My ex wife cheated on me and I divorced her when my daughter was 3. My wife of 11 years is the only other woman who has been around my daughter they had a great relationship. My ex has been married 4 times and moved 17 times since my daughter was born. Her ex-fiance" is incarcerated for drugs, but everything my wife does for my daughter is made to look bad or twisted by my ex. My daughter lied so much back and forth (mother encouraging it), that I decided when she was 11, to let her choose when she wanted to come for visits. I am very involved in my Church along with my wife (whom my ex has for no reason hated from day 1). I've sent my daughter cards, letters and gifts through mail, emails, ect. My calls and messages are not returned. I finally spent this Christmas with my daughter for the 1st time in 3 years at my aunts house. It was awkward, uncomfortable and distant. How do I try to get my relationship back with my daughter )now 14) without chaos? We love and miss her.
2007-01-07 17:51:19 · 5 answers · asked by THELORDISMYSHEPHERD 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Now she is grown up and would like to have her space. Just be yourself. She will not like your demonstration of too much love after 3 lonely years.
2007-01-07 17:57:46 · answer #1 · answered by rams 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time. She may have felt abandoned by you. Although you decided she could make the decision as to when she wanted to visit, kids often see things in a different light. Maybe you could start with a little date with her. Girls like to go on dates with their dads. Make it something a 14 year old will enjoy. Kids are fragile and repairing a relationship with them can take a lot of hard work and a lot of time. Sometimes it isn't until they are much older that they see you wanted what was best for them. I wish you luck, but take it one day at a time. Make the effort, even when she says no, continue to make an effort, she will come around eventually.
2007-01-08 01:58:15 · answer #2 · answered by girlcop1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well be happy u got your foot in the door but remember its hard to get a good relationship with a teenager. Try getting on her level start listening to her type music do the things she likes to do u will find u will grow to love them too.
2007-01-08 03:31:45 · answer #3 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i speak from experience here.....as long as you daughter knows and sees how much you care for her she will learn the error of her mother's ways. it will take a while and will not be easy but just continue to try to spend time with her and show her there are beter things in life than lies and pain. after all one day her mom is going to go to far as mine did and your daughter will make a chice, hopefully one in her best intrest
2007-01-08 01:56:11 · answer #4 · answered by SHORTY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep in touch. Time will take care of the rest.
2007-01-08 02:23:04 · answer #5 · answered by salty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋