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If you leave an abusive partner, does it sort out the problem,
or should you correct this problem before you break up, so as
not to send a problem straight into someone elses life............

2007-01-07 22:39:47 · 13 answers · asked by gorglin 5 in Health Mental Health

13 answers

Since the problem usually has more than one element, it's a good idea to sort them out, one by one, and handle them independently. If it's just him, leave him. Too bad you can't hang a sign around his neck. Trying to fix him, though, is not your responsibility.

2007-01-07 22:44:05 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Peachy® 7 · 2 0

If you are the abusive partner then probably what you need is "anger management", there are courses out there for that, along with a trainer.

If you are the person thinking about leaving because your partner is abusive then consider that there are 2 things wrong, first, the other person needs "anger management" training....and you need psychological help too to be trained to learn how not to be stepped on. The next person your partner goes with may not let them step on them and might encourage them to get help moreso than you can do it with your weakness. But in your situation both of you need assistance/training, and with the weakness on both your parts, even like people who do AA fall back into the habit sometimes, so therefore I would think both of you should end the relationship, find other partners (after training), and stay away for good from that person or this will be a repeat performance.

2007-01-07 22:47:02 · answer #2 · answered by sophieb 7 · 1 0

Good question!

Leaving an abusive realtionship it is the first positive step to sorting out the problem.

First of all it will give a person confidence that they are worth more than what their abusive partner inflicted on them.

Secondly, when a person leaves an abusive relationship, it helps them collect their thoughts and regroup. They can then think more clearly without the fear or stress of their abusive partner. Once they can think more clearly they can decide the next course of action and set goals for themself.

Leaving an abusive relationship does not 'sort out the problem' but it is a very healthy first step!

2007-01-07 22:50:26 · answer #3 · answered by Feta Smurf 5 · 0 0

depends on what you mean by correcting the problem. leaving an abusive relationship is always the most important here. if the relationship is physically abusive, charges can be filed, and often the courts will make it a condition that the abuser goes to anger management classes. but in my opinion, staying in an abusive relationship, to *correct * the problem is not a good idea. you can always speak to close friends and family, with hope that future victims can be warned.

2007-01-07 23:17:35 · answer #4 · answered by catywhumpass 5 · 0 0

Get out of the relationship before you start thinking it's normal or reasonable for you to be abused! Abusive partners will often try and convince you that it's your fault - it isn't!

2007-01-07 22:48:32 · answer #5 · answered by Iridflare 7 · 2 0

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2016-12-28 09:26:14 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

I fail to see how the person being abused can "sort out the problem".

I do suppose that you can assist in creating the environment where the abuser can decide whether he/she wants to sorth his/her problem out. Personally I will just leave, and if the abuse constitute a crime report him/her to to police.

2007-01-07 22:51:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Leaving an abusive relationship will not sort out the problem. there are many ways to change people way of thinking . you have to findout which way will be suitable to sort out your present problems. you can discuss your solutions in a new place which will have an good impact towards sucess.

2007-01-07 22:49:36 · answer #8 · answered by ramesh_bharathan 1 · 1 1

You cannot correct it. my Dad is an abuser. When you break up, watch your back. you might need a restraining order. My Dad beat up my Mom, and tried to kill his new wife.

Abusers dont change. Save yourslef

2007-01-08 07:29:28 · answer #9 · answered by dragon3652001 2 · 0 0

if you have children, their is a problem. if the partner doesn't want to leave you, you should move, or get protection.
but if you are civilized people, leaving the relationship will do.
don't try to argue this with him, he will convince you to stay.
worry about yourself, dot try to resolve someone Else's problem.
you where already hurt. want more?

2007-01-07 22:49:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

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