My ex called me and I returned her call........ we been broke up for almost 3 years now and I still care for her but at same time I dont wanna rush anything.... she still love me too we have dated different people and still love each other. She asks me if I will wait for her and let her move back here to be with me in future so if I honestly care about her and love her should I wait for her and let my heart give it another shot or what?? she said she is coming out of her currentr relationship (no details known) but she still love me in her heart and she wanna be with me again so worth another shot if we both feel the same way or not?
2007-01-07 22:46:18 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you want to "wait" thats fine, but dont really wait for her...coming out of a relationship?? its not a twelve step process, and in a way, its not really good to jump from one relationship to another. i wouldnt move in together..no no no!! let her have her own place, you have yours...date..do whatever, but it really isnt a good idea that she just jumps into you like that, even if you two have feelings. remember, this is your EX, dont rush it, but there is no harm in starting it up, just take your time into it this time around. please dont let her move IN with you after leaving a relationship...thats just a bad ideaand its not fair for YOU! and remember too, even if love is still there, im sure the two of you have somewhat changed, you need to rebuild trust aswell. if you are going to try again..just do it right and protect yourself. this is your ex for a reason....!
2007-01-07 22:56:59 · answer #1 · answered by dianek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear friend,
There is a reason WHY you left each other in the first place. Think about THAT.
It is commendable that, after 3 years of separation, you still "love" each other. But is it really love? Is it familiarity? Or are you merely COMFORTABLE with someone you once shared your life and heart with?
Time has a way of diminishing pain. We remember we've been hurt, but somehow, after a period of time has elapsed, the impact and severity of our discomforts seem trivial.
It seems as if you both are still LEANING on each other but are not truly LOVING each other. She is in yet ANOTHER failing relationship, and you seem to be available and waiting.
1,095+ days (3+ years) is a LONG TIME to be alone and lonely, my friend. Get out there and LIVE! Your image, via your question here, strongly shows you to be a mature, loyal and loving man. These qualities are highly desireable to woman; even to your ex. I suggest you explore your options before re-entering your former relationship.
Why?
1. YOU HAVE CHANGED. Even though you may not realize it, you have GROWN from the experience. This growth may make whatever differences you both had, seem even greater.
2. YOU HAVE MEMORIES. Arguments, and things said during arguments, may resurface. Even though you both may have agreed to start over, you still have a past together and many times, that past will overlap into your future. Not a good thing.
3. YOU ARE LONELY. If not, would you even consider her "offer" to return to you when "she "comes out of her relationship?"
Think, man... THINK!
Life is too short for unhappiness.
Life has MUCH to offer, and many GOOD adventures await you. Stop looking back.
Instead, focus on the future and what you want to enjoy from it.
Then, make it happen.
Good luck to you!
2007-01-08 07:30:17 · answer #2 · answered by GMarieP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going back out with an ex is like putting dirty pants on. Theres a reason you guys split up. Why go over all old ground and have to wait for this girl, just so you can be a rebound thing from her old relationship, when you could find someone else who is there ready to love you unconditionally?
2007-01-08 06:50:10 · answer #3 · answered by The Sooz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait for her? I dont think so. I think she issetting herself up so she isnt alone at some point. She said the future- do you even want someone who plays games like that and will put you in the constant worry in the future if she is looking for someother guy. Love- I dont think it is. Maybe more you her and I know for a fact if I really loved that person I wouldnt waste a second more with someone else- let alone 3 years
2007-01-08 06:48:44 · answer #4 · answered by Jene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could have a shot, but you need to keep in mind you broke up for a reason and depending on what it was all the old issues could come back to haunt the relationship.
2007-01-08 06:49:05 · answer #5 · answered by caralinar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait for her. I can tell the both of you really love each other. It will work out you just got to have faith. Good luck
2007-01-08 06:50:12 · answer #6 · answered by blazin_cripz_2006_0wner.sheena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rebound,,,try to remember why it didn't work the first. Move on,or if you want just be a friend.
2007-01-08 06:49:34 · answer #7 · answered by 1 Hot Cynthia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow...she's a smart woman....lining a replacement up before she is done with this relationship....I would go real slow with this one....sounds like she is just one of those people that uses others....good luck
2007-01-08 06:48:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think not if she want's to finish her curent relatio don't wait for her.....and the thing that shi loves you i'ts bullshit if shi loves you and you love her then she have to brake up with that guy
2007-01-08 06:50:13 · answer #9 · answered by mansonxxx_xxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look!
Only YOU can answer this....really!
You should not in any way, expect one of us....who have no idea?...to answer a correct answer?...how can we....
2007-01-08 06:48:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋