I find myself at peace when I just let go and embrace God. When I let go, I see just how minute and small a lot of my problems really are. Much are just not worth feeling hurt or sad over. Have faith to be what you are, regardless. Let go of fear for it will hold you rather than free you. Think of what you have now and cherish it, rather than what you do not or might lose.

When I pray, it is much to give thanks and feeling loved, rather than to ask for anything.

Answer 9

You'll get over personal sadness whether you pray or not. However, many do use prayer as a crutch to get over it.

It doesn't work for me because I realize how empty and vain it is.

Answer 10

Friend, every Child of God will go through tests & trials, It is to make us stronger in him, The Christian walk is not always a road of easiness, I have been serving God almost 37 yrs. & we have to see that the closer we get to Christ coming, the harder our trials may be, We are tried as Gold in Fire, that is to burn away every earthly wordly thing in us. I have had many hard trials in my 37 yrs., Right after I gave my life over to God in May 1970, I lost my dad in 1971, in 1969 When I was still a sinner I lost my great aunt, This is the firt steps in God dealing with me, She was 89 yrs. Old,& we always think it can not happen to our family, it is always someones else family, that was in March of 1969, Right there I promised God if he let her live, I will serve him, She died that evening, Why should I expect God to keep a 89 yr. old alive forever, I went all through 1969 forgetting what I promise God, In June 1969, I wa invovled in a head on collision, My wife was thrown half way through the windshield, I bend the steering column over with my neck, My 4 month old child was in the ront seat fasten with a selt belt, she was not hurt, Then again I said God let my family live, & i will serve ou, We all lived, Then the rest of 1969 I once again forgot what I told God. In Feb. 1970 I was again in a accident, another car hit my car, In my soul I heard these words, don't you remember what you promise me, Then from Feb 1970 to May 1970 I made my mind up to live for God. Yes, I have been in car wrecks since, one in 1992 where I roll my truck over a 15ft. embankment going 65 mph with no seat belts on & all windows down, By all means, I should have been crushed or thrown out. When my truck came to rest, it was on it's side & I was standing upright through the windows, But this time, I had that peace of mind. In 1989 I lost my first wife after 304 days in ICU at age 37, But still I served God, I remarried a wonderful Christian woman that was a widow, herself,, & From May 1970 until now, I still serve God, not out of fear, but out of love & free choice, My mother past away right after I remarried, & then 5 months later my brother-in-law was killed in a head on collision at the age of 27, & these 37 yrs. there has been nothing that God could not bring me through, & nothing that can seperate me from the love of God. He is my hope & my salvation & my comfortor, Blessed be the name of the Lord