i have a friend and she is 12 yrs old and she is pregnet. what should i do?

Question

She keeps on pushing me away and wont tell me any thing? then i start crying because i thought i was her friend and she could tell me any thing. and now i dont know what to do. Plz tell me as soon as possiable wat i should do. she said we r not to tell our parents and i dont know what to do. and plus i would do anything to help her if she would just talk to me. she doesnt even know how she got the baby.

Answer 1

Just be there for her.

If she's not confiding in you, maybe she's not really pregnant and trying to trick someone?

You definately need to tell her (or your) parents if she is. If she is pregnant she needs to se a doctor right away or something could go wrong t hurt her or the baby.

. If this ruins your friendship she will either get over it or she was not the friend you thought she was.

Another way to go would be to talk to someone at your school, your counselor, teacher or the nurse. Tell them that you don't want her to know it was you who told them. They could call her parents and when they talk to her they could just say that they heard a rumor around school and by law they needed to check it out.

This could even be more serious that you think it is.
She should know how she got the baby, but if she's not telling you she could be covering up a rape or something that she doesn't know how to handle. In that case Please talk to a school official to get them involved because her parents need to know.

Answer 2

They are right, she does know how she got the baby, that's no secret. Unless she was being abused, in that case, that might be a reason that she is pushing you away, because she is afraid or trying to protect someone. Dont push, because i have learned that the more a person pushes for information, the farther away they get pushed in return. But when she does talk (which will hopefully be soon) you should try and convince her to tell her parents, because that is a secret that cannot be hidden for very long. Just be her friend, and be there. You might consider telling your mother if you feel like she would understand and not tell you to alienate yourself from her, but if you feel like you mom would overreact, i'm going to have to say that you wait a while before you tell her. Just be sensitive to your friends' needs, and be there for her. Good Luck!

Answer 3

Not to push you down, but this is also why it is not a good idea to get pregnant so young. Most twelve year olds cannot handle the situation emotionally not to mention the severe physical strain on their bodies. The only thing you can do, if you want to trully be a good friend, is to tell her parents so they can handle this. I'm sorry if that's too hard, but in this situation it's the only thing you can really do to benefit her. She's not pushing you away because she doesn't like you as a friend. It is just very stressful for her right now-physically, mentally, and hormonally.

Answer 4

I know she's your friend and you dont wan to get her in trouble but trust me telling one of you parents in the log run will help her.
Since she is so young there could be major health risk for her and her baby. She might be mad at first but she will thank you later. Also just try to be there for her as much as you can and if she pushes you away just let her know you will always be there for her. Just make sure you tell an adult and if she gets mad just point out to her that she couldnt hide it forever people would notice her stomach getting bigger. Once you tell an adult they can help her decide wether to have an abortion,give the baby up for adoption or keep it. Telling her parents will help her realize she messed up but she does have choices and she has to decide whats best for her and her baby. Once someone else knows it will take away alot of the stress and worry and just all the way around help her out more than anything else you could do.

Answer 5

You Need To Tell Your Parents.She Needs Medical Care Or The Baby And Her Could Get Very Sick Or Die.That Is What A Good Friend Does. SHe May Get Mad But You Want Her To STay Healthy Don't You? Good Luck!

Answer 6

There is not much you can do at your age. The best thing you can do is tell her parents or tell yours. It's dangerous to be pregnant so young and pregnant people need to see a doctor because so much can go wrong. There are conditions a girl can get that can kill during pregnancy.

A REAL friend would get an adult involved.

Answer 7

She knows how she got the baby if she is, in fact, pregnant. . . by having sex! You can do NOTHING for her. She will have to tell her parents and deal with that herself. You can be there to support her IF she wants you too. Just do as the first guy says. . . don't get pregnant yourself. In other words, keep your panties ON and don't let anyone else's hands or other body parts get in them.

Answer 8

Dont let her fool you..she knows how she got pregnant; she dont want you going down the same road...She needs a lot of care for herself because she is so very young to have a child....it is a child having a child and her health is fragile being so young going through this ordeal...
She needs care...talk to pastor, guidance counselor...someone for her sake and being her friend...

Answer 9

JUST TELL HER THAT YOU WILL BE THERE FOR HER NO MATTER WHAT, IF SHE NEEDS TOO. AND LET HER BE. SHE DOES KNOW HOW SHE GOT THE BABY BUT RIGHT NOW SHES IN SHOCK PROBABLY. AND I KNOW YOU KNOW HOW SHE GOT PREGNANT, AND MAYBE THIS WILL HELP YOU TO KNOW WHAT TO DO IF YOU ARE GOING TO DO IT. DON'T FOLLOW IN HER STEP, YOU DON'T NEED TO GET PREGNANT. USE PROTECTION. BUT SHE DOES NEED TO TALK TO HER PARENTS AND IF SHE CAN'T THEN YOU SHOULD THEY HAVE THE RIGHT TO KNOW , SO THEY COULD HELP HER. SHE MIGHT GET MAD AT YOU FOR DOING IT BUT SHE WILL GET OVER IT. GOOD LUCK.

Answer 10

You need to talk with your parents and tell them the situation. Let your parents talk with her parents. Your friend needs help ASAP that only an adult can provide. Good luck!