example: sometimes we'd both get off work at the same time and sit together and eat (i work at a restaurant) but today he sat away from me and when i tried to talk to him he just gave me a one-word answer. now, this was the guy who i used to catch staring and who used to ask if certain guys were 'hitting on' me and if i get hit on often and whatnot. what the hell is going on.... would you guys out there say he's playing games or should i just assume he lost interest in me?
2007-01-07 18:14:12 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would come right out and ask him what is going on. Possibly you said something to him in a kidding manner, and he took it completely wrong. Get the air cleared between you too.
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2007-01-07 18:18:01 · answer #1 · answered by maamu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys are afraid to pursue further because they don't want to get hurt. He may indeed be interested in you because he used to stare a lot (a sign of attraction) and he was curious about other guys hitting on you (slight jealousy). He was testing out the water by trying to find out if you get hit on often. Insecure guys are a bit reluctant when they think or know that a girl is wanted by other guys. They feel they might not have a chance and scared to put much effort into it only to get rejected. He's backing off right now because he's unsure of things. If you are interested in him, be patient and continue to be friendly with him. Get to know him better and maybe he will become more confidant about you.
2007-01-07 18:35:43 · answer #2 · answered by artutina 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it was just a casual flirtation just for fun, to ease the boredom at work. Maybe that day he was just in a grumpy mood and wanted to be left alone. In either case, he is probably not crazy about you or he wouldn't have been rude. He probably likes you at least a little bit though or he wouldn't have flirted with you.
2007-01-07 18:17:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. He gave hints, but you didn't make the first move. Not that it is your fault, but perhaps he expected the girl to be the one to ask the opposite sex out. In this case, he showed interest and expected you to ask him out or something and you didn't.
2. You could not speculate on why he stopped talking to you and just ask him straight up about why his attitude towards you changed. Maybe it is something personal or it may be #1 (above).
Ask. It doesn't hurt.
2007-01-07 18:42:41 · answer #4 · answered by poorprae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask him if there's something wrong. Perhaps someone is starting trouble behind your back or maybe you have done something you're not aware of. He could have taken something you said the wrong way. If he doesn't answer to your satisfaction, then move on. There are plenty of other men out there.
2007-01-07 18:21:43 · answer #5 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yea guys minds change every like 5 seconds he was probably just thinking with his penis for the first couple times i think you should let this one slide because hes not worth it.
2007-01-07 18:24:34 · answer #6 · answered by josh 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont panic yet. He may be under some stress and is tryin to deal with it. Be supportive. Plan a romantic evening and see what comes of it.
2007-01-07 18:18:19 · answer #7 · answered by earthangel_candy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you even know him? i mean if both of you are friends, it should be easy to tell. from your "example" it sounds like he lost interest. maybe he has found someone else. I'm sorry...
2007-01-07 18:17:17 · answer #8 · answered by Deesa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like he is a jealous, slightly paranoid and potentially very controlling individual. Let him go.
2007-01-07 18:17:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe u played slow and he left your u most guys dont like slow gilrs like me i hate them
2007-01-07 18:18:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋