My boyfriend wants to cheat?I was browsing my boyfriends laptop yesterday when I saw his msn history report?

Question

(a folder that keeps all records of his msn messages)
In it I found that he was still chatting to his ex whom he for me , he was asking her to come over to live him him from france, he still tells her he loves her and that he misses her and cant wait to see her again. AS U CAN IMAGINE IT WAS VERY HARD FOR me having to read all that, I mean I understand that he misses her mayb he wants to be with her afterall, I can only move on after that, But I dont even know how to tell him I know about it, I just find it do hard now to even kiss him or do anything with him cause I know what he has been up to, I asked him last night if he still talks to her he denied all this. what should I do (apart from leaving him of coz cause thats what ill be doing) but how do i let him know.
I wasnt excatly reading his emails, I was browsing received files cause I was looking for the pictures I had sent him. SO technically it wasnt even his messages.

Answer 1

Tell him exactly what you have related in your question. He is probably flirting with her. Its difficult to say. You would know better. How does he treat you? Does he loves you? Do you love him? If yes, then probably he was flirting. If not, then he is probably in love with her. The decision is YOURS!

Answer 2

Yon know what?You have to realize that the important thing now is that you are hurt and have been exposed to information that has been kept from you and not just any type of information.Your boyfriend has gone way out of his limit and the reason lies in the way your relationship was.I'm not taking sides as i don't know what went on but i symphatize with you as a woman.So you should worry about urself rather than what he will think and how he will feel if he finds out that you have been through his stuff,because what he did is way worse than what you did.I don't think that going through your boyfriend's messages is a good idea but maybe on some level it shows that you already didn't trust him enough so you did what you did and you were exposed not only to his cheating but later on to his lying and denial.So it's completely natural that you don't feel like kissing or doing anything,it feels as if the other person is taking advantage of you and there is no longer a love inbetween to justify the hugging and kissing and....We as women have to be not only physically ready but also mentally to communicate with men,and this clearly isn't the case for your boyfriend.My idea is that you should tell him with a strong voice,in a suitable time and face to face so he won't make excuses of having something to do and ....and remember that he should be the one worrying about what to say to you.You are reasonable enough to understand that after something like this going on with the relatiohship is not a good idea.Say what you should say and do what you should do,move on and remember that life goes on...and you always know best how ur inside is guiding you.Best wishes and by the way check the date on those messages ;>

Answer 3

This is a tough situation. I feel bad for you. Technically you were snooping (don't deny it... you could have chosen not to read the messages!) But the fact remains that he is telling another woman that he loves her. You need to tell him that you found out, but be prepared for him to be angry with you for snooping... (but, that's a smaller issue than his professing his love and desire for his ex.) This relationship will probably end with both of you being very hurt... but he's made some poor choices, and has to understand that. He also needs to be totally honest with you about his feelings for you AND for her. Only then can you two decide to try to work things out, or go your separate ways. And only you will know whether it's the right choice or not. In my opinion, it sounds like he has one foot out the door.

Answer 4

well firstly check the dates on these messages, they could be from a long long time ago.. however if they are recent then you need to just get it off your chest, explain the situation that you were jst lookin for some files and you stumbled upon these, then just explain your feelings, how hurt you feel cause of his actions and if he says he does want to be back with his ex, that YOU dump him.. id dump him even if he didnt really want to b with his ex.

Answer 5

That sucks! do no longer concern i think of all of us do it, I propose i comprehend I even have. i admire my bf dearly yet nonetheless look at my nasty ex's website each and every now and returned. If he won't confer with you, merely text fabric him and write precisely what you merely wrote in this question- which you like him and desire to speak by using it rather of breaking up or no longer speaking or in spite of. you ought to even go away him a voicemail. maximum in all hazard, your bf will come around and enable you to describe your self. merely clarify that myspace is dumb and you have been merely looking around and handed off to discover his profile, and it did no longer propose something! as long as you ask for forgiveness and make your boyfriend experience like he's the only one that concerns, and fairly plenty smother him with " I purely have eyes for you " form of stuff, he can no longer stay mad at you for long.

Answer 6

Sorry...technically you were snooping (shame on you!) and found out something you didn't want to know. Looks like your party is over with the bf - do what you want

Answer 7

it's definatly a good hting that you rbreaking up, dont let him try to covince you to get back together, cause he will to it again. the fact that he lied about even talking to her makes it that much worse.

Answer 8

sweetheart don't do the same-thing I've done ,u are only hurting yourself and you will end up loosing him because u will want to confront him and u'll end up arguing,he's not gonna stop just because you know instead he's gonna do it and he is gonna be so angry with you for snicking out with his personal things and loose respect for you.

Answer 9

I'd print out all the messages hand them to him and tell him its over. Who cares how you found them, you did and he is lying to you.

Answer 10

break up with him..then when he asks why, just say, "you should know the answer to that already" and that would leave him hanging..good luck! girl power!