I already can accept that a guy who does not call is NOT that into me. But, there is this one guy who keeps initiating contact and suggesting we do stuff. I say sure. Then, he never calls.
He sent me an email last week full of excuses why he didn't and he would call if I was still interested. I was non-chalant about and just said "call whenever...I am pretty busy." I never would let a guy know I would wait for him if he isn't into me.
What I really wanted to say is "dude...look I know you're not that into me so you're off the hook. don't worry about ever calling me again." But I guess there is no point in that hostile behavior.
By the way, this dude is 37 almost 38. So, I would think someone is done with dumb games by now.
2007-01-07 18:34:30 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What is the effing point????? I never initiated or called him since he started saying that crap. grrrrr!!!!
I am always upfront with people. If I am not interested I will say there isn't chemistry or enough interest.
p.s. I am 35.
2007-01-07 18:41:42 · update #1
If a guy truly digs you...he will call NO matter what. His dog could be hit by a car and he could have the shingles..but nothing will stop him from calling.
My only point is WHY would someone do this? I never told him to call.
2007-01-07 18:44:02 · update #2
First of all, dont be bothered when a guy say he will call or he will see you again esp when u guys havent taken off that far. You dont even have to be stressed out with it. you dont even have to think about it for even a second. let them call when they want to and just dont comment on it. they will call if they like u, but they will not call if they just said it to have soemthing nice to say.
a guy at that age will do same stuff if he is still single at 37, or have been hurt so bad, he has become a "woman killer". I dont think u have to waste ur time with him. smarten up!
2007-01-07 18:40:38 · answer #1 · answered by The Punisher 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
To be the devils advocate here,
Perhaps he has a problem with shyness. What I mean is perhaps in the moment he is able to "initiating contact" but after the fact has a bout of shyness and is unable call.
Perhaps the "excuses why he didn't" are true, just not well worded.
Perhaps, Perhaps, Perhaps, ... Etc.
Why don't you turn down the hostility and think about your "dude...look I know you're not that into me...." speech, try to rephrase it so that it doesn't sound like a declaration of war and say it to him 'NICELY'. And as for the comment about the age, I have to tell you it means nothing, shyness, absentmindedness and alike know no age limit.
Best advice, Simmer down, cool off and then talk to him. Getting hostile or wary will do nothing to help the situation. Hope this helps.
2007-01-08 02:51:12 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur N 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 39 and still haven't figured out WHY men do this. I am to the point I just don't let it bother me anymore if they call fine if not they can f**k off . But I also have figured out if they staring calling a lot they are usually freaks and you don't want them. Men are a** holes. Men are never to old for games I'm divorcing a 51 year old man that still plays games .
2007-01-08 05:23:30 · answer #3 · answered by metallicalady2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that they are never done with the dumb games. It sounds to me like he is keeping you around just in case. You already know he's not that into you, so why even waste time worrying about it? You don't need to tell him he's off the hook, I would just start ignoring his e-mails or calls. The ironic thing is, if you ignored him he'd probably act more into you. Bottom line: you deserve better.
2007-01-08 02:40:37 · answer #4 · answered by Miss D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, there's no age limit on this one. A jerk is a jerk. I'm 47, and I have experienced this with men in their 40s and 50s. So you don't have much to look forward to if you stay single! :)
I think it's fear of confrontation. They hate having to "hurt" your feelings. Frankly, like you, I'm so uninvested at the beginning of meeting men that I could care less if they call or not.
You have a healthy attitude about it, and that's the best thing. These infantile losers don't deserve women like you for their partner. 'Nuff said.
2007-01-08 02:39:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of messed up people out there.
i would just ignore this guy and go onto someone else. Just tell him that you're not interested.
There are some good guys out there, unfortunately, you have to sort through the others!
Good luck!
2007-01-08 02:39:53 · answer #6 · answered by Rich 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When guys say" I'll call you," "I will write you," it means, " yeah I will when i am not that busy...probably." I dont know why but seems its just their ways of thinking. Plus, when they say " real soon," expect it to be a month or so..its so in most cases, I am sure there are nice ones, but no good luck yet.
2007-01-08 02:38:03 · answer #7 · answered by Fallen&Broken 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good for u- i think you are aware of things going around you . i hope you will find better person or other friends very soon . it could be that this person he knows that you are good but he is in a way busy to catch other woman but it is not working for him "personal experience" so do not bother much you need to be a bit open to people & acivities to meet more and better guys - give it a try.
2007-01-08 02:44:46 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he likes you, but has issues. Been there, done that...leave him be. I have had relationships with guys like that and it always ends up messy. Find a guy that calls when he says he will. You will save yourself a lot of disappointment. (I wish I would have known this sooner).
Oh yeah, and age doesn't necessarily mean anything...I have dated 21 year olds who were more mature than guys nearing their thirties...
2007-01-08 02:46:50 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well things come up or we were busy at that time or we may forget. Unlike girls we dont prefeir the telephone we rather see her in person. We don't like phones and talking we look at that as a chick. Give the guy a break, i dont think he playing a game hes probably was busy or worken somethin. I forget 2 and we dont do it to be mean sometimes things come up!
2007-01-08 02:41:02 · answer #10 · answered by Tim G. 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋