what can I do?

Question

I have a 12 year old child that attacks me every time he gets in trouble and gets disciplined.I live in the state of Texas.s there anything by law that I can do.

I dont want to get in trouble for child abuse

Answer 1

Have you tried counseling to get to the root of why he has so much anger him that he would lash out at you?

If you haven't this is your first start.. You need to find why he has anger in him and why its targeted at you. If this doesn't help you can always contact a women's shelter in your area and they will assist you with all you can do to help yourself and your son.

You can also call the local police and see if they would be willing to help you in the matter of a mock lock up for your son to show him what could happen by his actions.

Good luck to you.

Answer 2

When you say attacks you do you mean he physically attacks you. ?

If he does that then you need to get the whole family into counseling.

You also need to let him know that being physical with you is NOT aloud.

Sometimes kids do things at home for one reason, CAUSE THEY CAN.. They know they can get away with it. Does he act like this in school or at friends houses. ?

If he only acts this way at home then is it more of a home issue and not a mental.

Counseling is where to start , then you guys can go from there. Best do that then involve the law first.

Good Luck.

Answer 3

How did you get into this situation? Things have been bad for a long time, or your child is mentally ill. If you have always had a gentle, loving child who basically goes along with the program, and this has suddenly changed, talk to his doctor now.

If you raised him in day care, allowed him to get away with things, didn't really pay much attention to him when he was good, didn't really play games with him, and hit him for discipline, then you have created a monster and for his sake, you must help him get under control.

1) Tell him attacking you is unacceptable and that you will call the police every time he touches you and you will leave him to suffer the consequences of that report.
2) Get "How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen so Kids Will Talk" to learn how to reach you child, set good guidelines, and help him to get control of himself which he must, for his own sake, do.
3) Read the book, "Before It's Too Late" if How To Talk doesn't help. Before It's Too Late by Samenow is about dealing with kids who've been allowed to become sociopaths.
4) Make clear to him that hitting is wrong, apologize for ever having done it, and tell him that you can not allow him to hit because if he solves his problems lilke that outside the home he will end up dead or in jail. Tell him you love him too much to allow him to be such a loser.

Then, stick with it.

Kids at 12 shouldn't be 'getting in trouble' and 'getting disciplined' much. By that age, they should know you, love you, and want to work with you.

Answer 4

I live in Ohio, my son also gave me trouble. I called the police and they came to put a scare into him and it worked until he turned about 15. This is very extreme in my book but he said that a child could be considered unruly just by refusing to do the dishes and could be taken to the juvenile justice center. I have also since then learned my son is Bi-polar, maybe look into behavior disorders?

Answer 5

hi,
I'm sorry. but this calls for tough love, or tough help, or both!
Go to Juvenile Court and file charges against him for being unruly and for domestic violence. Hopefully, he will get a subpoena to appear in court to face these charges. In my state, the kids are sent to 8 weeks of therapy. And provide proof that they attended I had to do this with one of my kids, for being unruly. Oh she went the 8 weeks but never uttered a word...sigh
He should see the family Doc for blood work, to rule out drugs or alcohol abuse. Then, maybe, giving him the benefit of the doubt, he may be ADHD or Bipolar. Which means he would need medication to stay level and in control of himself. So he would also need to be seen by a Psychiatrist. He'll be mad at you for all this "checking", so don't let that throw you. If it isn't dealt with now, how will he be at 14, 16, 18?? You have a tough road ahead of you. God Bless you and your son as you go through this. I hope it works out, quickly.
My heart does go out to you.

Answer 6

DEAR you want set him up apartment to go to the doctor and do not let him know it just say your are going to hospital to a blood test and have the doctor up him in for a trumpery hold for a 96 hour hold to run some test on him and see what wrongs with him he might need medications to steal him down they will put him the cyclical ward on the tenth floor so you want be able to stay with him the doctor and nurses will take great care of him and do it again darning the summer if his moods change on you it will show asap after he is there he will cry wanting his mommy you may cry but wait until you get outside to show it OK this is what he needs

Answer 7

Call the police. It might scare the **** out of him enough that he'll never do it again. Then, start making some rules and sticking by them. If he even tries to lay a hand on you, get on the phone to the police or whip his ***.

Answer 8

Yes, get to counseling ASAP and get a diagnosis from a doctor as well. This kid needs mental health care or he will end up in jail.

Answer 9

Actually I believe that you can call the police on this. They will give him a good talking to, and will actually stand by while you "spank" him, if he is not too big for that. It is against the law for him to hit you, and it is within your right to discipline him by spanking.

Answer 10

Call Supernanny