how many times a week parents with a 2 year old have sex?

Question

we just cant make love bcs of our daughter.we cant make it during the day bcs we have to keep our eye on her and she is addicted to her father,we cant in the morning bcs she climbes on her father,we cant do it in the evening bcs she will just wake up.we are not loud or things like this-its like she feels and wakes up.this is happening for like a month.is there someone that happened the same?plsss help

Answer 1

I have 5 children and if you let this continue it will hurt your marriage. I know its hard but you have to make time for it. What i do with my younger children is I put him in the playpen with plenty of neat toys that i have put up that he don't get to play with but on these occassions that makes them new to him everytime he gets to play with them we go to the nearest room so that we can still listen for him and if he gets mad that were not in there with him it won't hurt him to cry for a few minutes. Your worst mistake is giving in to every whine. buy a few toys for him/her and only give them to him when you need to have a time out with you hubby. Then simply get her attention focused on somthing else and and put them away till your ready to use them again... Good luck

Answer 2

Aren't kids great? They sure can mess up a great marriage, huh?

Just be patient. Here are some thoughts:

1) Sex will never be the same for you and your spouse as long as there are children at home. But, it's not over for the duration.
2) When kids are babies, you can have sex just about anytime that they are asleep, which is often.
3) After they start getting around on their own, you have to lay some rules down. The first rule is mom and dad have privacy when the door is closed. You ALWAYS knock when a door is closed and WAIT for someone on the other side to open it. As a parent, you teach this to the child by honoring their closed doors - to their bedroom, bathroom, playhouse, whatever, as well. That's how they learn. Exceptions are when there is an illness or emergency of some kind. Run some "drills" so that the child understands when to think for him/herself.
4) If you don't do this NOW, you will forever be a slave to your children. They need to understand that you and your spouse have privacy rules and that they need to be honored just as you honor the rules of privacy of the child.
5) Be consistent. Always honor you child's privacy, except in emergencies. If you forget, apologize and make amends.
6) Keep kids over two out of your bed as a general rule. That's the space for you and your husband. And, stay out of your children's bed as a general rule. That's their space. Of course, there are exceptions - this doesn't have to be rigid.
7) When your two year old gets a little older, make sure to set aside some time when the child is away from home at a friend's house. Or, plan some special time away and have a relative or mature baby sitter spend the weekend. Spousal intimacy is very important - don't diminish its importance with the idea that "we have kids now."

You are a parent now and are responsible for another life. That takes up a lot of your time. But, you have a life apart from your child. Get them to learn that early to avoid "offspring domination" in the future.

Answer 3

It sounds like you are projecting this problem onto the baby as if she knows you want to make love and she wants to stop it because she is jealous of her father. Whoah!! Take it easy!!
It's hard enough to be a kid and she's still in diapers. You both need to learn why she isn't sleeping more because most couples manage to get it together the same 3 or 4 times a week with a 6 month old. But watch that "projection" you have already going there on Daddy's little girl. The baby is innocent and she doesn't sense your love making but she may sense your tension or resentment.

Answer 4

wow I was amazed at some of these answers.

I have a 2 - nearly 3 year old - and my hubby is lucky if he gets it once a week... that's not because of Tarquin interrupting (although that is sometimes the case) but because i'm just too damn tired most of the time.
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Are you and your hubby discussing this with each other? Having a two year old is hard work, and I know that sometimes by the time they're asleep you're too damn tired to make the effort.

By the way, it's OK for a 2 year old to cry.... if she wakes up in the night and starts crying, let her go for a little while. It will not hurt her. Most of the time they will get themselves back off to sleep.

Answer 5

I feel your pain! Seems like anytime we get a chance she wakes up and knocks and the door and says "I need some juice" or "What are you doing?" It's soooo frustrating especially since my husband is in the military and gone a whole lot so we don't get alot of opportunity anyway. So if we're lucky we can maybe twice a week and never in the morning b/c at 5 sharp she's in our room wanting breakfast or he's left for work.

Answer 6

Just wait until the baby is asleep.Two or three times a week is pretty normal for a young couple like you.Is the crib in your bedroom? Can you put her in her own room?

Answer 7

what abt after she sleeps and if she is a light sleeper, find another spot in the house to do it?

Answer 8

does she sleep at the same room with u?if yes then get her a room

Answer 9

Every night when she's fast asleep.

Answer 10

That is why it's called the "terrible two's."