Recently we have been talking about getting married, but only six months ago we were going through a rough patch and said he wanted to leave the relationship, we live together and have a three year old son and have been with him for 12 years. We starting seeing each other at the age of fifteen and have been together ever since. In our teen years we split up several times and always got back together. We have lived together for seven years and have not split up since my teen years, we have been engaged for 5 years. Now he says he wants to marry me, what should I do.
2007-01-08 00:30:09 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Say Yes! Get Married!! You will regret later, if you would say no. After reading all the situation I have come to know that he likes you and breakups do take place but if you two have got together again time after time it means that the relationship will be successful in future. Moreover where there is love, there is also fight at times. You should take the wise decision and get married.
2007-01-08 00:45:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with some good friends and talk it through.
Think about your future and your sons future and your goals and aims.
How do you feel about this guy? What does your head say? What does your heart say?
All relationships have their ups and downs. My ralationship is going through a very stage at the moment but I am married and have been for 11 years. I will work hard with my Husband to overcome these problems and get back on track.
Marriage should not change the relationship that you already have as you have been together for many years. It would be more a sign of your commitment to each other.
Give yourself a little time and I'm sure you will know what is right for you soon.
Whatever you decide i wish you every happiness.
2007-01-08 08:45:21 · answer #2 · answered by angie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not say how old he is but my guess is that he has now grown up in body and mind and can see that you are the one and only. It sometimes takes a bit longer for a man but once the decision is made, especially after such a long time, then it will stick. Have a happy life and be patient with each other and above all give each other time and space. Best of luck.
2007-01-08 08:39:51 · answer #3 · answered by ANF 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the question is wrong it should be: "Do I love him??"
You didn't state a good reason for you to believe he does not
love you.................I'd say marry him... It takes six months (for some) to meet and marry someone and you have been with him for 12 years which is more than enough time.... you have a son and live together.... in my country when you have kids without being married you even marry without love... =D good luck
2007-01-08 09:50:04 · answer #4 · answered by xocolate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
congrats to start with, go with what u feel noone can tell u what to do or how u feel, if u dont feel completly safisfied in this relationship then dont marry him, dont just go with it as u have been together for years, heard of that saying better the devil u know. if u 100%know he loves u then go for it girl, but if ur doubing him now, to me dont sound like the best idea, it will only be worse when ur married.
U have not really gave much details and u ask does he really love me,only u should know that not any of us lot, but to me u sound totally confused, write down things that are good in the relationship and why u want to be with him, is it that ur scared of somet new.or is the question do u really love him?
2007-01-08 09:03:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart after you have followed common sense, do you want to be with him for the rest of you life, if so marry him, if not don't, but remember, with some people marriage can be the ruin of a good relationship, but that is only some, good luck in what ever you decide.
2007-01-08 09:07:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How come you got engaged 5 years ago if he has only recently said he wants to get married? Seems like he cant make his mind up what he wants.
2007-01-08 08:33:30 · answer #7 · answered by L 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i can only say- if you have to ask, the love is less than you would like it be. some relationships flourish with commitment and others don't.
obviosly if you've had a son with him and lived with him 12 years, you ARE married for all practical purposes.
2007-01-08 08:41:31 · answer #8 · answered by Lane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love him? Is he who you want to spend your life with? Are you willing to accept that there will be good and bad days?
Make your own decision, but my guess is that you haven't been just "settling" for this guy for the last 12 years or you'd have been fed up by now.
Good luck.
2007-01-08 08:39:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it all depends on how you feel about the relationship. If you dont fell like its gona' go through as long as you hope dont even try because you are going to end up in tears, or something not as worse
2007-01-08 08:44:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋