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I had a crush on this girl and after we got older at 18 i asked her out, so we were partners for about 2 years until she left the country for studying abroad. i waited another year then i went after her, i knew she was kind of cheating on me, after 1 month we broke up and i didn't hear from her until a few days ago that she called me and was nice too me, i was shocked so i couldn't control myself and she probably realized how excited i was on the phone, but after a couple of days and a few phone calls from her she stoped calling me and i think she still does'nt want me in her life and she maybe just called to see how i was doing.
but I am feeling like I don't want to live anymore.
it was so hard to get over her love and i was trying to get back to life for the past 3 years that we had broken up.
But now the only thing I think about is her and I want to get her back if there is a way...

2007-01-07 17:19:53 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

10 answers

If you want her back, you basically are going to have to do the exact opposite of what you want to do.

When a woman knows she can have you whenever she wants, and you are always going to be there, then she places very little value on you. She probably knows that you really want her back, and if you chase after her, she is going to just keep running. What you need to do is make her chase you.

How do you do that? Easier said than done, I don't know the whole story or what all has happened, but here are some things to start with:

1) Make yourself scarce---if she calls, don't call back right away, or even if you are home, let the answering machine pick up. If she asks why you didn't answer tell her you were busy.

2) End all conversations first---this shows you have other things to do in life than stay on the phone and talk to her. Staying on the phone for hours shows that once again, you will always be there for her and makes you immensely less attractive to her.

3) Don't place such importance on her---she can sense this when she talks to you or sees you, and knows once again, that you'll be there when she decides to come back to you. Let her know that you are not waiting around for her to figure it out, and you have a life to live---this will start turning the tide in your favor...

Basically, when you pull away from her, she starts having to chase you, which is exactly what you want. Women always want what they can't have, and people always value that which is scarce over that which is plentiful(reason why gold is more valuable than copper).

Also, check out this site and sign up for their emails---it contains a TON of good info like what I explained above that will really help you in your quest....

www.doubleyourdating.com

I know the title sounds like it isn't what you want, but it's all about how to make yourself more attractive to women and the things that most guys do that make themselves less attractive...and I know firsthand that it works, I used a lot of the info myself and with some practice it works like magic...

2007-01-07 17:31:36 · answer #1 · answered by matter2003 2 · 0 0

You can not "get" her to confide in you. She will open up if she feels secure - however sounds to me such as you men have a few disorders which are complicating your dating. The recommendation I might provide is - do not be a million) too determined, or two) too pushy. Just be your self, have a well time together with her - however do not be in every single place her in any respect. OK, she has this loopy concept that you just handiest desire her for intercourse; good, do not deliver up intercourse in any respect, maintain your arms to your self, and benefit from the dialog. I'm no longer quite certain what her difficulty is - I do not get it how can a lady be with anybody for 2 years, and be satisfied that this character is handiest together with her considering the fact that of intercourse; that is simply foolish. It sounds to me like she, herself, does not understand what she needs - and it may be type of a hazardous main issue for you, as you might get your middle damaged very conveniently. Just watch out, adequate. Good success.

2016-09-03 17:59:19 · answer #2 · answered by marentes 4 · 0 0

if she is still over seas, or ever if she isn't maybe write her letters, make cards, send care packages. girls love that stuff becasue it shows the effort and time you put into it. hang out, it doesn't even have to be a date, just have fun with her, do activites you both enjoy. but do you really want to be with someone who is unfaithful? you'll always wonder if she is being honest or not. there are so many wonderful girls out there!

2007-01-07 17:29:06 · answer #3 · answered by sarah 2 · 0 0

Have you tried calling her? The fact that she is doing all the calling may make her think you are not that interested. Can't really tell without more details. Good luck if that is what you really want though.

2007-01-07 17:23:58 · answer #4 · answered by DONNA M 3 · 0 0

man bro imma make your day and that is if you ignore them i GURANTEE that they will call you it happens man trtust me it does and when it does u will feel so good cause u aint the one calling them and that is what makes you feel good only if you made and impact on there life not months that dont count you need time with them at least a year but either way ignore them trust me it works like no other GURANTEEED"'

2007-01-07 17:27:57 · answer #5 · answered by Confused 1 · 0 0

Well, you have to know, so call her up and set up a lunch date. i say lunch because if things are going well you can extend it into the night, but you have to be aggressive about her.
Pick up where you left off ... don't talk about her stuff abroad .. talk about what she is going to be doing.

2007-01-07 17:34:20 · answer #6 · answered by freeway823 2 · 0 0

DUDE ditch this chick find someone who will love you and be committed to you i know its hard but it better than being pulled around on a chain

2007-01-07 17:24:24 · answer #7 · answered by chaosnewgo 2 · 0 0

yo buddy sorry but you needa forget bout her

but make her jelous by dating somone

2007-01-07 17:22:09 · answer #8 · answered by JamesC 1 · 0 0

you come on to strong to her.

2007-01-07 18:17:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

at knifepoint

2007-01-07 17:22:42 · answer #10 · answered by high 1 · 0 0

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