Everytime I have fallen in love the man has told me he doesn't want a committed relationship. I just basically got dumped because I told the guy (who I have been dating for seven months long distance, who told me he loves me, needs me, wants to see me, flies me out to see him). I am a nice girl, I am not weird, I am pretty, I am all the things guys supposedly want from a girl...so I am confused.
Now my self-esteem is shot because all three "relationships" I have had, the guy ends up telling me he doesn't want a relationship. At first they act like they want me so much and then this. Has anyone else been through this? What can I do to feel better? I feel like a complete loser although I know that they are the ones really losing out on a great girl...but still...
2007-01-07 17:33:23 · 5 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah, the only thing that any of these guys had in common is how much they seemed to adore me from the very start. I mean, one was a Captain in the army, one was a park ranger type and the other owns a business and is Colombian (he is the distance one).
And then the weird things started happening once I was hooked...
2007-01-07 17:44:08 · update #1
Yeah, the only thing that any of these guys had in common is how much they seemed to adore me from the very start. I mean, one was a Captain in the army, one was a park ranger type and the other owns a business and is Colombian (he is the distance one).
And then the weird things started happening once I was hooked...
2007-01-07 17:44:13 · update #2
Yep, it's their loss. This stuff is not about you.
You're picking the wrong guys. (But you already knew that.) ;)
Have they all been long-distance relationships? That's a problem right there. Not saying it can't work, just that it throws another wrench into the mix. I would have liked more information from you about the particular three guys - what do they all have in common? (besides you, I mean). What sense do you get from them in the beginning stages that things might be a little "off?" Surely there must be some signs that things might start veering off course. (Sorry to call you Shirley.) :) A lot of times the commitment phobia starts manifesting itself early, like do they disappear on you for a while? Not call? Seem emotionally distant in some way?
I would just want you to keep these things in the back of your mind with the next ones you meet. You need to be very attentive to emotional, verbal, and physical cues with these guys, otherwise you'll keep picking the same types of men. Good luck.
2007-01-07 17:41:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is your definition of commitment. 7 months sounds like a long time, any longer, and you might marry the guy. Guys just get scared and they don't know what to do after a certain point. It has nothing to do with you. I am sorry that you feel bad. I'll be your friend if you want and I'll listen to what you have to say if you want. If not, well I hope the best for you.
2007-01-08 01:40:51 · answer #2 · answered by TheSilverBeetles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you insist on dating long distance dating? Try someone closer to where you live.
2007-01-08 02:08:50 · answer #3 · answered by BFCP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are as good as you say you are,
I.E. are gracious, conservative (clothing wise), intelligent, have a sense of humour, know when to be sympathetic, are beautiful or atleast not ugly...
Then those jerks who dumped you missed their boat.
2007-01-08 01:43:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just got bored of you that is all
2007-01-08 01:39:42 · answer #5 · answered by SAgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋