What's wrong with telling the truth about nasty, abusive family members?

Question

My parents can't accept the fact that I hate my brother and brother-in-law vice versa and that I'm being open about my hatred towards them. They have done so many wicked things to me in the past, that I'll never be able to forgive them nor forget, Honestly, I wish they would kick the bucket and fly a kite this very instant. I'll be happy to attend the funeral but I'm going to throw lumps of dung into their graves and tell the wicked things they've done to me in my eulogy. Wicked family member deserved to die and I don't know why it's wrong for me to say so in front of them and my parents. My parents have never ever given me the courtesy of listening to anything I've tried to tell them in the past, they prefer to lead a pretentious life as if everything's fine. I'm not cursing the brother and brother-in-law, but it would do everyone good if they either moved far away or died ASAP. I have my limitations and it's not wrong for me to wish they were dead. Anyone feels the same about others?

to answere #3: these abusers aren't dead yet, I wish they were... and they don't deserve a funeral. I would let them rot in the open and let vultures scrounge on them. And I understand your point about not involving my mom into my duel with those megalomaniacs, but she never even tried to listen to me about other things, even when I didn't raise my voice. I realize I'm the black sheep of my family, and the 2 abusers have made up stories about me and she believes them. I don't think these 2 abusers deserve the respect of a proper burial. If they died while my parents are no longer on earth, and I had to be in charge of arranging their burials, I'll just leave them to rot cos that's the only sort of "respect" they deserve. Unfortunately, wicked people are lick those cockroaches that just won't die, but I'm looking forward to the day that they do.

Answer 1

NOt sure what kind of wicked things that they did to you but your parents are NOT the best people to try to get support from.
IF these wicked things were criminal, talk to your prosecutor.
If not, talk to your friends
but NOT your parents.
This is THEIR SON TOO!
THEY LOVE YOU BOTH EQUALLY
try counseling
you sound very angry at this moment and your brother and Brother in law are probably sleeping like breast fed babies!

Answer 2

Speaking as a person who recently just attended a funeral of a family member that they hated. Don't go, you won't know whether to laugh or be angry when people start talking about how great that person was or how kind and giving they were. It is actaully a very sickening experience and will make you skin crawl.

Its alright for you to hate them, just don't let your hate for them affect the relationships you have with others or any aspect of your life.

Answer 3

I would think that you have every right to your feelings however, you are showing little respect for your mother's feelings, at least with respect to your brother.
Every mother tries to love her kids and not show favortisim.
by listening to you talk about them with so much hate, you are kinda forcing her to take a side.
Kudos to your mother for being above this.
NO mother would wish any of her children dead and it probably breaks her heart to hear you say such things about her own blood. Since you know your brother feels the same way about you, doesnt it give you some confort to know that if he told your mother the same things about you, that she wouldnt be listening either.
Hate your brother all you want to but leave your mother out of it. She did the best she could in raising you both and any negative comments about her son are like arrows to her heart...
p.s. the funeral would be a very tacky place for you to share your feelings
and if you showed up to my husbands funeral they would have to dig two graves because I would beat they shyt out of you for saying that THERE. You will find that that little stunt will cause you to be quite alone with regards to the rest of your family. It would be quite classless on your part.
If you feel you cannot conduct yourself in a civilized way, PLEASE stay home, the funeral is NOT for that kind of behavior

Answer 4

some human beings, regardless of their guidance or mind point, can not handle those kinds of emotional subjects, esp. whilst sexual subjects grow to communicate. it is not you. it is the subjects which she now realizes which you signify. you have my empathy. i don't have confidence that going to an effective will elect this subject. a md or greater appropriate can not replace somebody else's attitude, basically habit. which you comprehend you're susceptible makes you much less susceptible than you will possibly be able to have confidence which you're. undergo in techniques that this could be a non everlasting subject which will bypass. you have survived far worse than the condescending tone of one previous bag. appropriate?

Answer 5

Much more than likely. Whatever the last trick they pulled on you, it must have been a doozy!! You're wound pretty tight there!!
Don't kill them, okay? Prison sucks (I've heard) Find a way to stay away from them. Find your own friends and hang out with them. Ignoring someone who is tormenting you drives them crazy if that's the desired effect you're seeking. Can I throw you a cliche?? Please?? This Too Shall Pass!! (Thanks)
Hey, no joke, everyone is growing away from each other every day and someday soon you can whip your brother's a** and he will stop fighting you that same day. And you will grow up. Can I say just one more cliche? Oh Please? HANG in THERE!! (Thanks) @8=)

Answer 6

Call the police abuse is not a "forget it" thing.

Answer 7

let the authoritys know, do not let this go.