We went out over the weekend with friends and he was rude and critical to me for basically the entire night. He'd say things which would embarrass me until i got pissed off and avoided him for the entire night. At the end of th night he comes to tell me bye, almost as if unaware of how much he hurt me, but I ignored him. he didn't call or anything for a day... i sent him a text calling him a jerk for the way he behaved and he responded saying 'ok that's fine i understand.' No apology. No let's talk. No anything.
I know in relationships we are supposed to resolve things but even though this has been the first time he's done anything remotely as awful as what he did, i really am not inclined to be the one to initiate a resolution. Am I wrong?
P.S He wasn't drunk.
2007-01-07 21:41:12 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
say goodbye to him as soon as you can and run !! you're a sweet girl and you are gonna get some one who treats you with more respect but seriously this guy is not the one for you. its a sign. Trust me and break up as soon as you can, or you''l regret it !
2007-01-07 21:46:49 · answer #1 · answered by spin spin sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not wrong and your feelings are very important.If he wasn't drunk,not that that should be an excuse for bad behavior but never the less his lack of consideration for your well being and emotional turmoil is very crass.Even after telling him your feelings he has offered you no remorse so my friend this is not a good person to be with or around.He is going to be damaging to your self esteem and self worth.You will go out of your way to please him but not get the same back and eventually it will become the dynamic between the two of you.Always know that you train people on how to treat you;if you keep telling him that it's ok to be this dis respective to you and your feelings then that is the way he will treat you because he will know that he can get away with it.You deserve and need better then that.Listen if you got him then you can certainly get another.Enjoy life but never sell yourself out.Good luck and God bless.peace.Riz>...
2007-01-08 05:53:33 · answer #2 · answered by Shalimaar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, this guy is first, NOT in to you, and second he is very ill-mannered. Unless you are prepared to have him walk all over you for the remainder of your life, ditch him now. DO NOT call or text him to let him know either. Just drop him and move on. He is NOT your friend!!!
Ultimately, you can only change one person...yourself. Do you really want to spend your time, energy and money "pushing" a string? People only change when it is in their best interest to do so. Obviously he is not unhappy with his quirkiness. And cares not the least that you are!
Dating is a numbers game. The more you get out and meet others, the greater your chances to find the love of your life.
2007-01-08 05:48:49 · answer #3 · answered by dragunov 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
learn to use the power of your smile and don't let an ignorant person get you down
a real man would not behave in such a way without saying sorry and really meaning it and showing it in a way that you would feel that you were hearing the 'truth' from a male.. i'll apologize profusely on behalf of that ignorant swine
if i have caused you to smile then you are on the right track but keep in mind if this happened once it could happen again so remember that you and your smile are so much stronger than any thing.....person or pig
2007-01-08 06:09:47 · answer #4 · answered by crunchie115 c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel badly for you that this guy treated you so shabbily; I can understand you being upset. I do not think it wrong that you are upset nor that you do not want to take the first step to reconcile with him; I suggest that it might be best for you to consider him as no longer part of your life.
He seems to have shown quite clearly that he does not really care about you, especially if you and him are arguing. I wish you all the best.
2007-01-08 05:53:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The good side of it is that you got friends. Some of us not only lack someone who loves us, but we don't even have friends.
Ok, what is behind this? You must have done something he has misinterpreted. A person does not act that way unless s/he is hurt. I have a feeling we're not hearing the whole story.
2007-01-08 05:52:05 · answer #6 · answered by tlakkamond 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope. well maybe for calling him a jerk after 2days. But some men are like that, they use their better halfs as the butt of their dumb jokes and think its o k because you haven't said anything to tell him you weren't impressed.
He needs to know how you feel because he honestly, probably isn't aware of how you do, right now.
2007-01-08 05:50:51 · answer #7 · answered by saynhope 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's his way of breaking up with you hon.
Guys can be very immature - it's a "high school thing" (my husband hit 40 and started doing the same thing). Basically they don't have the balls to confront you and tell you so they treat you like crap so that you will break up with them and they don't have to wear any blame.
Ditch the creep. Get over him. Don't call. Please move on. Nobody needs to be treated like that.
Take care.
2007-01-08 05:45:45 · answer #8 · answered by aquiellez 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Its you it hurt, you better be the one to break the ice, who knows how long it might take for him to wake up. Least you lose something that belongs to you and regret! Don't mean to be rude but I suggest you swallow your stupid pride.
2007-01-08 05:52:39 · answer #9 · answered by Another face in the crowd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste your time thinking about him, he does not deserve you, put your eyes in another person, Dont be sad, be happy you are in time to look for another persons, that treat you well and love you. godo luck
2007-01-08 05:45:38 · answer #10 · answered by pelancha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋