My girlfriend and I jsut got together and were both doing this for the first time?
Were both sophomores and this is the first time either one of us has been with anyone. I was talking to her on the phone and then our relationship came up. She said that she didn't really now what she was doing and was kinda getting pressure from her parents that she shouldn't be in a relationship. Then she said that she dind't think we should be in a relationship yet. I'm really confused about what is going on and I told her that I would be here when she was ready. I can't figure out what she is feeling right now. Is she getting cold feet or is she jsut trying to figure things out? I really like her and I don't know waht to do. She said that it made her really happy when I called her but I don't know if she was jsut being nice or not. This whole thing is really confusing for me.
2007-01-07 19:42:03 · 7 answers · asked by blackbelt20 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it appears to me that the girls parents are the main problem right now----yes believe it or not--theres still a few people who still respect thier parents good advice---win the parents over first--i think maybe you;ve already won her over---if you;re not sure---ask.
2007-01-07 19:55:38 · answer #1 · answered by mikeh_frog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very confusing stage of any new relationship. Even more experienced people can go through times of insecurity where you get mixed signals from the other person. I think the best thing is for both of you to not get too overwhelmed by this new relationship. Sometimes it is good if it can be allowed to take a little time to develop and grow. It sounds as if she is nervous about things getting too intense so it might be good if you agree with her and keep it on a casual basis for now. Create nice memories, do stuff together and try not to dwell on how she feels. Be yourself and enjoy this time. She may not be your last love but you should enjoy being with your first.
2007-01-08 03:51:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confusion is part of being a teenager. It's a time when you are learning and doing many things for the first time. Be gentle with yourself-it's okay that you are confused. Just stay honest and be open and take things slowly and don't pressure anyone in anyway, including yourself.
2007-01-08 03:47:07 · answer #3 · answered by ontheroadagainwithoutyou 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its entirely possible that she is merely looking for an excuse and using her parents as the scapegoat. but you can't change that.
beside that, you should:
keep assuring her that you are there for her. suggest that you guys just date casually and not make it too serious. try to communicate even if you arent "together".
But definately don't freak out about it. You're only a sophomore. No offense, but i sincerely doubt that she is the love of your life.
2007-01-08 03:50:50 · answer #4 · answered by thiiiis chick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How many times are you going to ask this question???? You have posted it about 5 times over the past 12 hours...
2007-01-08 03:45:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stud you did every thing right... But i would go to her house and meet her parents so they can see who the baby girl is seeing and she is just as nervous as you are.. trust me make her parents see what a great guy you are for their daughter.
2007-01-08 03:46:43 · answer #6 · answered by c_kaper@yahoo.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
rest a little.... go to sleep. be fresh and play sports..!
2007-01-08 03:46:34 · answer #7 · answered by maitreya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋