i was with my gf 4 just under 4 yrs we had been together since i was 21 and were/are deeply in love. we both had trust issues and in july 06 she left me. i was a bit blaize at the time as she had threatnend to leave aload of times over the 3 n a half years. we slept together since(oct,nov) but she also told me she met a guy at church who she befriended (this was apparantly a week b4 we split) who likes her alot. i gave her space as she asked 4 but her txt always reffered to a future together someday but with trust. on xmas day i went up to say hi to her fam (as i do) and to my shock he was there. i left shortly and she came down to my house an hour or so after he left. she told me they may get together she has slept with him (coz she thought i moved on) but wants me in her life. Now i cant stop thinking and dreaming of her. i told her how i felt, even that i want to get married yet she wont meet me face to face as they r together now. says she still lvs me but cares for him now.
2007-01-07 20:31:25 · 13 answers · asked by asher 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
let her go... she's selfish.. she want you to just be there and see her happy. that's not fair. it's not fair for her to tell you that she still loves you and yet she's with another guy. she's giving you false hopes...if she really loves you then why is she with another guy?! DUH?! to me she's like having the time of her life feeling like HELEN OF TROY..leave her..even if its painful.. . just go.
you dream of her... it's the subconscious that's working in you..i do believe that you love her. but for your sake.. love yourself more. there are alot of things and girls out there. don't be afraid to let go...pain is just temporary.. but if you dwell on it.. the longer you will get over it. divert that pain into something useful.. say work out or paint or just do whatever you feel that will make you busy at the same time happy..
2007-01-07 20:45:30 · answer #1 · answered by anette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am sorry that you are in this unfortunate situation. It seems that every thing between you is over. Though it is not going to be easy you have to move on. You have to convince your self that she has no value but harm to your life now. It is very unlikely that you are going to be together again. And it should not be by any means. She is selfish and not caring. she may be a very emotional woman. So dear face the truth. Be firm and brave to let this feeling go. There are a lot of nice women out there.
Good Luck!!
2007-01-07 20:58:20 · answer #2 · answered by Sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the worst place for you to be. She can not end the relationship and by her saying she thought YOU had moved on, meant she had.
My thoughts on this is that she is having 'cake and eating it too'. She no longer wants to be with you as she now has her new boyfriend. She doesn't want to let you go as you are her back stop if this doesn't work out.
And giving a partner space just means they want out. She knows you still care for her so is she saying she still 'loves' you? Or, is that what you are hearing? Either way it is time to let go and leave her be with her new boyfriend and for you to start enjoying your life as an eligable bachelor.
2007-01-07 20:44:38 · answer #3 · answered by sag_kat2chat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she loved you she would not be with someone else. She is just stringing you along as a backup in case this new guy does not work out. Do not give her that power, you are worth more then that. Find someone worthy of you and worthy of you loving them. She obviously isnt ready for commitment as she is screwing someone else. If she loved you she would have taken her time to THINK not have random sex with some guy from "church". Think clearly and let this go.
2007-01-07 20:40:03 · answer #4 · answered by J&A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont stay in her life if she dont wont to get back with you! you wont be able to fully move on until you stop talking to her, just tell her that you cannot talk to her anymore! she didnt love you are she wouldnt have slept with him! its just better to count your loses and move on with your life without her! to much has changed and that will never work out! and besides what kind of girl is she if she was looking for another guy before she even broke up with you ?
i went through this once with my ex, she was always with him and kissing him while i was around! i felt like it was ripping my heart apart i even went as far to cut my rist, i was very lucky to have lived but in time i got over it and found true love! i am now married to a wonderful women! so dont waste your life on her! lifes way to short to be wasted on someone that doesn't care about you. you can do better. besides if it doesnt work with the church guy she'll try to run back to you as a back up! she'll tell you shes sorry and how big of a mistake it was! that's BS dont believe it, and dont be the backup cause she'll ruin your life.
2007-01-07 20:37:05 · answer #5 · answered by † Dark Prince † 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though it is hard to let go, you need to.. It sounds to me like she is keeping you just close enough to her just in case it doesn't work out with this other guy. then she can jump back into your arms. but what if she doesn't come back, then you are left waiting for someone who left you for someone else anyways.. if she left you this time, and you did get back together, what makes you think she wouldn't do that to you again. it would cause some issues between the two of you if you did get back together, I would think.. move on.. let go of her.. find someone who cares about who your are and what your about.. someone who you can build trust with...
2007-01-07 20:40:27 · answer #6 · answered by Spirit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lady aint ready for commitment. I know it's hard to but I think you should move on. You cant be a part of her life when she is with someone else. You have trust issues already! Let her go. You'll get someone worth your love.
2007-01-07 20:45:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She met a guy "at church" and has had sex with him?
What a freaking hyppocritical woman she is. You can't seriously go to church and be a believer, and then have sex with another person from church.
I don't know where your spiritual beliefs are - but if you too are a churchgoer, you need to dump her altogether, and be celibate.
If you don't want to be celibate, then stop going to church, and don't be a hyppocrite!
2007-01-07 20:38:13 · answer #8 · answered by Michael, Count de Berçon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Goodnight, lovely<3
2016-05-23 08:55:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ugh! if she does, she wont care for the other guy! wake up dude! time to go! move on! your still alive dude! when you are, there's always a way! or rather you should hope you find someone like her or someone better... better not find... let it come to you... =P
2007-01-07 20:50:18 · answer #10 · answered by death_black21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋