the dad still lives with his mom n dad, lives off em , puts me down for being temporarily on assistance, I have had some good jobs in my lifetime............now he's threatening me that he's going to take me to court and take my baby away from me.....yet he has no job, and seriously no answers about money, cuz neither of us has our own in the end I know, I do rely on the gov't for now...but I need some solid advice on how I should react to his threats and how to protect my family cuz after all I had this baby on my own and am taking good care of her, she is healthy and a happy baby.....I guess I should just ditch him and hope the legal system is going to be on my side??? Anyone with experience??? I am feelin a bit hopeless......
2007-01-07 21:11:09 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
ok, so now he's tellin me his lawyer has been waitin til the babys' 6 months old, what does that have to do with it...he still has no job and lives off his folks..plus he has a history of drug use...is he just tryin to freak me out, I ain't really buyin it but I'd appreciate some opinions, and I know it took two make this baby, but his own momma from day one that she knew I was preggs cuz I told her first before he ever got round to it, told me "it is the woman's responsibilty to prevent pregnancy"
2007-01-07 21:28:43 · update #1
hi there....well he isnt being very nice are you by any chance having problems with his parents at allat the moment .....if so i wouldnt be suprized if this is coming from them ....if there is problems ......he has some nerve slagging you off to his parents you are doing a great job looking after youre and his daughter .....my best bit of advice is go to a advice center and get the real legal advice that you need to know ...as i dont know where you live if you are in the uk citizens advice will help you out and every thing is in confidence .....the courts look at all the care of the child involved and by the way youre are not the only person how is getting help from the goverment at ant time ......there are parents out there that have really good jobs and do not care about there kids .....i hope this helps you ......youre doing a great job .....youre baby girl loves you .....take care xx
2007-01-07 21:22:04 · answer #1 · answered by a parent hows been there !! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The court will decide which parent is more suitable to give the child a better childhood. I don't understand why he wants to take the baby now when he didn't want to take the responsibility before the child is born. If you do, and the reason is not good for the baby, play it out in court and hope for the best. It would be good for you to put some effort into being a responsible parent, like get a part time job for the time being while you're waiting to get to court. Best of luck.
2007-01-08 09:51:24 · answer #2 · answered by Gnisy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him. Next time he trys to say this to you tell him GOOD! Tell him to try and take you to court and while you are there you will sue for child support from him. Even if he does not have a job the child support bills will stack up on him and eventually it will prevent him from evert rying to leave the state if he does not pay them all. The child will always stay with the mother unless you are using drugs or abusing the child. Talk to your social worker and let her know whats going on. SHe will help you out and the state will pay for your lawyer to take him to court. Also talk to your social worker about them paying for child care/ daycare. In Washington state they will pay for full time child care, then you can get a full or part time job and he cant say you dont have a job.
2007-01-08 05:19:10 · answer #3 · answered by I hate stupid ppl like you 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand your upset with him for the hateful things hes done to you but you didnt have the baby on your own you cant keep your child away from the father because of your own problems with him its not fair to the child "the child is the best intrest" my advice do what i do try your hardest to get along with him ( you dont have to suck up just dont start the problem or keep it going) get a job dont be picky anyjob at this point is better than no job legal system doesnt always work the way you want it too.
2007-01-08 05:19:46 · answer #4 · answered by comacati 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should go to the Citizen Advice Bureau or go and get some legal help. I'm pretty sure that he will not be able to take your daughter away from you but you should seek some advice about the situation. I think that the legal system will be on your side, but he might be granted access rights. But get some legal advice, so that you know where you stand
2007-01-08 05:18:15 · answer #5 · answered by Baps . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is on yourside! Any child is better off with its mother that is the courts position. You just need to find some evidence that he is an unfit father. One is the fact that he is still living with is mother. I am sure you can find out more. Good Luck! Good for you not giving the baby the fathers name!
2007-01-08 05:18:47 · answer #6 · answered by sunshine090892 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't have a job, I don't see how he could take the kid away from you. You should definitely ditch him and refuse to allow him to see the baby. As long as you provide for all of the babies needs and it has a good place to stay you should be alright.
2007-01-08 05:14:05 · answer #7 · answered by Metal 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well hun congrads on the baby well if he trys to fight for the baby he more than likely wont get her cuz he has no job and they uslely go with the moms side any way the only way really is if you are puting the baby in danger or doing durgs by the baby good luck hun
2007-01-08 05:15:19 · answer #8 · answered by ASHLEY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could find another bloke and form a more stable family environment. The court will definitely pick your environment if it is more conducive to good little social norms
2007-01-08 05:15:27 · answer #9 · answered by SupperMan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Courts will not take a baby from his mother unless she has proven to be very abusive. So do not worry about his threats, thats all they are is threats.
2007-01-08 11:08:41 · answer #10 · answered by daisy322_98 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋