I was by myself. I gave her over $500 a month to stay in her tiniest room in her trailer. I did all of the housework and cooking and caregiver to her 3 children while she worked. Now years later she is still mad. She feels I owe her about $3,000. I don't feel I owe her anything.
How can I convince her?
2007-01-07 16:47:11 · 7 answers · asked by debbie2243 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
tell her your sorry she feels that way ,but your debt to her was paid in full while you were there,and if she doesn't stop trying to be greedy you'll divorce her to
2007-01-07 16:52:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why does she say you owe her that money? In the 9 months you lived there you gave her $4500, cooked, cleaned and childcare? You should write down an itemized list that would include:
Rent
$500 per month for 9 months = $4500
$ cleaning (check and see what a service would have cost then
$ cooking - well, you might just give her this one as a freebie
$ childcare - what would she have had to pay
Add anything else in that you feel is just but not petty.
If this doesn't work, then you'll just have to live with her being mad. It is her loss (and probably yours if you don't get to see her and the kids). Hope this can be worked out. Good luck.
2007-01-08 01:12:51 · answer #2 · answered by Santa's Elf 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A deal is a deal. Did you and your sister have something in writing to close the deal? If not, then you owe her nothing. Or, you can write her a letter asking her for a copy of the written document that contains the $3,000.00 you owe her. If she can produce it, then come up with a payment plan, like $20.00 a month until the debt is paid. Money should not be the cause of a sister rivalry because it is not worth it.
2007-01-08 00:55:54 · answer #3 · answered by maestra 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure you can convince her. Have the two of you tried to discuss this rationally without her getting angry? How did she come up with the $3,000 figure? Maybe she is really angry about the fact that she doesn't have a nanny, housekeeper and cook who paid her!!
2007-01-08 00:55:25 · answer #4 · answered by Oenophile... (Lynn) 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok so she thinks you owe her about $3.000, And how much does she owe you for all you did for her, probably a lot more, so tell her that when she pays you aproximately $1.000 a month for the 9 months, then you will be able to pay her the #3.000. I am glad she is not my sister. good luck to you
2007-01-08 03:12:06 · answer #5 · answered by spuds_suds 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Write down all the checks and finace that you gave her and telll her that you do not owe her anything You took care of everthing tell her she should give you credit that you did that for your sister. Good luck
2007-01-08 00:50:13 · answer #6 · answered by j13 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You dont need to. her head is set. Let it go. if she wont drop it explain you did all the childcare, all the work etc. Maybe she will come around but she prob wont and you'll never agree.
2007-01-08 00:49:15 · answer #7 · answered by surfer_grl_ca 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋