I told this guy i love him but cannot wait for him to be ready for a relationship. He said he doesnt know what he wants so i told him i would mve on even tho i still have these feelings for him and he then said he wants me in a way!!! What does he mean??? Please help!!!
Please dont gve me any nasty answers coz it hurts enuf not being with him!!!
Thank you in advance for all the helpful answers xxxxx
2007-01-08 00:32:09 · 46 answers · asked by ♥ Jodi ♥ Kaydi's Mummy ♥ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds horrible for you as you are being honest and he is not giving you a clear answer. I think you have done the right thing but being honest with him but also looking after yourself and choosing to move on.
Easier said than done though and the trouble is it can be really hard to move on especially if the other person hasn't exactly given you reason to in so many words. I would assume he is being as honest as he can be with you and that therefore he saying he is not wanting a relationship with you (now, later or whatever- only he knows).
Look after yourself and do what is right for you. But be honest and don't let him walk all over you just because you hope he might come around. I wish you lots of luck and hope it works out really well in whichever way.
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2007-01-12 02:28:18 · answer #1 · answered by girly girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand but this guy does not seem ready for any serious relationship. It hurts but it happens. The sooner you know it and accept it, the bettre for you. If you push him into having a serious relationship, you will be getting into a life of misery. Believe me on this. I had a girl-friend of 7 years who kept on telling me that she wants me but could not commit to marriage. I waited that long (stupid of me) and realised that she wanted companionship, love, accpetance but not able to settle down (which I wanted). In the end I had to move on and accept the situation. I told her so, she was hurt, I gave her a chance and walked out wounded. Now, I am fine and happy in my present relationship. Take this as a good indicator that some people are never ready for anything and that can be very dangerous for a future relationship. Good luck!
2007-01-08 00:41:39 · answer #2 · answered by Counsellor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is not ready to be in a relationship it won't work out. He has to be sure he wants to be with you or he could end up resenting you and you'll lose him completely. I'd say go ahead and date, move on, but always be there for him. I met a guy and he wasn't sure of what he wanted so I gave him space and move on and now we have been together 16 years and married 8 years.The reason I waited 8 years to get married is because I wanted to make sure we were both ready.
2007-01-08 00:44:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"In a way means" he wants you to wait around for him to decide what he wants . He knows once you move on you will most probably not be a doormat and wait around for him. If he loves you but can't offer you what you need he should allow you to move on and not play head games with you.If he doesn't love you he clearly likes the attention you give him and wants you at his beg and call. Do yourself a favour hunny move on have some fun and when and if he does make up his mind what he wants then you won't be as hurt if he chooses he dosen't want you. If he does want you then you can decide what to do next but never wait around for a guy .I understand how you must be feeling as I was with someone 7 years and he said the same thing to me . I moved on and it was hard but 10 years on i made the right decision... best of luck xx
2007-01-08 00:40:31 · answer #4 · answered by scorpionbabe32 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he also like u but still not enough to make him decide or make his mind if he's ready for any relationship with you or not yet....Actually i have the same situation with you now...im also inlove with this man and i also told him my feelings...( i think the world now is totally different for woman is the one who has the guts to tell a guy about her feelings )..: -)...Anyway he's also not ready to say yes or no....i also told him that i need to move on cause there's no use of holding on.....I try to understand him and wait but then..the time came that i had realize that i should not keep myself hang on someone while i don't know when will be ready to be committed...Now im trying to move on with my life before putting so much love on someone who can't give it back to me...I just let destiny decide if we were really meant for each other or not.....But still give him the benefit of doubt...its your life girl your the one incharge on it for you will be the one who will experience happiness or pain...everything lays on your hand....
2007-01-08 00:42:03 · answer #5 · answered by kimy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means he doesn't want you in the same way you want him,but he doesnt want anyone else to have you either...My advice move on honey if he's that indecisive about his feelings towards you then you're just going to keep getting mixed signals from him which in turn will just make you more confused and unhappy...Go have some fun on your own with some mates for a while and don't give yourself time to miss him,then see if he comes running after you and if he doesn't well at least you're having fun at the same time...Chin up sweetie and good luck
2007-01-08 00:41:39 · answer #6 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He means he probably is/was interested in some way but he was probably too nervous or just not ready. It's just like when you have a doll that you have had since two and say you're eighteen already. You know you have to let it go but you don't want to (somewhere in those lines as an example). The best way is to talk to him about it.
2007-01-08 00:48:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's too abrupt! I mean if in a sudden a damn hot guy ask you whether u r willing to be his partner, what'd you think?! Anyway, guys is a special species in which they can't make any quick decision in a hurry! Let me clarify this. One minute he's uncertain about what he'd do so he said he's not ready. Another minute he realize he can't afford to lose you so he said he wants you in all the way. Beside, i think you are too emotional. Hey, gal, your species is gifted with the 6th sense. I think you'd be able to identify if he's really into you?! Calm down but don't ever cool down. Give him a chance as well as giving yourself a chance. Wanna discuss more about it?! alexis86_aries@yahoo.com
2007-01-08 02:17:03 · answer #8 · answered by Alzis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been seeing him? Maybe he's been hurt before and is afraid to get too involved in a relationship right now. If you really love him, give him some time and things might work out for you. Good luck to you!
2007-01-08 00:36:28 · answer #9 · answered by miranda h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend - NEVER, NEVER, NEVER tell a guy you love him like that. You can't really know if you LOVE him, love him until you ARE in a relationship with him and get to know him better. The "L" word scares guys off. Sounds like you're dealing with a case of lust, at least on his part. Most guys will take it whenever they can get it, from whomever they can get it. Sounds like you're young, too - have fun and like all different kinds of guys. Go out with different kinds of guys. That way, you can take what you learn from each relationship and put it in your little "relationship toolbox" for when you find the right one. ;) Good luck!
2007-01-08 00:39:00 · answer #10 · answered by LP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋