i took some time from my last relationship 6 years ago and got to know me and decided that i wanted to work on me and what i like and wanted in life,well then the time came i felt ready to date ,and i woke up and im 40years old.,i do not look like i have aged ,i still look 25 many say im beautiful and have wonderful traits,and say im a great friend,but,however no one is busting my door down,so now what,ive been told,dont look so hard ,you will find him,so i stopped looking,hello people its been 4 years where is he,im not gettn any younger
2007-01-07 21:23:16 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Love will find you when you least expect it. I know its corny, but it worked for me. I say, dont look at all. Just go about your business, and I am sure, someone will stumble upon you.
2007-01-07 21:35:33 · answer #1 · answered by chickenboyalabama 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't put all the blame on him. He continues to do this because you let him, because you want more and somewhere inside you you are clinging to the hope that it will turn into more. But he is NOT going to leave his wife for you, he has made that clear. What he is doing is a form a cheating, even though it's not physical, but so are you. I am a "then what" kind of person. If you do make a move on him, and he accepts, and you end up in a physical relationship with him......then what? Will that pull him away from his wife? Will it destroy a family along with a marriage? Are you prepared to deal with his hurt, jelous and angry wife when she finds out who you are? The kids? Are you ready to deal with all the drama that comes with a work place relationship? Do you really need all this in your life? Is he worth it? You are teetering on a fence right now and can go either way. You need to decide what is best for you and your life right now. If it is to continue like this, then so be it. But my view of it is you need to get some distance between you and him and tell him to back off. If you can't bring yourself to think of him as just a friend, then you need to stop all contact and move on.
2016-05-23 09:17:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The trick is not to look, he will find you when the time is right, sounds a bit 'heard this beforish'.
It isn't I'm 44 and was on my own for 10 years or so and honestly thought the same thing but two years ago I meet the guy I am with and am quite happy, he is one of the nice guys that we all look for so if I can be lucky I can guarantee you will be too.
Keep happy.
2007-01-07 21:28:37 · answer #3 · answered by polynesiachick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might have to actually do more to find him. It sucks and at 40 the last thing you probably want to do is go to clubs or force yourself to be more sociable but it may be a matter of deciding you're going to find him and doing whatever you can to do it. It may mean going on dates to find out that you don't like a hell of a lot of guys before you find the right one. Have you considered the internet? You can get to know someone as much as you want before you meet them and the good thing about it is that everyone on there is looking for a relationship. In other situations you meet people who may not be looking for love so at least you get them out of the picture from the beginning. I know lots of people who the internet has worked for and all of them were over 32, people who were sick of clubs, knew who they were and what they wanted so it's an option if you're safe and clever about it.
2007-01-07 21:29:18 · answer #4 · answered by punkvixen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He lives in western PA. Anyway, as my friend Hank always says, "Mike, you can't waste the rest of your life sitting on the bleacher waiting for the girl to come ask you to dance." I'm 26 and I've realized that you do have to be active in trying to find a relationship. You might miss the best thing in your life if you don't go for it. Make that first move, it might just be the best thing you ever do. If you'd like more insight, feel free to e-mail me at BigGuyMikePA@yahoo.com
2007-01-07 21:26:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hear ya sister. It's been almost five years for me and I, too, am in my forties.
My ex-husband has been going on lavalife (internet) and met some girls he has been dating and it seems to have worked out for him. I also know of three other people who have met people and gotten married on that site (and match.com and all those kinds of sites).
The old thing is to do volunteer work in the type of tihngs you like in hopes there are single guys there that will naturally have the same interests as you.
Best of luck - I really hope it all works out for you. Remember, they are out there - it's just a matter of finding them! :)
2007-01-07 21:29:00 · answer #6 · answered by aquiellez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your trying to hard or just freakin' out a little toooo early.
2007-01-07 22:49:50 · answer #7 · answered by nbr660 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ARE YOU JUST WAITING AT HOME OR ARE YOU GOING OUT . I REALLY DON'T KNOW WHAT TO TELL YOU. I'M SINGLE AND IN MY 40'S TO. IF I FIND ONE THATS FINE, IF I DON'T THATS FINE TOO. I'M JUST WATCHING OUT FOR MY SELF, AND IF IT WAS MEAN'T FOR YOU TO DATE IT WILL HAPPEN JUST BE PATIENT. GO AND LOOK, IF YOU DON'T GO OUT LOOKING , YOU ARE NOT GOING TO FIND ONE. GOOD LUCK.
2007-01-07 21:27:19 · answer #8 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know its the same thing to me,im honest and trusted person. gfb1174@yahoo in case you change your mind.
2007-01-07 22:12:42 · answer #9 · answered by ghee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't give up looking all together... try a bit, just don't make it obsessive. i think that's what they meant by don't look so hard... not stop looking.
2007-01-07 21:27:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋