2007-01-08 01:05:44 · 19 answers · asked by Melissa G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just because you are 21 doesn't make you a bonafide adult. You need to prove you are an adult through your thoughts and actions. You indicate that you have a child, but are the choices you are making now in your child's best interest? Some women have children and figure they can still act like they have no responsibilities and will go out, party, do whatever - which is not a very adult thing to do. If you live at home, you are still bound by the rules set down by your mother because you are in her house. If that is the case, and you don't want her telling you what to do, you may need to take steps to get your own place so you can live under your own rules.
Your mother loves you and wants what is best for you and your child. One day you'll appreciate that.
2007-01-08 01:16:40 · answer #1 · answered by McB 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Become self supporting, move out, quit depending on her for money and such if you are and that will help. Once you are comfortable being an adult there won't be a problem. You will just live your own life. Hard to do if you live with her and depend on her for money and such. Be an adult and when you accomplish that you can tell her nicely to back off. Until then, you have to live with what you have created if that is a little girl needing her mommy's help but wanting to play with the big kids.
2007-01-08 01:09:42 · answer #2 · answered by Chloe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes indeed, if you haven't already, it's time to show your mother that you are not a child anymore by being independent and moving out.
But maybe it's not so much of controlling you. Maybe, she's just trying to push you towards the path of individuality. She's your mother, you should talk to her about this, because words unsaid, are words that'll never become verbs.
Best of luck sweetie!
2007-01-08 01:08:50 · answer #3 · answered by Ann 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, you'll always be a child in your mother's eyes. Try to sit down and talk with her. Let her know that you love her, but need to take control of your life. Good luck!
2007-01-08 01:08:50 · answer #4 · answered by grandm 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends.. are you married and living in the same town? it will be difficult. I found I had to marry, have kids and move to the other side of the country to cut the umbilical cord, it took me about 5 years and my husband had to flat tell her to stop. Hope you have a defender like I did! btw we got along fine until she passed last year.. but I am feeling freer now and more relaxed.
2007-01-08 01:08:37 · answer #5 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in case you have the slightest worry of your mom's reaction you may circulate to an area women folk's shelter & ask for help. You look imaginitive so which you will possibly desire to have the flexibility to get there without her understanding. i'm hoping your mom helps you yet unlike lots of the nieve and ignorant buttholes here i'm nicely conscious that mom's are actually not consistently the variety of mom on seventh Heaven. in case you incredibly want this existence you will possibly be able to desire to get out a peice of paper and write down 2 columns. record on one factor all the coolest that would come of this and on the otherside all the unfavourable issues that would desire to happen. Then if not one of the unfavourable concerns and additionally you will possibly be able to't face ending this being pregnant; seek for out community companies which will tutor you ways to discern. regardless of you have chose to do, seek for avenues of help until now you hold on with with the aid of with something you will possibly be able to remorseful approximately. forget approximately approximately hateful people who're telling you your age concerns. for sure your age is a area in wanting medical interest and your scholastic destiny, yet i don't see any of them working to 'off' their their infant in order that as that they might have an much less annoying existence. good success. Please attempt to comprehend that no one is going to bounce up and congradulate you as unfair as that would look, yet its because of the fact of your delicate age.
2016-10-30 08:11:18 · answer #6 · answered by stever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will never stop until shes dead so just try not to let it get to you and have a good relationship with your mother. Part of life for some people.
2007-01-08 01:07:51 · answer #7 · answered by polystyrene_high 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
talk to her about it. tell her how you feel and how you want things to be. have your own life. after all, you're 21 already. maybe your mom is worried that she'll lose you as her daughter? so tell her that you'll always love and respect her and be there for her whenever she needs you. =)
2007-01-08 01:27:46 · answer #8 · answered by Jojo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her in your own way you really appreciate her concern for you and value her advice, but you can't learn anything or be your own person if you do everything everybody else tells you what to do and if you have any questions she'll be the first person you'll turn to.
2007-01-08 01:15:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have to depend on your mother for the esentials..such as money, food, and shelter. Then just tell her straight up..."I understand that you want to help me because you love me, but you have to learn to let go. I am an adult and I need you to back off and let me run my life..."
2007-01-08 01:35:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋