I have no life...?

Question

I'm 17 with no life. I stopped going to school 2 years ago after my mom died. I have no dreams or ambitions. All I do every day is sit at home on the computer staring at a screen. I can't go anywhere that has alot of people because I start panicing. I push love away. I lay awake for hours before falling asleep every night. My g/f just died in Nov. I have no one to talk to. I do the same fu**ing sh!t every single day. I have no will-power to help myself or force myself to change. I'm not a fat guy, like some would think, I'm just a guy. I don't know how to word it. I'm just stuck. I know about Meds and Doctors & what does what, but I don't want any of that, I want to fix it without meds. Gaaaah, every day is dreadful. Wtf can I do?

Answer 1

You can read this webpage and feel better about yourself. Plus there are pages to help depression and anxiety naturally. I commend you on your decision to not put your faith in psychiatrists who have the highest rate of suicide of all occupations. Although you should see one if you are not willing to help yourself.

http://www.phifoundation.org/happiness.html

Answer 2

Oh my god, that is a pretty sad life you have, and especially losing 2 important people in your life. That for a fact is gonna make you scared of getting close to a person, cause your scared of losing them. Listen, the more you stay home and do nothing, the more depressed your gonna get, trust me. And before you know it, you'll be thinking about ending your life, because you feel you have absolutley nothing to live for. That is NOT what you want to happen. You are sooo young my friend, you have your whole life ahead of you. Im sure you are still grieving from your lost. And that is ok. Everyone is different, and has there moments of grief , we all grief differently. I understand you don't want to go on meds, or see doctors, but if your not gonna do that, then you have to think of a way to get yourself to talk , talking helps, weither its online, over the phone, letters, or with your friends, you have to keep talking to people, that will help lift that dark cloud your under. Im sure somedays are worse than others, but hang in there ok. Sometimes life can be unfair.. but what makes us fall, makes us stronger when we do get up. Don't give up on people or your life. Go back to school, talk to a school counselor, tell them whats going on, they could probley help you someway, somehow. But keep yourself busy..it also sounds too that you have a case of social anxiety too. Well friend, take care..I hope things will get better for you..listen to music..music always helps the soul..no matter what it is. Whatever music YOU like.Music always lifts my spirits up..

Answer 3

You might not be able to fix it without medication; but then again, you need to seek help from a therapist. Maybe if you had someone to talk to that you could trust, it would help sort out your feelings. I certainly sympathize with you; it is hard for anyone to experience what has happened to you, more so at such an early age. Please, please make an appointment to talk to a therapist, or to a member of the clergy, or some other adult. Things have to get better, it sounds as if you have all ready been through the worse, honey. I wish I knew you personally and could be there to help you get thru this. If you ever get to the point that you just want to talk to somebody, I would be happy to lend an ear. Just email me. Good luck to you, sweetie.

Answer 4

OK, dude, let's get with it here. First thing to do is to find someone to talk with. You have to let out your pent up emotions and frustrations somehow. Talk with a professional - a counselor, therapist, clergyman/clergywoman. Only you can help yourself. The mere fact that you've posted here shows that you want to help youself. The first step is acknowledging that there's a problem. The next step for you is finding solutions.

I can understand your reluctance about taking medications, but - and believe me about this - they can be of great help during the time you're trying to get things together; so don't just dismiss them out-of-hand. They're one of the alternatives available to you.

But first talk with someone who can help you clarify things. That's the most important thing to do right now.

Answer 5

You need to get out. You have been through some hard times and you need to understand that life goes on. Your mother and your girlfriend would not want you to sit at home and ruin your lifeeveryday. Do it for them! Go out meet new people at school It will be hard at first but believe me you may meet a great friend who you can rely on. I have a friend who went through the exact same thing and he is doing it . Its possible! never give up. Go back to school get a degree and become something! MAKE YOUR MOM AND GIRL PROUD!

Answer 6

Set one daily goal at a time and achieve those....you have to take baby steps at this point. You've been through a lot of stress...you cannot make rational decisions when you're depressed like this.

Please, I know you're tired of the "Docs and Meds" advice...but it's what you need to move forward.

Your goal tomorrow...call the doctor...get an appointment...get yourself as healthy as you can...you have your entire life ahead of you and it won't begin with you being stuck in the house all day.

Please start your life tomorrow...let all of us know how you are...say, at the end of this week...okay???

Take Care and God Bless...

Answer 7

Start writing your thoughts down however you feel. Maybe you can find out if your angst driven poems are songworthy. Going back to school or virtual school would be a great thing to get back into. You need outlets that are more productive than what you've been doing.

Answer 8

I can't fix your whole life, but if you will pay attention I can help you with one thing. If going where there are a lot of people scares you, you need to get used to it. Do it by small steps. Go where you feel slightly uncomfortable and keep doing that until you get used to it. Next find a little bigger group of people who make you feel slightly uncomfortable and keep going back until you get used to it. Keep getting used to larger and larger groups of people and before too long, even a big crowd won't bother you.

Answer 9

Get active! Join an activity. Start off slow though. Walk or jog. Read. Maybe go see a counselor if you want. That is what really would help you. To talk to someone

Answer 10

i know its hard losing people you love and you feel so alone in the world, trust me i do. my best friend was hit by a drunk driver and my uncle died of a stroke. i was depressed and had no drive to do anything. then one day it hit me, would the people i love and lost REALLY want me to be sitting in my room all day, every day moping? no, they wouldnt. people say "do things to make yourself happy" but sometimes in order to make urself happy u have to think how it would make others happy. slowly start going to public places and kind of get used to public settings. the more u get comfortable, go to more populated places. start talking to people, get a myspace, and really just remember the people you love and realize that you can still be happy and you dont have to be afraid of losing everyone you love. good luck to you. keep your head up. things will get better. =]