he never told me that he was going somewhere with his mom and he knows that I worry like crazy about him when he doesn't come home, but he obviously doesn't care about my feelings so why should care about him anymore. I took him in to help him get on his feet and he just wants to loaf around and do nothing. I asked him to clean the room and he copped an attitude with me. I did him a huge favor by taking him in but he shows no appreciation for me, i even tolf him that I would foot the bills for a while. Am I too nice?
2007-01-07 16:48:48 · 16 answers · asked by Honey83 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I called his mom and he was with her but I left a message with her 4 him and I still didn't get a call from him yet. he left Saturday 2:30pm and hasn't called since.
2007-01-07 16:50:40 · update #1
also, when I curse him out he says that I have anger issues. when we were broken up I was pleasant all of the time.
2007-01-07 16:54:34 · update #2
we have been in a relationship for 2 yrs.
2007-01-07 17:03:42 · update #3
you are more then nice....you are stupid....(sorry) but its obvious hes only using you when he needs something...he has no respect for you or your feelings and thats messed up....gone the whole weekend????? c'mon girl...smell the coffee...better yet smell juan valdez......you are in love or lust.....but you can do that with someone thats gonna appreciate you....im sure you deserve better.....and hes out there doing who know what and who....girl find someone that cares....good luck
2007-01-07 16:57:31 · answer #1 · answered by mspain719 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If a man living with me were to do this to me, it had better be because he is in critical condtion in the hospital or he is dead. I would never put up with this. This guy is freeloading off of you, baby. You are being way too nice. It is time for him to go. Maybe he will give you a blessing in disguise and not ever come home. I don't mean to sound harsh, but nobody should be treated the way he is treating you. Let him go and find someone who wants to take care of you, or at least someone who is willing to help pay bills and keep house.
2007-01-07 16:55:57 · answer #2 · answered by rosey 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are too nice and that he is taking advantage of you. Are you guys in somekind of relationship that you worry so much? Unless you are than I guess you have the right to know even if he going away with his mom....Are you sure he was with his mom???? And if you are not really in a relationship, I guess he doesn't think he needed to tell you. Sometimes just because we help people doesn't mean they owe us everthing. Yes it would have been nice for him to inform you, it's called respect. If you helped him, it is out of your will.....hey you offered...so it's taken. Not all people take their initiative..... Talk to him and let him know what you expect, he may not know what he did was wrong. If he doesn't respect your expectations and wants to still loaf around on your account.....don't mean to be mean......afterall I don't really know what your relationship is all about but.......throw him out!
2007-01-07 17:00:28 · answer #3 · answered by Cream 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Show him the door now! He's been doing something he should not have, and he is not showing respect for you either considering you are helping him. You are too nice, and like me so many times girl, you are being taken advantage of. The next thing that will happen is he will tell you that he does not feel he has to let you know evey detail of his life, and that you are smothering him. He will turn everything around on you and you will feel bad like you have done something wrong, when he is the one who is wrong. Please get rid of this guy before your hurting.
2007-01-07 16:54:29 · answer #4 · answered by christinedaae 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are letting him walk all over you. If he loved you he'd never do that to you. If I were you I;d talk to his mom and ask how thier weekend was. Good chance he wasnt with her the whole time. People only forget to mention things-like oh I am gonna be gone all weekend-when they are doing something wrong and dont wanna draw attention to it before they get a chance to do it.
2007-01-07 16:51:32 · answer #5 · answered by surfer_grl_ca 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you're too nice. You don't say that he's your boyfriend so I'm guessing he's a friend you took pity on and not a very good one at that. It's obvious he's taking advantage of you, so give him a deadline and tell him he needs to move out. You don't need to put up with his ungratefulness!
2007-01-07 16:55:20 · answer #6 · answered by Sara 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are nice but it is not your fault he chose to take advantage of the situation. If it is a problem then it is time for him to go. Let the man pay his own bills!!! You don't wanna end up being used.
2007-01-07 16:52:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its obvious he is user, and when he is done being able to use you, he will go on to the next girl, and when he is done being able to use her, the next one, and so on. Basically, he wants to live off everyone else, and not have any responsibilities...
Kick him to the curb as fast as you can, otherwise you are helping to positively reinforce his loser mentality...
2007-01-07 16:51:11 · answer #8 · answered by matter2003 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would kick his a** out of my home and hope to never see him again. Yes, you're too nice and he's using you.
2007-01-07 16:52:24 · answer #9 · answered by Just me 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are a doormat. Pull the rug from up under him.
2007-01-07 16:50:13 · answer #10 · answered by mypassions4life 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋