My husbands daughter wants to attend college. She lives with her mom, she wants to be a vet tech. I am the step mom and stayed out of it. till we were hearing from her and her mom that they want there dad to pay and she was getting wrong info from someone on a certain college. I have a friend that her daughter went to college for the same thing. so I called her up and got a alot of info and the college that she wanted to go to didnt offer that. friend still got grants and loans and pay for it and the balance she helped her daughter with, a car is required and she doesnt have one anymore...so he told daughter that and what to dobut they do nothing they dont visit colleges she wont listen to us they wont fill out applications school or grants or loans. and i think she filling the daughters head up with its your dads fault he needs to pay. but they need to fill the papers out for school and grants and thinks cause she lives there. and the momand her now blame us. for there lazyness.
2007-01-07 23:20:33 · 7 answers · asked by shelby8687 2 in Education & Reference ➔ Financial Aid
As a financial aid director I will help you with advise on the forms for grants and loans. As the student lives with her mother her mother (and stepfather if there is one) will need to put their income on the FAFSA. If she needs a PLUS loan (Parental Loan for Undergraduate Students) either her mother or father can apply for this loan as it is based on credit.
Now if she has her mind set on one career path and chooses a school that does not offer that career path that is another issue all together and if she is not completeing any applications I wonder how she expects to be accepted and start school. I wish you the best of luck in this situation as I have seen to many students suffer when it comes to college due to parents focusing on each other more than the child.
2007-01-08 00:42:54 · answer #1 · answered by appylover 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both parents income will be counted towards any financial aide. If the Father's income is going to keep her from qualifying then he should be obligated to help. There is no reason why he can't play a more active role with his daughter and get the information on grants, applying for loans, etc. Why can't he help his daughter with these things since the Mother has failed to do so. The daughter's future should not suffer because her Mother is misguiding her. He should step up and help get her on track.
Regardless of where he lives he can still do this. If he personally can't or won't there are people you can hire to assist you with grants, applications and loans. But with technology and communication, faxes, phone, internet, etc there is no reason why he can't help her with this from any distance.
2007-01-07 23:37:36 · answer #2 · answered by Proud to be APBT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Sorry, you cannot go because you have not lifted a finger to help your own cause". That would be my response. Presumably the daughter is 18. The time for kids games is over. If she did nothing on the advice of her mother then she must understand that her mom did her no service.
FAFSA forms grant and scholarship applications must be done this month for most schools. Its time to give her her schedule.
Get the info and get back to him in two weeks. If not forget about it. Campus visits are not really required and most college info can be found on the internet.
If she cannot complete this work right now she will not be able to complete a course study.
Cold reality. If she can not get off her butt and get this stuff done NOW, she should learn this simple phrase, " do you want fries with that?"
2007-01-07 23:31:43 · answer #3 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure exactly what your question is, but I think that if your husband is still the girl's legal father (no one else has adopted her), then his income will still be considered when she applies for loans and grants. Personally, I think it is the girl's responsibility to find the right school and the information she needs, then forward whatever forms are necessary to your husband. Seems to me that her mother, as her legal guardian, also needs to be playing a more active role. Sounds like the two of them are counting on (you and) your husband to do this whole thing for them. As a father who lost a child to divorce, I feel I have a moral obligation to help my child, but she and her mother (who chose to leave) have an obligation to do the work of finding out what needs to be done. In my part of the country we have a saying: "Wish in one hand and sh*t in the other, and see which one fills up fastest." I think your husband's daughter needs to learn that lesson. I know it's going to be hard for you; you didn't ask for this kind of financial burden, but I do think the father should help his child help herself. Hope this helps.
2007-01-07 23:33:11 · answer #4 · answered by peter_lobell 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose you could go directly to the daughter herself. Give her a handful of brochures and applications to prove that it is actually available, as this information may not be getting to her. Don't fill her head with crazy ideas, as she is still living with her mum, you don't want to cause any rift between them. the most you can do is provide her with all the information available, and if nothings happens from that, then at least you tried.
2007-01-07 23:30:53 · answer #5 · answered by Clueless 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them when they file for grants you will pay half of whats left. And leave it at that.
2007-01-07 23:31:01 · answer #6 · answered by Granny 1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you both did the right thing. If her mom is mad because of what happened let her deal with oyu both did what you had to do which was find information
2007-01-08 00:32:01 · answer #7 · answered by keya j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋