My sister-in-law lives across the street and has designated me to give her 2 kids a ride to school. My kids walk and we only live 3 blocks away. She won't let her kids walk without an adult and can't drive her car because its not registered. I feel used and obligated and its driving me crazy.. What should I do??
2007-01-07 23:28:45 · 24 answers · asked by Tink 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I told her how I felt so she ignored me for 4 days and walked her kids to school.. Then my brother told me I was acting like a child and how they are family and they wouldn't do that to me.. So now I am taking them to school again..
2007-01-07 23:32:52 · update #1
because my husband only works weekends in the winter (self-employed) she thinks we should take her kids to school (we both have 2 year olds at home). She will not let her 6 and 10 year olds walk with my 10 and 12 year olds even though we have crossing guards and live in a small, safe town.
2007-01-08 05:52:45 · update #2
you are right and they are wrong. her kids could walk with your kids. if she isn't comfortable letting her kids walk without and adult, then she needs to get off her lazy a** and walk with them herself or do whatever she needs to do to get her car registered. they are not your responsibility. they are hers. do not let them make you feel guilty about this. if you give in, this will only be the beginning. you will be stuck with her kids all the time.(baby sitting for free, feeding them, taking them to the dr,picking them up from school if their is a problem, etc).you have to put your foot down now before it gets out of hand. good luck.
2007-01-08 00:19:51 · answer #1 · answered by fungirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to change your ways! The very fact you asking this question means you do not have the assertive power to say no! Just practice saying it. Don't be a yes Sir! It is time to shape your world around what you want, and not hide under a rock. If you feel that she is taking advantage of you then tell her in no uncertain terms that you do not feel happy with continued responsibility. After all, isn't it better to not have her as a friend at all, if she cannot respect your feelings? Go on out there and make a stand!
2007-01-08 07:32:58 · answer #2 · answered by SupperMan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she has her own reason for doing that. Hey, afterall, she's just a parent, like you. She might be over reacting over her children's safety. You can't blame her. You are a mum too. You should know how she feels.
Ok, even though she's using you, afterall she's still your sister-in-law. If you can help her, why not? Look at the bright side, if you walk your nephew and niece to school, you can strengthen your relationship. She's a part of your family isn't she? Then you should try your best to help her. If you really can't take it no more, you can talk to her. Or your brother. Even though it doesn't solve the prob, at least you've tried right?
Just a suggestion =) Cheers~
2007-01-08 07:39:18 · answer #3 · answered by kampung_minyak 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just because she is your sister-in-law doesn't mean she has the right to use you....tell her you're busy, and to get up off her lazy *** and walk them to school - it may give her incentive to get the car registered.
PS- Family are the worst for making you feel guilty...how much life will you miss out on while they ignore you?
2007-01-08 07:33:26 · answer #4 · answered by shez_a_maneater 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you such a meanie to make kids walk all that way? Wonder their legs haven't worn off.....lmfao....OK, we'll get real. Just tell her straight, you'll drive them on wet or very cold days, the rest of the time they can walk with yours! Then when her car's registered, she can take it in turns with you!
2007-01-08 07:32:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she needs to walk her kids to school or register her car. Walking never hurt anyone.
2007-01-08 07:32:59 · answer #6 · answered by roost2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to get off her a55 and walk her own kids to school, or have them take a bus
2007-01-08 07:30:31 · answer #7 · answered by cjordan23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her politely to untie the piano from her ar$e and start walking the kids to school.
2007-01-08 07:30:48 · answer #8 · answered by C J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He should take care of his family. and the sister should take care of her family. Maybe once in awhile. but she sounds lazy. and not responsible. Why is the car not registered?
2007-01-08 10:05:39 · answer #9 · answered by LESLIE M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you do not feel comfortable with the situation, then let her know about it. it doesnt make sense for you to do it and then feel resentful. you can both put your heads together and find a satisfactory solution for both of you. either her kids walk together with yours to school or she can make alternatiive arrangements
2007-01-08 07:35:58 · answer #10 · answered by iceberg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋