Wut ta do about ma ex?

Question

I've been wit dis gurl fa A year she has a lil gurl she not ma child but i took her in as if she wuz. But things ain't work out wit me and da gurl so i cut things off. Im now wit sumone new and ma ex isn't feelin things. She still calls me everyday makes convo like were 2gether get mad at me cause im wit who im wit, get mad cause i don't call her but the thing is i do still call jus not ta talk to her but ta talk ta the child. She b seeing me at the club dancin wit gurls and she goes off and i have to let her know that we're not 2gether. How else can i tell her that its over?

Answer 1

you shouldn't have to, again and again. don't answer her calls. ignore her. she'll get the message.

if she comes up to you at a club and tries to talk to you, just kinda stare with a blank face and don't say anything till she's done. then just say. "ok, have a good night," like you weren't listening, and move away. don't indulge her in any conversation.

Answer 2

You're giving your ex alot of power & you have to make some choices. Either get back with her or cut her off completely. No contact. Say your peace & don't even bother w/ a 'Hi', 'Bye' or 'kiss my ___'. Sadly this will probably include you cutting off contact w/ your ex's child also. Any contact you're letting her have w/ you is just giving her tidbits of hope that you two are going to get back together. It's all up to you. If you continue having problems you may have to involve the authorities if she's making your life truely difficult.

Answer 3

I would say that you should just move on. If you want to keep in contact with the kid, then you will have to deal with the ex as well. You just have to decide which is more important - life without your ex, or talking to the kid.

Answer 4

Just say it because what's over to you is obviously not over for her tell her that you've moved on and she needs to do the same. Good Luck!