Do you believe that your ex-partner could undergo a personality transformation after you break up with them? In other words, are they going to be the same (bore, jerk, ignoramus, bad in bed), pretty much, with the next person they meet? Or will they be a different, more enlightened partner the next time? There is a man in my life who I just discovered has met someone else, and I can't shake the feeling he'll be different with her than he was with me. With me, he barely talked at all in person but talked incessantly on the phone, was a chronic pot smoker, didn't have a job, and considered himself modest, even though he bragged a lot. Jesus, what was I thinking?!? It didn't last long.
2007-01-07 18:27:13 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The answer varies. I think most people are always changing. Slowly over time, it is unavoidable. We all change. Hower, when some thing dramatic happens it can cause changes to be faster. So i suppose i think most people do change after they break up. On the other hand, Some things will never change. If a person has a bad habit or life style t would take alot to change that, but not out of the realm of possibilities. It all bepends on the individual. I hope i helped a little. good luck.
2007-01-07 18:33:24 · answer #1 · answered by tomuchthinking 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should not generalize about your ex. May be the 'vibe' was not there. Maybe, just maybe, if he meet the right person, with the perfect 'vibe', thing will be very different. You don't seem to like his habits and this has an adverse reaction that does not allow him to operate efficiently. I remember a beautiful psalm which goes like this 'the stone that the builders rejected as worthless turned out to be a cornerstone....... this is the work of the lord....... ' you either love a person or you don't. Being too critical does not help. If you don't love, move out of his life. He has the potential to make someone else more happy, with lesser demands.
2007-01-07 18:36:15 · answer #2 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
welll...not everyone changes. But yeah..if he wants to,he will. Maybe he'll realise that he screwed up his last relationship because of his behaviour...so he'd work harder to make the new one right. The basic characteristics rarely change...he has to really make an effort for that..n very few people r strong enuf to do that. But yeah,one thing u must understand is that if he would have been with u still,he wouldnt have changed at all.Its because of your break up that he will value his next relationship more.
2007-01-07 18:36:15 · answer #3 · answered by tina 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think people change after a break up. I know I have from different relationships. I've learned from my mistakes then and changed to improve so that my next relationship wouldn't take the same turns as previous ones.
It all depends though - varies from person to person.
2007-01-07 18:30:07 · answer #4 · answered by julieanthony469 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it really depends on each individual and the variety and intensity of the relationship it self. Some people change..to othe better or worse, some doesnt.
I never keep in touch with all my of exes anymore, but i remember my last ex-bf cos i was in my most intense and longest relationship w him.
He is a drunk bloke with abusive personalities. He got concussion & lost his sense of smell cos he got drunk & fell somewhere else. Now we are not together anymore and guess what..? He is still a drunk man! Obviously doesnt learn anything, everything... Geez....
2007-01-07 18:50:52 · answer #5 · answered by AlisonJonshon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, they are go through that personality transformation with the new woman. And it lasts for maybe a month. Then their real personality will surface again.
You can't change the spots on a leopard.
M
2007-01-07 18:31:07 · answer #6 · answered by maamu 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My ex was a jerk and has continued to be a jerk. I have yet to find someone who can actually stick with a personality transformation just to be in a relationship wtih someone.
2007-01-07 18:30:41 · answer #7 · answered by Esma 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
people seldom change.
2007-01-07 18:35:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋