I have gave up a lot of people just to be with him, I turned down opportunities just to put him first in my list, I sacrificed more for him, I have adjusted my life style to put it in sync with his, I have tried to accepted his differences who he is and his life and everthing...
But the thing is, the relationship isn't give and take. He is very selfish when it comes from me wanting to have something from him sacrificed. I don't ask for too much, all I ever wanted from him is to lose contact and stop talking with his exes (cause it drives me insane). But he couldn't give that up. In fact, he said, he owe them alot that he just couldn't turn them down easily. I couldn't get that when I'm his gf and do I just have to get all the pain of watching them flirting and spending time together cause my bf just couldn't give up 1 thing that I want from him that would only be mine and supposedly mine!!
HELPME! I PLEASE...
2007-01-08 00:14:53 · 20 answers · asked by ♬müsic-to-yoür-ears♬ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Lady plz sorry to say this you are not suppose to be all that jealous if you love him. what he told you is truth and nothing bet the truth. Anyway if you are sure that nothing is between him and them again, that you are the only one in his life. I think he still own them a lot . he can't just stop talking to people he has known before knowing you just like that so that he will be called a coward by friends. So please try and understand him and don't forget those his exes are still his friends though he dint have much thing for them . I believe he can advise and help them in one way or the other and also they can even help him
2007-01-08 00:29:21 · answer #1 · answered by national don 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1. First and foremost thing for you to make sure is that you are the best. You look yourself in the mirror and tell yourself that you are kind, beautiful, strong, smart, healthy and always wish to use every opportunity in your life to become better. Repeat that everyday first thing in the morning and sit in the peace of your own bed room and meditate on the spirit within you that no one ; not even your boy friend, absolutely no one, can intimidate you or bother you. You are peaceful and cool.
2. Secondly, keep your space and do not let any one come within that personal, private space of yours where you are the only one in this entire world. In this space, give yourself all the opportunity to grow learning to be a better skilled person academically, professionally, and healthy & strong (Physically and Mentally).
3. You do not have time for these boyfriends who do not undersand your values and who cannot give up everything else and give themselves upto you totally. Just focus on yourself totally. It is not your physical looks that matters. It is your total self which will win the whole world for you. Do not accept any apologies of this boy and be strong. Because you have seen, be sure what he is because he is not going to change. Sexual urges can be and should be channelled and allowed to accompany matured social judgements. That is it for now. Ask me if you need more help! Arun Sharma
2007-01-08 08:38:41 · answer #2 · answered by Arunachalesa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's definately selfish. Nothing you can do about this. He's definately not going to give up the ex's. It's time for you to dump the jerk and find someone else that will treat you very well and love you.
He doesn't appear to love you at all. Otherwise he wouldn't be doing this with his ex's. He's a definate loser.
Move on and find a guy that will love you for who you are and one that isn't selfish. One that is caring and generous and considerate of your feelings.
2007-01-08 08:19:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only thig i can tell you that you will regret one day that you put your life on hold for someboday that is not willing to give 100% in the relationship . You might want to think this over . Giving up your friends ? No way ! Letting oportunities slip by ......No way ! This supposed to be the best time of your life
2007-01-08 08:28:19 · answer #4 · answered by silverearth1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man, if he cant do that, then find someone who can, I gave up everything for my Fiance, just like you, sure i could still talk to my exes, but why? i have the love of my life with me, and I'll admit i'm a pretty selfish guy, but your right, if you wanna be in a relationship, it is give and take on both parties, not just one or the other..... do the right thing hun, its not workin out for you.
2007-01-08 08:21:53 · answer #5 · answered by Jesus Built My Hotrod 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem with my partner (now my Fiancé) When i first met him 7yrs ago he had just come out of a serious 5yr relationship and still had loads of photos of her and kept in contact with her family and her. I used to go mental wiv him and had many many rows over this but to be honest none of it really hit home until i finished things wiv him and stayed away for 2wks+ then when he asked me back i came back on on ONE condition >>> Guess what i asked... It worked!! But to be honest i think that you really just need to keep on at him about it and how it makes you feel. Don't give up on the issue and ride the rows out in the long run things will work out. I hate when guys do this!!! My partner wouldnt even dream of mentioning an exs name infront of me now hahahaha
2007-01-08 08:23:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm old enough to be our Father. And, like your real Father would say? Dump That Chump!! You can't get yourself, all tied up inside. At your age? You've got Life, to explore. Do it, with someone who "REALLY" cares about you. Not with someone who has you as a token. Let's see some smiles, from now on.
2007-01-08 08:21:27 · answer #7 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes two in a relationship not 3 or 4 in his case. Dump him and find someone that really cares about your wishes and needs!!
2007-01-08 08:18:22 · answer #8 · answered by jetratkat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to dump him and move on, if a man cant give up his ex's it is because he still loves them, you two are in a relationship going nowhere. time for you to leave him and dont look back.
2007-01-08 08:19:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to change who you are and act like he wants you to act, it isn't going to last very long. Are you a puppet or a human? Don't let him lead your life for you.
2007-01-08 08:18:09 · answer #10 · answered by Rod Rod Go 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋