My friend is 27 and his sister 25. He is otherwise very fine but, very much emotionally attached to his sis. Calls every day over the ph. for hrs. etc. At home he hugs, kisses u know abnormal to a bro-sis at this age. (with no sexual inclination) Becomes restless if he can’t talk to her on any day. (His sis dosen’t like all these, but he can’t stop it.) Always feels like he is loosing her love. Insists her to share even her very personal matters etc. But I know, he loves her too much. I heard it is psychological problem – something called idipus or edipus or idepus (I don’t know the spelling) Can anybody suggest correct spelling n meaning? Please
2007-01-07 17:12:46 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
You're thinking of "Oedipus". Oedipus was the mythical king of Thebes who killed his father and married his mother.
In general, an "Oedipus complex" was defined by Freud as a male child's unconscious desire for the exclusive love of his mother.
If a brother-sister relationship becomes sexualized, it's called incest. I'm unaware of a specific term psychological term for brother-sister infatuation as you have described.
2007-01-07 17:18:34 · answer #1 · answered by Mark H 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is not Oedipus complex, which is a child's sexual attraction to a parent. Incest is sexual activity between siblings/relatives. Maybe they are just close. There is not enough information here to determine if this is not normal. How much hugging? My family all hug a lot - that in itself is not wrong. How does he kiss her? Her cheek? So? And as for phoning every day, perhaps they are also close friends besides being siblings. Are each other all they have? Again, then no wonder they are close and he is afraid of losing her. If his sister doesn't like it, she can set boundaries. And if you are a jealous boyfriend, get over it. He is her brother, and you don't mess with family relationships for no reason.
2007-01-07 17:28:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finding the right name for it isn't really important. Finding help for the behavior is. You're right that this attachment is unhealthy, but it's not the Oedipal Complex. That concept is a Freudian one about parents and children. Also, even though you learn a lot about Freud because he was the father of psychoanalysis, just like any father of any field, not all his ideas were right.
If you're really looking for some clinical words to describe it, some possibilities are co-dependent, enmeshment, separation anxiety, and I'm sure there's a few more. But who cares what the label is? Your friend needs help because this behavior is impacting his life negatively. There's no way that he could be living a full life if he spends as much time as you suggest attempting to make contact and making contact with his sister.
He does need professional help to get through this. Something like this is not easy to stop on your own. You know him best so I have faith that you know of a good way of telling him that he needs help.
I'm glad you care so much about your friend!
2007-01-07 17:48:03 · answer #3 · answered by Jen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The word you are looking for is "Codependency." The Oedipus Complex refers to a child (usually male) wanting attention from his mother and being jealous of his father.
Professional counseling would be helpful. There is some insecurity that your friend is feeling that is causing him to need the constant attention of his sister. Being close to one's sister is normal. Getting anxious when you don't talk to her is not normal.
When a relationship like this one gets in the way of your friend's other relationships or work, or when it creates anxiety, there is a problem. You should talk to your friend about this.
Do not go on the attack and make your friend defend why he loves his sister. Instead, probe why he feels restless when he doesn't talk to her and what he is afraid of.
2007-01-07 17:27:28 · answer #4 · answered by jordannadunn 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Does your friend obsess over anything else? This could very well be a case of OCD, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. This consists of Obsessions (ideas that go around and around in your head such as something bad will happen to this person if I don't talk to her) and Compulsions (things you have to do such as making excessive phone calls to that person).
At any rate, I think that either your friend or his sister should speak to a counselor or a psychologist. Since he is so attached to her, she probably won't have much trouble getting him to go with her. You may want to ask him what he thinks will happen if he doesn't talk to her.
Hope I helped,
Good luck and God Bless!!
2007-01-08 01:34:59 · answer #5 · answered by rrcoyote 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why r u so curious about this affair? Do u have any personel interest in ur friends sis? Just forget it as a nightmarish thing
2007-01-11 03:49:14 · answer #6 · answered by sangho 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-01 23:57:51 · answer #7 · answered by korniyenko 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oedipus complex is between a son and the mother and the over attatchment between the 2, its from Shakespere, Oedipus Rex
2007-01-07 17:21:52 · answer #8 · answered by Randy Z 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its not an odeipus complexion dear its an over love towards his sis, anyway its an mentall-illness better to take him to aphsycologist or a counsellers
2007-01-08 03:48:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oedipus complex is correct, it is sexual subcontious desire of children to the opposite sex parent - boys to mothers girls to fathers, usually happens around the age of 3. this is not love of brother to his sister
2007-01-07 17:23:30 · answer #10 · answered by jacky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋