I'm soooooooooooooo BORING!!! I couldn't work after school because my parents says DON'T NEED TO and after getting married, my husband says DON'T NEED TO too !!!
2007-01-07 18:09:28 · 23 answers · asked by mamagorilla 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Parents and husband are very conservertive and my husband is using my son need his mom to look after as a reason to make me stay at home ( staying with mother-in-law too!) ! So What can I do or what will I be when I don't need to look after my son anymore ?
2007-01-07 18:21:43 · update #1
Wow that must suck. I have my own business I run from home, but no one, ESPECIALLY not my parents after I've been married, tells me to do anything.
2007-01-07 18:11:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too am a stay home mom. After working for 20 years, I thought I was going crazy because I didn't know my very young toddlers nor myself. After hearing how lucky I was to stay home and watch my children grow, I began to think about it. They were right. The years you spend with your children at home and learning that they too learn new things everyday, priceless. You can never make that stuff up. As for the time alone for yourself, being bored to death, sign up to a gym. I did that to release my home and children frustrations and it was my lifesaver. They take care of my children there and I have time alone for at least 2 hours of my day four times a week. Try it, you will enjoy your child more. Plus, when you work somewhere, those employers can tell you many things on how valuable you are to the company and stuff like that so that you can help them make more money, but in reality, when you leave the workforce, they don't even call you to see how you are or even if you are alive. Your child will remember what you have done for him/her when he/she becomes an adult and a parent and thank you like I do with my parents.
2007-01-15 20:47:09 · answer #2 · answered by Veronica L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sure hope you have a nice mother-in-law. In some instances living
with her could be a blessing, but if you don't get along it's not fun. If you son is old enough for school, volunteer to help in the classroom.
You will meet other mothers who may be bored also. Form a play
group with other mothers. Take your kids to lunch, the zoo etc.
There's no reason to be bored, When your son is in school full time,
work at the school. If you find other women in the same circumstances as you, you can hang out with them,
2007-01-15 19:32:01 · answer #3 · answered by judywalker23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people would feel that you are lucky, you have a kind husband who say 'don't need to work'. He is not forbidding you from working. Even if you don't work, still you can do a lot of things as you have a lot of spare time. Make friends, try to run a business, maybe online business etc.
Don't complain too loudly or fate will play a trick and load you with so much work that you may be dreaming of the peacful and happy days that existed.
2007-01-08 02:15:52 · answer #4 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Granted, your son needs his mom around, but also...his dad. Your life doesn't have to be so boring. Find activities to do with your son that can get you out of the house, like go to the park, the museum, the fairgrounds, etc.. Go have fun, and still be a mom like your husband wants. But, it is also his responsibility to raise your child too, so give him time to be with him, either together with you, or by himself...so then you can go do something by yourself- which you need or you'll go crazy. Having a child doesn't mean you have to be condemned to boring hell...give 'you' some time for yourself. Take time for yourself, have your mom in law watch him.
2007-01-14 07:53:22 · answer #5 · answered by doogie2man 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like they have a domination issue .Girl you need to go to work, your son will be fine. Maybe go to school or work at your sons school. As for the future husband start out as you mean to go this is a joint decision and you are already unhappy with this at home.
2007-01-13 12:38:59 · answer #6 · answered by kalbri3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont need there permission to get a job if you want to work do it as for your son you can work something out your husband needs to stop with the guilt over leaving your son and mother in law this is for you not them now is the time to think about you it might be good for you to get out and meetnew friends
2007-01-14 12:05:48 · answer #7 · answered by hallowsevenight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider yourself very lucky to not have to work, and to have a husband who cares enough to not want you to end up living at a desk, or behind a counter.
As for what to do, that can be hard for some. I recommend searching other questions on here, and seeing what others say about things you can do.
2007-01-14 19:52:20 · answer #8 · answered by Dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am and I volunteer my free time at schools city Hall and my daughter high school. I also become an activist as well as raising money for charities. Meanwhile, I donate my family money to charity for 25 years since I got married. I feel so good about doing thing for others as well as my family. I received several awards and recognition for helping others,my family are very happy that I know how to spend my time wisely.
2007-01-15 16:46:02 · answer #9 · answered by ryladie99 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was married to a guy like that. But mine because he was very controlling. so i had alot of free time. not really i have 3 kids with him. Anyway i was able to find out things i didn't know i could do. find a hobby, in all honesty find about 5 or 6 then you can change them up every so often
2007-01-14 05:49:01 · answer #10 · answered by ladydragonblue16 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do something for yourself NOW,girl.Tell your hubby that you are not happy staying at home.Tell him its not about the money,but having some "me time".Just get a job maybe working 4 hours a day.Places will let you do that.Tell him "If mamas happy,everyone will be happy!"LOL He may be worried you will meet someone else.Assure him he is your only love and no one could ever replace him.GO FOR IT GIRL.You only have one life.Make yourself happy.Good luck,sweetie.
2007-01-15 09:06:52 · answer #11 · answered by GranGran 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋