Can my Mom kick me out? I am 31 and I have not signed a lease.?

Question

I am 31 years old and I live with my Mom and she has been acting very unusually lately. Generally she is a fairly nice lady but all of a sudden she is saying I want you out by Saturday, go to your Dad's. I am busy with school and such and she isn't listening to this. I don't pay rent though and I haven't signed a lease. Should I be concerned right now? I want to be nice to her and respect her wishes, because she is saying she needs some time to herself. But at the same time I am also sort of knee deep in my schoolwork, if that makes sense. And it's just not that convenient for me to move to my Dad's. And he doesn't have that much room for me to work. I'm not doing anything wrong by the way, I don't use drugs and I never really drink.

Answer 1

You are 31, a middle aged person for God's sake!!! Grow up!! move out....

Answer 2

Let me try to put this into perspective. Granted I don't see what is on the other side of your computer, so I can only go from what you are saying and what I'm wondering about.

First of all, I'm a college student at 44 who is married with 2 kids. I also work almost a full time job (29-37 hours per week) while going to school. It's not easy, especially when you need room and time to study.

However, what I noticed in your post is that you didn't say how you are helping out your mom. All you reflected on was how she does not understand your needs. From your post, I wonder if you have ever considered what she needs.

While you may not be doing anything bad, it may be that she is having to cook and clean for you, and who is doing your laundry? If you are doing your own laundry, is it interfering with when she wants to do her own laundry? Plus having an extra person at the house can contribute to the noise and stress, and if you are setting your own rules and coming and going as you please, it may be that she is tired of not feeling like she has no control of the situation. Finally, if you are not paying any rent, who is paying for your expenses? Each additional person at the house adds to the utility expenses, not to mention additional food costs.

I think what you need to realize is that your mom is tired of being the parent and having to be a mom. She's most likely at a point in her life where she wants time for herself and it is hard to do that when your 31 year old kid can come and go when he pleases.

Are you expecting her to provide food for you on days she is not there? Do you clean up after yourself to the point where she has absolutely no clean up to do? If not, she is most likely getting tired of cleaning up after her what should be an adult son.

I think you need to sit down and talk with her and ask her what you need to do to repair the relationship. And you need to find a different place to stay. She has every right to demand - and expect - that her 31 year old son will move out.

So, if you don't want to move into your Dad's home, then I would suggest talking with your school and see whether they have some housing options for you. Then get student loans if you need to cover the housing costs. I know you can do this, because I take out additional student loans to cover these expenses. Yes, it does mean that you will owe more money after finishing school, but most of us do this!!

Answer 3

Dude your 31 years old! Your mom shouldnt have to tell you to move out you shouldve took the initiative to have been gone. You sitting over their talking about your not on the lease so your not paying rent yet your 31 years old mooching off your momma. You should offer a few dollars towards rent for taking up space in HER house. Come on now! Time to surgically remove mommys titty from your mouth and grow up and be a man. You dont drink or smoke big whooop thats besides the point. Comeon now look at the bigger picture here. Look for a job and try to get your own place because before long your dad will be kicking you out to and thats just being honest.

Answer 4

31 ????? Aren't you a bit old to be living at home with your mother? I'm curious to know what an acceptable age to move out in your eyes would be. I'm sure she does want her privacy. She's entitled to have a life and yes she can kick you out. No lease means month to month. She doesn't OWE you anything at this point. If anything YOU owe HER....................... and here's a thought for you to consider, much of life is NOT CONVENIENT. If you don't know that you may want to ask your mother as I'm sure she feels the very same way given this current situation with you. Big a big person, an adult, get a job, provide for yourself and stop mooching off of your mom! For gosh sakes, you are 1/2 way to retirement!!!!!!!

Answer 5

Yes she can kick you out.

Here's an idea. Live on campus. Some schools have special housing for adult learners. If you are a grad student, they also have special housing in that situation too. I would look into this. Besides, you are old enough to live on your own now. It will be more fun this way anyway. And your relationship with your mom will get better because there isn't that pressure of you living at home and she will be in a much better mood. I think you should just move out anyway. It's fun!!

Answer 6

Yes, she can kick you out. But i don't think you want her to go through the trouble of going through the process of doing it. this would not be good for your relationship with her.

you don't say how long you have been there. if you never left since childhood or you tried it on your own for a decade and you just started back to school to improve your life.

I would grant your mothers request. there are always places to do your work if there is absolutely no room at your fathers house. thank her for the time she did let you stay and count your lucky stars if your father does take you in. At 31 not everyone has both a mother and father living and able to take them in while they go to school.

Answer 7

For goodness sake ... at 31 years of age, I was already half way through my Military Career, putting myself through MY Graduate Degree Programs (while on Active Duty), and LIVING ON MY OWN ...

You are NOT paying Rent, you are living in the HOME of YOUR MOTHER .. and you are complaining because she wants to ENJOY HER HOME?

I don't think we are getting the whole story here ... what are you doing to HELP her out in the HOME? Are you doing the laundry, holding even a part time job, paying for your necessities (food, clothing, etc), doing dishes or yardwork, cleaning the bathroom, or helping out in SOME WAY? Are you disrespecting her or her home?

You really need to sit down and take a good, hard look right now .. NO MOM likes to be treated as a servant ... and given that you are in HER HOME at HER expense (and I am assuming she is upset at how much her food bill has risen, the messes that you probably are leaving behind ... and everything else that IRRITATES someone who is doing something to HELP you out of the Goodness of their Heart ...) ...

Don't you think you need to start even a PART TIME JOB and HELP OUT with the EXPENSES and TREAT her as a person? OR ... how about doing the many chores that back up (for which children of any age don't feel they need to do for various reasons ...) .. when MOM is TIRED after work, how do you think she feels to find a full sink of dishes, stacks of dirty laundry, or sees a BIG jump in her bills from having someone who is CAPABLE of working to help out just sitting there and NOT helping ...

I feel SORRY for your POOR MOTHER ... and yes, she CAN and SHOULD kick you out if you are UNWILLING To get even a part time job and HELP PAY The EXPENSES of the household and are UNWILLING to do chores too!

Answer 8

Ok, you need to get out on your own. I went to college, raised my daughter and did everything on my own, had a sorry excuse for a husband at the time. Being waist deep in school work is no excuse, you have to grow up and take responsibility for you. Your mom as done all she needs to do for you, she did that by the time you were 21, grow up and get out, let your mom be free. Don't go to your dads either, get a job, if you dont have one. Get a place to live, we have all lived in dumps, just be an adult.

Answer 9

yes, and she should!! How long does it take for children to grow up these days??? I have a sixteen year old daughter who wants to work all the time and she is saving her money so that she can either go to college without mom having to pay for all of it or take a year off of school in her OWN place....!!! When she is 18 of course, but it would be very hard for me to kick my own child out, apparently your mother has spoiled you rotten and always bailed you out, maybe it is tough love , but i make my child WORK for the things she want!! Not what she needs of course, i get that for her because i only have one teenager , but she does work!!!! My other children are under working age, but when they reach it they will work too!!! I do not charge her anything to stay here of course because she is only 16 and i am very proud of her just working and buying her own things, she even takes her little sister out to buy her clothes sometimes, so i guess, compared to a grown man like you still sponging off of mom , that i am a very blessed lady!!! Get out and get a job or either Pay your mother some money and help her out or something!!!!!!! I am assuming that your mom is paying for your school too right?! What a loser!!!!

Answer 10

i gotta go with everyone else, except that she does have to formly evict you... but get a life... your 31 and please explain why in the world you are living at home thats pathetic and thats the nicest way to say it... can we say mammas boy? if your in college get a damn dorm room.... otherwise take out a loan and get an apartment and a job... most people thses days work their ways through college! hello what makes you think your special... stop moochin off your mother and father its pathetic that you are still living at home the womans probably raised u since you were a baby and your 13 years or better later than when most people get kicked into the real world.... gotta grow up sometime

Answer 11

I am wondering why you're 31 and not paying rent to your mother. Did you have an agreement to the conditions of you living there? If so, are you living up to those conditions? It just seems strange to me that you're 31 and you expect not to have any financial responsibility for where you live. It would seem to me that you would be especially sensitive to helping out your mother. Are you helping her at all? Believe me when I say that she is not responsible for you anymore and her wishes should be honored.