I HAVE 3 KIDS, 2 SON AGED 14 & 10. MY DAUGHTER IS THE YOUNGEST AND IS 8YRS OLD. I AM HAVING A SERIOUS PROB WITH MY SECOND SON. HE IS SUPPOSE TO BE IN PRIMARY 5 BUT THE SCHOOL HAS IDENTIFIED HIM HAS SLOW LEARNER AND HAVE REQUESTED TO PUT HIM IN A SLOW SCHOOL, I AM NOT HAPPY WITH HTIS COS THE SLOW SCHOOL HAS GOT SOME KIDS WITH DISABLED, I FEEL MY SON WILL BE DISMORALISED AS HIS 2 SIBLINGS ARE GOING TO A NORMAL SCHOOL, I SEEK THE MINISTRY TO PUT HIM IN AN INTERNATIONAL SCHOOL AND THEY HAVE APPROVED, HERE HE WILL BE IN PRIMARY 2 OR 3 BUT MY SON IS SO SO WEAK IN NUMBERS, ENGLISH, READING , SPELLING, I CURSE AND SWEAR MYSELF THAT I HAVE NOT BEEN MONITORING HIM BCOS OF THE ALL THE MARITIAL PROB I HAD RECENTLY, I DID NOT CONCENTRATE IN ALL MY 3 KIDS BUT IT HAS AFFECTED HIM BADLY. I HATE MY SELF NOW I AM STRUGGLISH TO TEACH HIM AND TO CREATE THE LOVE TO LOVE, SOMETIMES I AM LOSING PATIENCE, BUT I HAVE NO HELP MY HUBBY WORRIES BUT CAN'T DO MUCH, HE HAS HIS OWN FINANCIAL PROB ON HOW HE IS COPIN
2007-01-07 17:59:18 · 6 answers · asked by susan r 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Don't beat yourself up. They put so much pressure on academic performance and there are just some kids that don't learn as well as others.
If he is hyper or ADHD I am right there with you, I raised my brother, and now have a daughter that is ADHD (so is her dad), I know it is difficult and you have the option to medicate.
I don't know what to say on that, I have had my own personal battles, my brother was put on ritalin off and on thorought the years, when he was on it he did super-well in school, but he was a zombie. When he was off it, he did terrible in school but was his normal self. He is now 18 and dropped out of school (kicked out by many not for violence or anything, but because he suffered so bad academically and refused to go into the "special " classes) but he has a great job building playgrounds and is a musical genious. He is doing well, but the poor boy doesn't know the order of the months, can't spell, is colorblind and probably can't pass a GED. This doesn't stop him from living a great successful life. In school he beat himself up and after a while stopped caring.
It''s your decision to medicate or not, I say if you can handle it, don;t do it.
Some kids will never do well in school, but encourage other outside activities and don't let anyone compare him to your other kids. Put him in sports or music something that he can do well at that he enjoys, something to show him he is just as good as the other kids.
School sounds like it will be a constant struggle for you, but don't beat youself up, help him as much as you can, most schools have free or low cost tutoring available.
When my brother was young the teacher always mattered, they can either make a big difference or make things worse, we were constantly switching teachers and once in a while we got a great one.
Good luck and just do the best you can and just know that even though he might not be a doc r a lawyer, he can still be auccessful if you encourage it.
2007-01-07 18:16:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be extremely trying.. I, too have three kids. The youngest has been an extremely slow learner. He joined P1 this year (which is a year late for his age). He doesn't like school and didn't exactly tell you what he is afraid of... cries every day when he has to go to school. Kept telling myself to be patient with him and taking a step at a time to the best I could.
2007-01-10 18:16:16 · answer #2 · answered by marilyn c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you try the special school for a little while, if it does not work than take him out. Treat him the same as you do your other kids. Work one on one with him but do not treat him like hes stupid. If you ir him get frustereted, take a break and start again. How you treak him now will affect him forever.
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2016-12-28 09:15:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest looking into learning programs for him.
I don't know how you are financially but I've used Sylvan Center for two of my children in the past and it really does work. But it's costly.
2007-01-08 22:16:34 · answer #5 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it may be overwhealming at times... but be patient with him & give him love. Make it fun for him to learn & make him want to.
My mom homeschooled my sister and I most of our childhood. It may be impractical for you...but the home is an excellent place for growth, especially if you are really concerned for his future
2007-01-07 18:11:59 · answer #6 · answered by *Harley* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋