There was a fight between me and dad.After the fight he kept quite for sometime. I realised my mistake and even asked for pardon. But he said that I hurt him so much that he has started feeling that he is going to die.
What should I do now to console him
2007-01-07 20:41:01 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't know what the cause of the fight between you and your dad is, but may I ask if he has done this before; mention that he feels he is going to die, after you've had a fight?
In my opinion, he is using this sort of threats as a weapon against you because he knows that you do care for him, and so by saying that he is going to die, he is reestablishing his control over you. If he has been doing this to you all these years, just ignore him. My parents used to use this sort of thing as a weapon against me when I was a small child and it scared the hell out of me when my mother started banging her head against the wall repeatedly and my father refused to talk to me. Don't fall into his trap, please.
2007-01-07 21:39:49 · answer #1 · answered by xander 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, move on and let time pass---please have respect for the man and talk with a civil tongue---I don't know what it was about or what you said to hurt him, but he needs time and you just need to stop talking about it. When you see him, smile, say hi and keep it light for a while. Rules are rules and if he gives you limits it is because he has a reason for it.... generally your well being is at the top of the list. When you reach 18 you can do what you want--but for now you need to be nice and respectful. Good luck
2007-01-08 05:05:15 · answer #2 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I from my own experience feel that you need to resolve this matter before he does die, if he does... I had a similar problem with my dad years ago, and he hung up the phone on me, (we lived in different states) it was 2 weeks before my birthday, and I never received anything from him, or for christmas or anything.. I never talked to him again. many times I thought of writing him, and I did, but I never sent the letter.. one year later almost to the date, He committed suicide, I never was able to tell him I was sorry. or anything.. Don't let that happen to you, If you care about your dad and you love him, and you made a mistake, or he didn't understand what happened, talk to him, let him know you care and love him, and that your not perfect and only wanted his advice because he is your dad and you respect him..
Don't let it just ride the wind.. talk to him now.. or it may be too late one day, and you can't change it if he should pass away..
Do it! Do it Today...
2007-01-08 04:47:53 · answer #3 · answered by Spirit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him Calm down and after a day or so get close and tease him , make him feel that u are his lil girl , he would accept your pardon. But an advice for life, your parents are the only one on this planet who want u better than them so every thing and any comment they tell you is based on their experience and that they dont want u to try something that might hurt you , trust me on this. Good luck.
2007-01-08 04:44:37 · answer #4 · answered by seeker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a cruel head trip for a father to play on his child. Shame on him. Explain to him that if he loves you he will forgive you, just as you will forgive him for saying such cruel things to you.
2007-01-08 04:51:45 · answer #5 · answered by truthseeker221 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you convince him by the way of presenting gift to him.and promise him in future i will not fight you. you should remember the proverb
THERE IS ANY OTHER MANTRA OTHER THAN FATHER^S WORD
2007-01-08 05:31:00 · answer #6 · answered by rameshhemavathy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds a bit like emotional blackmail,trying to make you feel guilty.
2007-01-08 04:49:46 · answer #7 · answered by Allan W 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
pray and ask the Lord for forgiveness because of what you have done to your father and beg Him to help you talk to your father..
talk to your father and say sorry.
explain to him why you have done that.. ask for his forgiveness and promise him that you will never do that again..
2007-01-08 04:47:28 · answer #8 · answered by michaella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say sorry to him. say to him he was right abbuot the thing yous were fighting about
2007-01-08 04:46:25 · answer #9 · answered by fionn hannon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just don't stop. buy something he likes and give him as a gift with a sorry card.
2007-01-08 06:56:21 · answer #10 · answered by FairGround 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋