I'am in love with a girl who dosent even know it!!!! She lives in the city that I want to move to,,,,,She is a student living on campus... And I want move there(not because of her, but cause its close to work!) She has told me before that she loves me!!! I make a **** load of money, and how would I ask her to ditch the campus life and just live with me???? or, How do I just tell her how I feel????
2007-01-07 18:44:53 · 15 answers · asked by bucs b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi,sorry but you're tooooo fast!Don't you know what "step by step" mean???
you should first express your feelings to her,start a relation ship,be sure that she cares about you and your emotions,then ask her to move and live with you!!!
Plus,you don't even know what's her mentality like,who's she!!!
So STEP BY STEP,and every thing's gonna be alright...
Tough Luck
2007-01-07 18:48:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
If she doesn't know you love her, why did she say she loves you???
Regardless... you don't sound like you have any real relationship with this girl. You don't just ask a woman to ditch whatever to live with you. You build a relationship, see if your personalities, morals, lifestyles, plans, desires, needs, etc., are compatible first. If all those things work for the both of you, the decision to move in together will be mutual.
Why are you saying you make a lot of money? Her parents are probably paying for her education and dorm room. Are you hoping you'll have enough to make her forget her parents, college friends, plans, and better judgment, if they oppose what YOU want? She's in college herself. How are you going to keep her if she ends up making as much, or more than you do?
Men who use money to get women to date them, end up being the guys who complain she wants half of everything (or more) when she divorces him. Then they say all women are money grubbers, instead of excepting what they deserve for knowingly picking women they have to buy.
Move there, if that's what you want to do. Ask her to go out with you a few times to help show you around the area (dates). She'll know how you feel about her without you dropping to your knees with your wallet opened. What she wants and needs is just as important as what you do. Get to know her and what she wants from life. She might not want to give up campus keggers to spend her evenings gazing into your eyes, or listening to you snore.... no matter how much you pay her.
2007-01-08 04:40:50 · answer #2 · answered by QTPYE 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
What a Lucky girl to have a man be in-love with her she doesn't yet know about, but hopefully soon! Right? Not because your doing well for yourself , but what woman doesn't want a guy to sweep her off her feet like a fairey tale? Why not encourage her to earn her degree , and if after you go to the next level. Then ask her to move in.For the very fact you are well off and do not want a gold digger, you dont want to insult her. Let her strive for not only her own self worth, but so others as well will not think of her as just a gold-digger.
2007-01-08 02:58:11 · answer #3 · answered by CARAMIA 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you want her to ditch her life for you it's not love it's selfishness.
I know you know you can give her a better life however let her have her life for a while and let it all fall into place instead of rushing things, have her sleep over every week a few times and in a few months... it will just happen if it's meant to happen.
Don't push her, just allow things to happen without stressing.
2007-01-08 02:48:46 · answer #4 · answered by valley_storm 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How does she feel? What are her morals? Does she believe in living together? You need to know these things first ,and how committed are you to one another? Will this be good for her and her education? Tell her how you feel this may be the beginning of a new life for you both.
2007-01-08 02:51:24 · answer #5 · answered by queenie one 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you seem to be giving a lot of respect to your **** load of money. if you love her, your proposal should come straight from your heart. if you're confident that you can keep her happy with you, then do it. but make sure that you dont ditch her.
2007-01-08 02:50:18 · answer #6 · answered by Adam Love 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it sounds like you both love each other, so do what ever your heart tells you to if you hesitate even once then you know its the wrong thing..
2007-01-08 02:49:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Geez, at least start a relationship with her before you ask her to move in!! Is she that slutty?! If so, you probably don't want her leftovers anyway, yuck!
2007-01-08 02:47:26 · answer #8 · answered by dottidal 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
LOOK your going to need more then money to keep this girl. TRY self respect.
2007-01-08 02:47:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Tell her but let her finish her education
2007-01-08 02:47:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋