What's the best way of getting over someone?

Question

I was with him for 2.5 years and there's no hope of reconciliation. What's a sure way of making the pain subside a bit? Besides time.

Answer 1

Be gentle with yourself. I know it hurts really bad right now, but this is the worst time to do something you'll regret later just to try and ease the pain.
Whatever you do, don't surpress anything or run away from it. Just let it out. Go with it. It's not nice - not even close, but it WILL pass. Don't make any decisions that are based on the emotions you are feeling right now. You're going to be hurt for a while, then angry with him, then you'll feel neutral, then you'll get angry again for a while. Sometime soon, you'll be able to think about him and realise that it was something that happened to you that you've learned from and its in the past. You might feel a little sad that it ended, but you won't be upset anymore. You'll see ahead rather than back, and THEN you can decide what you want to do.
I hope this helps.

Answer 2

Ah hunnie, sorry to hear that. It's always difficult when you split up with someone after so long. There's never really any easy way of getting over the pain, except of course (as you said yourself) time. When my boyfriend and I of three years split up, it was on very bad terms and I had to see him quite alot which made things so much worse, we don't speak now and can't even look at each other! Although sometimes I think that's probably a good thing as I don't think being friends with an ex ever really works out. When we first split i spent weeks by myself moping,crying and feeling sorry for myself. But then I started going out more with the girls, and had so much fun I started to forget him. it was a gradual thing over time but it really helped.

Only recently split with someone (again!) although we were just bed bud's it was still hard as he was the first person I'd been intimate wiv since my ex, n that was 4/5 yrs ago.so was a big thing for me to open up and be myself with him. It still hurts a little now but I've learnt to pick myself back up n get on with things and over time I'm sure you will 2 sweetie. My friends have been a gr8 healer and have started taking up new hobbies, hope this helps and good luck Hunnie xx xx

Answer 3

it's time to think of you and you only enjoy your new found freedom doing what you want to do, it might sound selfish but it seems to be the only way to keep the mind busy enough to forget.
if you are living in the same house redecorate as the walls hold on to the memories and remain a constant reminder as you enter the home, you can't move the walls so change the way they look which gives you a fresh start.one final thing don't become to independant or you may get stuck in a rut and never except anyone into your life again.

Answer 4

I was going to say time but I know its a lot more than that.So sorry for your pain. One bit of advice try not to deliberately go over old ground-- avoid places, music,etc that have associations for you. This is only reinforcing old feelings. Its hard to try and move on but you will have to. I hope you have at least one good friend to support you on this journey. Treat yourself, pamper yourself. The day will come when you wake up and realise that you are ok again. Im speaking from experience. I lost my partner to cancer a year ago and its been tough.

Answer 5

hi, sorry to hear about the break up, ur best bet is to stay away from him, no phone calls texts etc, just avoid any contact cut all ties,go out enjoy ur life, life is precious dont waste it mopping over what could of been, theres no point.
Men are easy to come by get out there and doll urself up will make u feel better, get some confidence back, give it time u will be surely over him.
go out do some shopping buy somet u always wanted even if u know u cant afford it, treat urself u deserve it.
hope this helps

Answer 6

personally I would just keep yourself busy - get all your mates round you, have some good nights out and in and just have a laugh....the pain will subside with time (sorry) but in between now and then just try and get out and enjoy yourself.

or the other option is to get "under" someone else.

whatever you do - dont get steaming drunk....I did that once, called the guy - made a complete t*t out of myself and had no chance what so ever of sorting things out.

good luck
x

Answer 7

I've been in a similar situation. The best thing to do is move on. Get busy doing things that u like the most. I would listen to music,go on treks or spend time with my close buddy's. And a other way is to think that he/she was not the right person for you. Trust me i've been doing that and it has worked out.

Answer 8

go out with your friends - find a guy to take your mind off things - take up a hobby - basically anything that will keep your mind occupied - its too easy to start moping and getting upset when you're sat in alone and memories start creeping around your head.
Keep yourself busy - make new friends - even through yahoo answers - just realise that life goes on and you'll find someone way better for yourself in no time.
Good luck xx

Answer 9

I really feel for you. I split with my boyf last week, and i just dont knw what to do with myself most of the time. I dont feel like i have any get up and go in me and feel totally drained. I think the best thing to do is get out and let your hair down, i have arranged a few nights out with friends and it has given me something to look forward to. Good luck sweetheart.

Answer 10

Get a group of your girlfriends and have a GIRL'S NIGHT OUT! There's no better way to feel better about yourself and to cheer up, than to have your girls at your side partying-it-up.

If that's not your style, keep yourself occupied in things you love doing, and who knows, someone new might come in the picture when you least expect it.

Best of luck sweetie!