I just got my heart broken. I've been through heartache before and I know it will all be fine, but right now it hurts. Do you know of anything I can do to help keep my mind off it or to accept the fact that it's over and not meant to be?
2007-01-07 18:50:14 · 16 answers · asked by ockissen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it takes lots of laughter to sooth the heart. watch allot of comedy
2007-01-07 18:55:29 · answer #1 · answered by bobby h 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What really helps is to get a fresh start. I know your instinct is to try to remember the good times you had, but that will just make you lament over the loss even more. What you need to do is have a moment of strength and get rid of anything associated with your lost love. Get rid of photos, gifts, delete e-mails, burn letters, etc. If it's useful like clothes, donate it to Goodwill (that'll help your conscience). If it's expensive like a TV, well...I suppose that you can keep. ;)
The point is you need to clear your head, and you can't do that if every other thing in your home reminds you of your lost love. Then, take some time to yourself. The money you used to spend on dating, instead spend that on a health club membership. Maybe take a Karate class. You'll get out, meet people, and have a very healthy distraction to take your mind off the pain of loss.
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Another thing--avoid getting into another relationship for awhile. A couple months, at least. You need time to reset yourself--remember who YOU are as an individual, and not who you are as part of a couple. Some people would suggest that you jump right into a relationship immediately to cover up the pain...that's precisely the one thing you should NOT do. All that'll do is leave you even more confused than before, and you're liable to do something you regret. Then, as Peter Griffin said on Family Guy... "Ten years later, BAM...herpes."
2007-01-07 18:55:44 · answer #2 · answered by P.I. Joe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Ockissen by the looks of it you live in the OC well About the Breakup well If it was really meant to be he'll come crawling back to you If he doesn't well Just look at it as learning, I know what you mean I went to the same thing with the same girl a million times, now I'm Going to get married soon, same girl, look your probably Gorgeous and Amazing, so I would Try and Find A guy who knows you for who you are and not just cause Your Pretty, or becuase he needed someone at that time, There are a million guys out there, But If you really want him Let him know, tell Him Show Him, and know it
2007-01-07 18:58:35 · answer #3 · answered by theurbsoweit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going through the same thing right this second. He broke my heart about two hours ago, actually.
In the past, I have found that it helps if you can think of all of that person's bad qualities...that helps me feel better. Then also try not to think of them very often.
Let yourself cry as often as you need to in the beginning to let it all out of your system.
Over time, limit the amount of time you can think about the person. Once a day at first, then once a week, then finally they will just disappear.
Hang out with your friends as much as possible and keep occupied with things that are important to you.
Remember that no matter what, you need to stay true to yourself and your goals. A breakup is not the end of the world, it is a way for you to reflect on what you will and will not accept in the future. It is also saving you from a possibly disastrous future with someone who isn't right for you.
2007-01-07 18:56:22 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry! Only time heals a broken heart. You can talk about it and that helps you deal with the pain. Write a list of the good and the bad if the bad is more than the good, then remember it's better for you. If you read find a good book (NOT A LOVE STORY) and read it and try to take yourself into the writers world. Stay busy.
2007-01-07 18:57:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am passing thuogh this as well - it is normal to have hurd feelings & being disappointted. but i hope to meet another guy soon to stop the thinking about him & feeling sad & left behind. but as you know things take time.
now i am making my self busy with going to work ,my family , sport , tv , some friends from time to time but that make you feel better and not alone - try it you still you will think about him but feel much much better.
relations is very important in our life but still friends & family & hopies could play a great part in our life- give it some time and i am sure you will be welling to love agian & know another guy
2007-01-07 19:42:14 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
movies, hobbies, video games, anything that is fun with in your interest.. Those would be just a quick fix, what you really need is just give it time. It takes time to fall in love, just as it takes a long time to fall out of love... So give it time.
2007-01-07 18:53:32 · answer #7 · answered by Rain L 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
past is past,forget everything of ur past events.be confident n stand upright,u still got ur future.try to read story books,go movies,shopping n play games.try to give urself fully occupy with all these every time,sooner or later u w'd forget ur past unhappy events.if u still can do it u r better consult any psychiatrist.
best wishes.
2007-01-07 19:01:46 · answer #8 · answered by robert KS LEE. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont know that answer. i dont know. i wish i knew. acceptance i guess is a start. accepting the fact that someone you still love doesnt love you or doesnt want you or has moved on from you? when will the 'acceptance' finally stick so you can move on? dunno, i guess it depends on if you want to hold on to something or let it go. when ur ready. when u do let go....let me know how u did it. honestly i dont know!!!!!
2007-01-07 18:56:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What i would do is go out with someone who makes you laugh and is a good dance, its better if its a "bump and grind" kinda dance, and just have a good time.
2007-01-07 18:55:06 · answer #10 · answered by bienbuenote 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋