I'm currently dating two women and eventually I will have to chose one. My dilemma is that I love my first girlfriend more, but I feel that the second girlfriend is more suited for a long term relationship & marriage.
I knew the first girl from two years ago and although we had rough patches in our relationship, we always came back together. She is completely devoted to me. Even after two years I'm still infatuated with her unique personality and she's also very physically attractive. However being with her will pose financial challenges for us since her career is not stable, however she promises to work hard to remedy that.
The second girl I recently met through a friend and we instantly bonded. She's good looking but not as attractive as my first. She has the most amicable personality as well as self-confidence herself. However I don't find myself as drawn to her as my first but her family is well-off and she's responsible. On the surface she appears better suited for my future.
2007-01-07 19:27:01 · 14 answers · asked by SCB 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To correct some assumptions, I don't like the second for her money but her personality and her responsibility reads "stability" to me. We also get along very well and we can talk for hours.
2007-01-07 19:46:43 · update #1
Depends on what you want to live with for the rest of your life. Money can be lost as well as made, there are no guarantees either way.
It sounds as if the first girl would be a marriage based on love.
Good looking is relative, and none of us is a real eye catcher when we are elderly.
Besides, with unconditional love, looks should not matter, so you'd better get a counselor and get real serious as to what is really making you hesitate.Work through it, and then you will be free to make a wise choice for the future, not just for yourself, but you are talking about her future as well.
Take care and deal with this now, you won't regret it :)
2007-01-07 19:33:27 · answer #1 · answered by gettin'real 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one, but I can't imagine that financial stability is really that important of a factor. Relationships with a lot of money still fail often. What determines success is the bond you two share. That's the most important if you're worried about long-term. Also, knowing more about the "rough patches" you had with the first girl would affect the decision here.
I would have to question why you and the rich girl "instantly" bonded. Was it the money? You're only painting a shallow picture here I'm afraid.
2007-01-07 19:30:51 · answer #2 · answered by SirCharles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like the second girl is better suited for you financially.Anything could happen in the future.So before you make your decision,think about if this second girl is worth you losing everything you built with your first girlfriend.Your first girlfriend is willing to do anything to make you happy.How do you know if one day she'll get a promotion,or go back to school for a higher paying job.Regardless of the reason,losing her for financial gain isn't going to work in the long run.Because even if you decide to be with the second girl you're gonna always think about the first one.Superficial love never out weights true love.You feel the second girl with your mind,but feel the first girl with your heart.Use your heart in this decision.
2007-01-07 19:37:06 · answer #3 · answered by Smooth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't bother, just break up with her for good and move on. If she chooses you, it's obvious that you are not going to be able to forgive and forget. You won't trust her and you will resent her, eventually this will break you up anyway. There were also problems in your relationship long before this happened or she wouldn't have felt tempted by someone else at all. Just accept that it's over and let her go.
2016-05-23 08:35:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes you think you have to choose? Secondly, what makes you think you have to choose between these two?? Thirdly, what makes you think you need to get married? There is no advantage for man to get married. None. There are no guarantees that infedelity will or will not occur. There are no gurantees that you will "grow old together. You know why divorce costs so much? Because it's worth it. Date both women. Don't let them give you an ultimatum. Remember that looks fade over time. If you have power and money you can always get younger women.
2007-01-07 19:34:17 · answer #5 · answered by Noname 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you sound a bit shallow, so what if the second girl comes from a well-off family & that shes responsibe. you dont really like her and you probably never will, do you really want to spend the rest of your life with someone you will never love?
Go with girl number 1, though i really thinks she deserves someone better than you!!
2007-01-07 19:38:13 · answer #6 · answered by Delete 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should take a break from both and think about your priorities for a few months.
i was in this situation once... it cause me a good amount of guilt and doubt when i broke it off with one guy to be with the other. and i obviously couldn't talk to my chosen guy about why i was so bummed out. it's just a sticky situation.
2007-01-07 19:30:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are serious, go for first.
Man, How can you dump someone who's devoted to you.
Cheer for Elizabeth O
2007-01-07 19:45:56 · answer #8 · answered by amiladm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stick with the first one. money isn't everything and if you really love her you won't be able to live with yourself if you lose her. lose the other one.
2007-01-07 20:04:04 · answer #9 · answered by Moyo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Which ever you want to be with on valentine's day. Probably the first one.
2007-01-07 19:33:11 · answer #10 · answered by saseebo 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋