ok. here's the deal. ive never had a bf. ive been on ONE date and it didnt go out that well. i wouldnt even call it a date. and now im in college... sad i kno. and as im getting older. i get more upset since i keep thinking im never going to experience anything. i dont kno whats the problem!! im shy, but not THAT shy besides. im not awkward around guys or whatever. im fine with talkign to them. maybe i dont talk abou the right things? how do i get one to be interested in me? ive always been a girl's girl and never had a lot of guy friends. you think i need to join a club on campus? but then somethings i think maybe its just me. i act young for my age. and im still obsessed with kiddy movies and i guess you can call them weird obsessions. but there are weirder people out there in this world that have bfs! last year there was this one guy that i really liked. and i was thinking to myself. maybe its just me, i need to initiate things. so i told him i liked him but i was rejected.. so sad
2007-01-07 18:10:40 · 11 answers · asked by sweetpea2007 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
have the same problem so im probably not one to give advice. however ive come to learn that the key thing to getting guys to approach you is .. to be approachable. stop focusing on your flaws or what might be putting guys off about you and instead key into being more open and easy to talk to. you mentioned that you arent 'THAT shy' and not awkward around guys and whatnot... but perhaps youre focusing too much on the what-ifs (if the guy youre talking to thinks youre weird, etc) while conversing with them and forgetting to make them feel level with you and comfortable around you. being shy is one thing.. being unapproachable is another. thats the case for me at least, sorry if this doesnt help.
2007-01-07 18:27:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Twenty four is still very young. It's better to not have had a boyfriend than to have had one who is in jail, got you pregnant, so many things! What you need to do now, at this stage in your life, is learn how to be a friend, because that is really the skill you will need in marriage. Too many people have just learned how to hook up and break up and move on. Be yourself and you'll be ready when the right guy comes along! Don't throw yourself at guys, but be actively involved in things you're interested in. Join a church, join clubs about things you like--then the people you meet are more likely to be interested in the same things. My son and his wife had a baby in October and they are buying their first house. A couple of years ago his girlfriend broke up with him--he was 26 and afraid he would never get married, that he would be too old two have kids! A year later he had found The Girl and was married. A book he found helpful was Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus--it helped him see how he communicated wrong with the first girl so he could do it right the next time. Another good book is He's Just Not That Into You--which helps you examine relationships and see how to tell when it's working out and how to tell if it isn't so you don't waste your time and your life! Also Dr. Laura's 10 Stupid Things Women Do to Mess Up Their Lives. Many of them are about being desperate to Get a Guy.
2016-05-23 08:25:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey.. dont worry!! I bet that youll get the perfect man someday. Just be yourself and stop thinking about it. Im sure a nice guy will ask you out.
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Hope you feel better!
2007-01-07 18:35:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is there if you dont have a bf? many girls dont have them and so you r not alone. it is not the only thing in the world to get tensed about. be cool and be like what you are. dont crave 4 something looking at others . all these things comes on their own way without any efforts if you excel in your studies or which ever field you are in. so stop worrying about it.
2007-01-07 18:21:02 · answer #4 · answered by keerthana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry girl , you are so young , I smiled when i read that you are getting older , girl you are in college now and that means you are so young .
Things will go great for you this year , you write nice and that seems out of a nice personality and guys will notice that very soon .
2007-01-07 18:20:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, dont worry... your bf will come to you one day.. Just let things go with the flow... What I learned about life is that just enjoy your moment in time, never rush things even if you want it to be... Just relax...
Well on the joke side, i ll be your bf...
2007-01-07 18:15:15 · answer #6 · answered by Rain L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have to grew desperate on this is really sad i tell,if i was in your situation,only God knows what could have happened by now ,drop notes on their car at least before the end of the semister u must get someone and now is not the time to be optional
2007-01-07 18:16:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your like me possibly, I can't talk to girls face to face, I've only had online girlfriends. I am a very shy person.
If you just wanna chat, you can IM me on Yahoo messenger - jorceshaman88@yahoo.com
2007-01-07 18:15:01 · answer #8 · answered by Josh D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never had a gf, never been on a date, always getting rejected
2007-01-07 18:16:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont worry you will get a boyfriend one day
just dont tell yourself you will never get a boyfriend or ride on the fact that you nver had one before, think positive
2007-01-07 18:15:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋