My girlfriend broke up with me about a month ago and said that she wants her space. If I truly believe deep down in my heart that we belong together, is it better to just let her have her space and then when she's ready to talk again try and convince her that we belong together by showing her how much I have changed? Or is it better that I just move on and try to find someone else?
2007-01-08 00:38:12 · 13 answers · asked by frankfurter27 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
.....dude! Too many other girls out there for you to meet, don't get hung up on this one where all you do is dwell on her!
Get over it and move on! (The sooner the better.)
2007-01-08 00:54:16 · answer #1 · answered by socal pal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds really weird, and people may think I am coming off as a jerk, but I am serious.
Go out and find another woman, if only for a night.
See what else is out there.
If you do this, just go out and hook up with someone else for one night, it will give you a different outlook on the situation and also give you more self confidence. It will also not make you jealous of her at all. You will be able to talk to her freely and she will see this side of you, the side she probably fell in love with originally, and she will be more inclined to miss you.
If she sees you out and you are pining over her and you are broken hearted over her, she will see you as needy and this will be a major turn off.
You don't necessarily have to hook up with someone else, but in my experience, everytime after a bad break up, the hurting stopped soon after I started meeting other women.
And after I met other women, the ex-girlfriend was always not far behind.
You might be over her by then too, which isn't a bad thing.
Relationships are weird, you can probably have one with almost anyone, you just get in a comfort zone, and that's the part that is hard to move on from initially.
2007-01-08 08:44:43 · answer #2 · answered by Work is for Busters 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the principle is fairly similar with males as with females. If someone breaks up with you and says they need space thats exactly what they need, whether it is a 'line' or not.
If it is a 'line', that is, an nicer way of telling you they no longer want to be with you, then the best thing to do is to give them space. Anything else and they will begin to resent you and think youre obsessive.
If they really do just need space then give it to them! They will make up their mind and when they do they will either do one of two things 1. they will come back to you or 2. They wont.
In both cases you should let them make up their own mind,I think, as pursuing it in either case will only reaffirm thier reasons for wanting space in the first place.
Be strong... if she wants to be with you she will come back of her own accord... my best advice is to not contact her and assume its over and do everything you can to move on... Then if she comes back it will be a pleasant surprise and if she doesnt then you will have everything going for you to be ok with not having her anymore...
I hope that makes sense and I really hope it helps.. Ive been you before and I know its hard.
2007-01-08 08:53:03 · answer #3 · answered by Wannabe_writer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Needing her space".Could mean alot of things.1) It could mean that her parents thinks she is getting too serious,and told her to breakup with you.And she didn't want to hurt you,so she said it was her!2) Or maybe she is getting too envolved,and didn't want to at this time.3) I don't know-did you have a chance to ask her what happened?BUT changing yourself alittle,for someone special is nice.But if that's all you do is change for them,and they are still not happy.1)They are the loser! They have changed you so much,you are not the person they cared for in the first place anymore.Also what's wrong with excepting a person the way they are?No-one is perfect!Good Luck,and be careful!
2007-01-08 08:52:44 · answer #4 · answered by stressed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
space for what? what is she going to use the space for, flirting with other guys or what. move on otherwise you will hurt seriously.
if you meant for each other i don't think she will tell you he need a space.
2007-01-08 08:47:10 · answer #5 · answered by sweet girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her her space, if she comes back you were meant for each other, if not then she doesn't feel the same way.
2007-01-08 08:39:53 · answer #6 · answered by Jessy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A month later it's time to move on.
2007-01-08 08:40:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her some space, and it may help her understand how she really feels about you. Be patient, and don't pressure, or make her feel guilty.
2007-01-08 08:42:42 · answer #8 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually when someone says they need space they already got someone to fill it in mind...move on.
2007-01-08 08:42:19 · answer #9 · answered by thelovebuzzard 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm yourself & pondering what make her to have said that.....
Try to please her if you think that she with you will be happier...
Promise her and never commit the similar mistake again.
2007-01-08 08:42:52 · answer #10 · answered by Pooop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋