Whats your ideal number of children, and why?

Question

We have 3, yet everyone comments our middle will get "middle child syndrome", when we had 2 people said "are you having another, if ones gone the other will be lonely", and of course when we had one, people said, "you've got to have another, its mean to only have one!' Yet if we had four people would then comment how large our family would be! It seems you can't win!!! How many children would you like or have you had and are happy, as we are happy with our 3 (no matter what people say!!!)

Answer 1

Well I had 4 growing up and loved every second of it! My husband had three as well and was always quite happy. We have one child on the way, and our only child died 2 years ago, but I hope eventually to have 3 or 4!

Answer 2

I have one now, and my husband says this is the one and only, however, my heart keeps telling me I really really want another. I always wanted 4, so not sure if I will get that many, but I love my son now so much, I think he'd be great with another sibling, and also- I have 2 younger siblings and love that I have them... so I want my son to have more as well.

Don't worry what others say. You are happy with 3, then that's perfectly fine. I say have as many as you wish, and if they are all loved equally, no middle child will ever feel left out! Four isn't large, maybe for now days since people are having less children... but my grandfather's mom had 13 kids! lol That's large!

So I'm hoping in the future a few more years my husband will change his mind and we'll have another beautiful child :)

Answer 3

At first it was just my daughter, she was happy, but too spoiled...
Then came my son, and after she got used to him, they actually played together, and she was not lonely anymore...
I have 2 brothers and 1 sister, I do consider myself the middle child...
I hear all day, "you have a girl and a boy!!! Perfect"
Who cares what everyone says...
Some day soon I might want to try again, and guess what?
It is all up to me..( well yeah and the hubby too..)
If you are happy, Enjoy...
Coming from a large family, I can tell you: the size of the family does not measure the amount of love there is within it.

Answer 4

I have 3 children and Everyone told me about my middle child syndrome and I was laugh ting. It is true when people comment and I should listen but I never. People love to talk about his or her opinion. But, You and I have to raise our children while others never there. Never mind the sound of bird and the crow, I am very happy with my family as well as you. Good luck and Happy New you 2007.

Answer 5

Personally, I would not want any more than 2 kids. I just think that two would be enough for me to handle and I wouldn't want the kids to outnumber the parents. My husband says he only wants one child, and I would be fine with that so I guess we will just have to wait and see what it right for us. We don't have any children right now, but I do know what you mean about people commenting on your decisions because I hear it all the time when people ask me how many kids I want. Every time I say we will probably only have one I hear "Oh, you don't want to do that. Your kid will be spoiled or lonely, etc. You need to have at least two."

Answer 6

Have as many children as you want and do what makes you happy. My husband and I only have one child, that was our choice. My sister in laws have 3 and 2 respectively. Don't listen to people. If you are happy with your family the size it is, then leave it.

Answer 7

I have one child and that's all I will ever have, due to my age, failed relationship and circumstances. I have always believed that "you have no right to have only one, if you're having kids, then have a "family". An only child can be lonely and not mix well in the real world." I would love a brother for my son, then I would love a daughter for myself, Lol, then I would love a sister for her and then I would like another few to create all hell. But, I can't.
I have one son and I have WON. You have already won with your family. "It seems I can't win" - you have! To hell with the begrudges, you have what you have, enjoy, and if you have 10 more enjoy them too, and if you never have another, you have enough. Enjoy your kids and congratulations to you and your fine family.
Mom of one, and so be it.

Answer 8

i come from a family with three children and as far as i am concerned middle child syndrome does not exist. my family did not treat me any different than the other two. i may be the exception but i don't believe so. if you think three children is the perfect number for you, then go with it do not let any one Else's opinion sway you. as for me i do not plan to have children as of yet but that may change some day.

Answer 9

my plan was to have two, and who knows i might still. but i think just one at the time. maybe once the other starts school or something i would consider another. but my sister has 2 kids right now and just being here at my moms visiting where she lives, it drives me crazy, they are a year and half apart. dont base your family on what other people are saying tho! your children are going to be happy no matter what :)

i was always the youngest of 4 kids growing up. my mom loved kids and prolly would have had more. as being one of those kids tho. 4 was enough! im glad she stopped with me. lol

Answer 10

I'm pregnant w/ my second, then that's it. 2 is a good number for me b/c my mom had 2, both my aunts had 2, and my grandmothers had 2. It's kind of like family tradition. I also do not want to contribute to the over population of the world like these women who have 10+ kids. And, I'm not sure if I could handle more than 2. I'm not very patient, but I'm learning. 3 is a good number too, but I think having 3 would overwhelm me!!