Ok here's the deal. My ex girlfriend tried to fight me at work the other day(we work together) because she wanted to argue and I don't care for her enough to satisfy that. Now here's the story. 4 months ago I left to go to college and she cheated on me and left me for the guy when I came home to visit a month later. It didn't hurt at all really. I wasn't in love with her but I was trying to be. But I digress. Anyway it's four months later and she wants me back. She hates me because I don't speak or anything. I don't see a reason to actually. She knows she was wrong and that's all the explanation I need. I don't care for this girl at all but she keeps trying to fight me. I know she misses me but I don't want to deal with her crazy ***. Please tell me why she would be this way and what I can do to make her leave me the hell alone. Thanks for your time have an nice day.
2007-01-07 21:24:59 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she prob realises she made a mistake and its driving her crazy as to why she would be so stupid, love can make people act crazy which seems to be how she is acting right now...........or maybe she just one of those people who need to be important and is p*ssed that you dont seem to care about her anymore. Maybe she thought you might cheat on her in college and wanted to beat you to the punch, i dont know for sure.
how to deal with either one, just calmly and gently explain that youve moved on and you dont want to upset her but thats just the way it is.
Dont get mad cos then you'll give her the fight shes looking for, which she prob wants in order to get out all her frustations and feeling of rejection on you.
2007-01-07 21:31:31 · answer #1 · answered by spdy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She wants closure! Tell her flat out how you feel.
Here's what you should do.......
*tell her you realize she needs closure and you're going to give her some.
*tell her you felt betrayed and just don't feel like dealing with the ugliness of it all.
*tell her you're not interested in anything more with her and she should just move on.
*tell her you're quiet because you don't want any drama and the fact that you work together doesn't give her the right to bother you with personal issues.
*tell her things happen for a reason and that you wish her all the best.
***you may want to consider switching departments.
Good Luck as this is never easy and always leaves a empty feeling in the pit of the stomach.
2007-01-08 05:43:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should really talk to her heart to heart. If the style that you're doing now doesnt work for her to leave you alone, maybe, talking to her in a really sincere manner would touch her heart. Make her understand that theres no use trying to win you back because you're not in love with her and you dont care about her but dont make her feel rejected. Try to at least make her feel that you're still concerned about her though you dont love her anymore. Try to be friends with her. I'm sure it will melt her heart down. Good luck!
2007-01-08 05:33:04 · answer #3 · answered by Marge 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a computer, use it to your advantage. You know this girl's home address? Then type up a serious, mature, non-threatening letter to her expressing your wishes for her to leave you be. Tell her in the letter that you have already contacted legal help, and if she continues to harass you at work and it causes you to leave/be terminated from your job, charges can and will be brought against her. Look up "legal templates" in Yahoo search, and print up a legal looking document that will back up your statement. Put them in an envelope and have a friend that SHE DOES NOT KNOW hand deliver the envelope to her. Make sure the friend is dressed up real nicely (suit or otherwise).
2007-01-08 05:35:30 · answer #4 · answered by Detroit Diva 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh boy! Ok, first of all guy, NEVER EVER date a co-worker, ha,ha,ha. Tell her she made her choice and your sorry it didn't work out for her, and that it's HER problem, not yours! I'm glad you really didn't care much for her though otherwise she'd have hurt you and your feelings with her selfishness. I'm a female and I HATE bitches like that that S hit on guys. It gives us a bad reputation, you know? I'd tell her that you have a REAL, HONEST girlfriend that you love and she needs to get over HERSELF! Yeah, it maybe a fib, but you don't need anymore of her bull. If she's bothering you at work, talk to your boss. Maybe your not the first person she's bothered at work and maybe this time here will make the door open for her to go out. You seem like a well focused kinda guy, I'm sure your boss will pay attention. Want me to kick her azz? Good luck guy, I feel for ya.
2007-01-08 05:31:55 · answer #5 · answered by Wutz it worth 2 ya? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well she probably want you back either cause ur drop dead gorgeous or shes a loner and needs a man to make herself look good.
If u dont want her just speak up the tell her off. tell her to piss off and leave yooh alone. and telll her that you hav no feelings toward her
2007-01-08 05:33:57 · answer #6 · answered by tkay. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know her so I don't know why she would be this way. Tell her you don't love her and why would she want to be with someone who does not have feelings for her in return?
Tell her you are interested in someone else.
If she is stalking and harrassing you, get an order of protection against her.
2007-01-08 05:37:44 · answer #7 · answered by KuriousKitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants what she can't have! you have become a challenge to her. You need to drop her totally...get rid of her completely!! Hopefully, she will get the hint but if she does not get the hint than maybe you need to file a restraining order on her!!! Good luck!!
2007-01-08 05:30:08 · answer #8 · answered by September Sweetie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that she betrayed you and that you cannot forgive her for that.... Place all blame on her and pretend you wetre very hurt and that you cannot take it off your mind; and that even if you forgave her you would never trust her, and that for you trust is a must..... ALL THE BEST! Don't force yourself if you don't love her. She will heal sooner or later and both of you will move on.
2007-01-08 05:37:22 · answer #9 · answered by pretty1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
TELL HER THAT YOU DON'T WANT NOTHING TO DO WITH HER, AND FOR HER TO LEAVE YOU ALONE, TELL HER THAT YOU ARE SORRY BUT MY FEELINGS HAS CHANGED, AND I HAVE MOVED ON. AND IF YOU WANT TO FIGHT YOU WILL BE FIGHTING YOURSELF. JUST IGNORE HER THE NEXT TIME, DON'T PICK UP THE PHONE IF ITS HER, OR IF YOU DO PICK THE PHONE UP AND ITS HER , JUST KEEP HANGING UP. GOOD LUCK.
2007-01-08 05:31:20 · answer #10 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋